@ moms, i need your help

[jennlin]

bjl has learned to fake-cry in order to get us to pay 100% attention to her. what can we do?

[kwpnjumper55]

How old is she?

[jennlin]

9 mos.

[tacocat]

We were hanging out with my bro and SIL last night and talking about this. They said they ignore it, they are able to tell the fake cry vs. real crying most of the time.

[kwpnjumper55]

Ignore it, it will get worse if you react

[jennlin]

omg..but she's so loud!!! and watches you in between wails to make sure you're looking at her. argh....

[tacocat]

Nov 23, 2012 16:48:42 GMT -5 jennlin said:

omg..but she's so loud!!! and watches you in between wails to make sure you're looking at her. argh....

My parents also said that if we acted like this they would put us in our rooms alone, and then go downstairs. Eventually we calmed down and we both turned out ok. I know I am not a parent though!

[joenali]

Ignore.

[picksthemusic]

I mostly ignore it. She's testing you, and it's about getting your undivided attention. M does this sometimes (especially if I put her on the floor to play and I walk away to do something), and she has the tears and everything. But I know she's fine, she's just upset that I'm not sitting there playing with her.

One thing we do is to put her in her high chair and bring her wherever we are (like the kitchen) so she can be near us and in the action (whether we're cooking or doing dishes) and still feel like we're with her.

It really just means you're a great mom and that you have given her the precedent of you being there a lot. I'd be more worried if she didn't cry for you to be near her.

[jennlin]

picks.

1) awww...stop....you flatter me.

2) the situation you describe is exactly exactly what's going on. i put her down to see if she'll play on her own while i cook/clean (usually in the kitchen), but we have a babygate up to prevent her from getting to us in the kitchen..and she screams sand screams until we get her.

i did a little bit of ignoring earlier, and she's napping now, but when she does it again, i will try putting her in her high chair to see if that'll get her to stop. i wear her sometimes, but it also gets very tiring. she's heavy now!

[karebear219]

He tell Hailey stop it your fine and then she stops. She knows she's getting no where with us.

[picksthemusic]

Nov 23, 2012 18:34:37 GMT -5 jennlin said:

picks.

1) awww...stop....you flatter me.

2) the situation you describe is exactly exactly what's going on. i put her down to see if she'll play on her own while i cook/clean (usually in the kitchen), but we have a babygate up to prevent her from getting to us in the kitchen..and she screams sand screams until we get her.

i did a little bit of ignoring earlier, and she's napping now, but when she does it again, i will try putting her in her high chair to see if that'll get her to stop. i wear her sometimes, but it also gets very tiring. she's heavy now!

The highchair thing usually keeps her happy. We just put out some puffs or cheese cubes to keep her hands busy and she's usually really content with this... until she's not. LOL

[Deleted]

Ditto to the Ignore, and picks had some great advice!

[sarack]

i'd ignore too. i'm not a mom though but i feel like that's what friends would do.

also, you do wear her a lot. :0) i noticed that in pics. i wanted to see that dress you wore to that wedding and i couldn't tell. looked hot though.

[jennlin]

yes, we do wear her a lot. we do a lot of the "attachment parenting" principles, which sounds worse than it is....we bedshare and nurse, and wearing her is just natural, too. we generally only wear her when we're out and about though, and only if she's being *really* bad, will we wear her in the house.....but i don't know if you're saying wearing her is a bad thing or a good thing?

it's the same dress you posted a while ago from nordstrom, and i said i bought the *exact* same one from cache...lace back/top and side ruching.