Post by formerlyak on Nov 28, 2012 13:56:49 GMT -5
Tacky. I am good with diaper showers (where you are asked to bring diapers or wipes instead of a gift) or requesting that guests bring a signed book for the baby's library instead of a card, but requesting money to help with the shower costs? No. I live in a HCOL area, and have hosted showers that I have been told were a lot of fun and it really wasn't that expensive to do. There's no reason to host a shower you can't afford.
Um, that's not okay. I'm usually pretty laid back when it comes to some "BUT IT'S ETIQUETTE!!1!" type stuff, but there is a line. And this is way, way over it.
Post by changedname on Nov 28, 2012 14:05:09 GMT -5
Tacky. I just hope the MTB has no idea about this. I would be beyond mortified. What is the World coming to?
My DH was just invited on FB to a fundraiser (??) for a groom to be. We are not invited to the wedding and DH was not invited to the batchelor party (photos were all over FB). I told him not to even feel bad about rsvping no.
Post by Norticprincess on Nov 28, 2012 14:12:23 GMT -5
A social one, id send my regrests.
The only times I've paid for my attendance at a shower, were ones at work. We took the mom to be out to lunch and everyone just covered their own meal(standard at work when we went out unless the boss said he was paying around the holidays) and part of MTB's. we had group gifts off the MTB's registry. The one dad to be felt embarrassed so we skipped the lunch part and just gave him a gift card to where his wife was registered. These also excuses to get out of the lab for part of the afternoon.
Why do these people insist on throwing/hosting a party they can't afford? It's way more embarrassing to charge people for a shower than not have one at all. Is this the new entitlement--fancy party & a bunch of gifts? I do not get it.
Tacky. I am good with diaper showers (where you are asked to bring diapers or wipes instead of a gift) or requesting that guests bring a signed book for the baby's library instead of a card, but requesting money to help with the shower costs? No. I live in a HCOL area, and have hosted showers that I have been told were a lot of fun and it really wasn't that expensive to do. There's no reason to host a shower you can't afford.
Standing ovation to this. Don't host if you can't afford to do it properly. Bring a themed gift (book, diapers etc) ok, bring money, bring food/or pay for your own and bring a gift, um no.
A cover charge for a party is not ok unless they hand you a red cup and have a keg inside.
Well, what if the shower does? lol
I guess I've never been to a shower where this would make sense. I mean, cookies, a tray of sandwiches, paper and shit for bad shower games... What is expensive, here?
Seriously, I've been to lots of showers, HCOL, LCOL, surprise showers, etc. What costs so damn much? I mean, I guess if it's catered in a restaurant or something, but if you can't afford it, host it somewhere else.
Granted, I've always thought the primary purpose of a shower is to gift the new parents, not go to an awesome party. I'd rather throw an extra twenty bucks into the gift and have some homemade cookies. Win/Win... Lol.
I've been to lots of showers, some very basic and some VERY Fancy in HCOL areas, and never have I been asked to pay. I've been asked to bring a book, which I'm perfectly fine with.
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Yea... wth. If I were this MTB, I would be completely mortified. There is no way she is not going to find out about this if she doesn't already know about it.
Depending on how well I knew the MTB, I would be calling her ASAP.