Boo MIL

[meltoine]

We told MIL in September that we weren't coming for Christmas because DH only has a couple of days off and I'm MOH in a wedding the first weekend of January and that's a lot of plane tickets to buy.

She got all upset because they just added a huge addition to their weekend house and want to have the whole family there for a Christmas party to show it off, and of course to show off DS. She offered to get the plane tickets. We agreed.

Then last week while she's here for thanksgiving, she tells H that she thinks it will be too much traveling for me now that I'm PG and we shouldn't come. Andplusalso the tickets are expensive. Andplusalsoagain, the addition isn't finished so no party at which to show off the grandkid. Great, thanks. I've already told my family that we'll be in town and I was really looking forward to telling my family about the PG in person, just like they got to find out in person. And it's my moms first Christmas without her mom and she's having a hard time with it and was looking forward to having DS around to distract her.

Obviously I know MIL doesn't owe us plane tickets, but I wish she wouldn't beg us to come, offer, then rescind under false pretenses after we already made plans.

[prettyinpink]

Oh Mel. I'm sorry. That stinks, she begged and pleaded for you to come so she should at least keep up her end of the deal.

[meltoine]

Thanks. I'm just pouty. And dreading telling my mom.

[baconlettucetomato]

Well that blows. We had a similar situation going home to see my mom for Thanksgiving. It dang near broke her heart we weren't going to make it. We ended up being able to swing some time off work this week. It's not a holiday but we're still making it home. *hugs*

[kcd0531]

That stinks. :::HUGS::: I'd pout too.

[iluvmytxrgr]

Boo. I'm sorry

[WOT?*]

Pouting would be a pretty mild description of my feelings on the subject. Don't promise if you're not going to deliver. Sorry plans are falling through, through no fault of your own.

[livinitup]

Tell her that you want to come anyway and that you'll kick in a little for the tickets. That will cover 2 of her objections. Maybe if she knew you really wanted it, the price wouldn't seem so bad. Maybe she thinks - 'Heck, I had to beg them, maybe they'd rather come another time. Why am I forcing this when prices are sky high and the addition isn't ready? ... Might as well do it in a few months when they want to travel."

[kmmssg]

Any chance your mom could fly out to you?

[meltoine]

Dec 1, 2012 16:26:05 GMT -5 kmmssg said:

Any chance your mom could fly out to you?

She's thinking about it. She's also going to the Carribean with friends of hers in January and coming here in July for the baby's birth. It's complicated by the fact that her hospital is due for an inspection that can happen anytime between now and July, and she's responsible for overseeing it so she can't take much time off because the inspection team can show up at any time. But it's possible.

[moolarkey]

Next time MIL offers this I'd have to think long and hard about accepting because she might change her mind again -- and I think I'd find away to let her know that's why you're not sure you can accept the offer (if she offers again).

[meltoine]

She offers all the time. FIL takes 6-7 flights a week for work and so has a bajillion frequent flier miles. They could never pay for another flight as long as live if they chose. But they don't every go anywhere (except here to see us) so they always offer to get us tickets to come there. That's partly why it's so strange that she rescinded. I'm sure it will use a lot of their miles to get all three of us there at holiday time, but they have maxed out the number of miles they're allowed to accumulate on two different airlines and are platinum status on a third!