MM or Tacky Faux Pas?

[ECB]

This is unbelivabely tacky and I can only hope they get enough "no" responses to realize this.

[ECB]

Nov 28, 2012 13:53:56 GMT -5 Velvetshady said:

Don't RSVP. IF they reach out to you to ask if you are coming or not, tell them there is a $5 fee for a response.

LOL!

[h]

Totally inappropriate. It does not matter where the shower is being held, who is hosting, how much delicious food and alcohol is provided, etc.--you just can't do this. Throw a party you can afford or don't throw one.

[agnes]

This is ridiculous. I can't believe someone actually did this.

[wanderlustfoodie]

I think this is incredibly bizarre/unusual/tacky. Coincidentally, given current MM memorable moments thread, it reminds me of a thread from a month or so ago about the woman who wanted affirmation that she could throw her husband a surprise party and make the guests pay for their own food.

[amberatkins]

Completely tacky. It's easy enough to throw a shower for someone without spending $20 per person, let alone charging the guests $20. Also, I don't pay money to go to crappy boring parties where people say "Cuuuute!!!!" 80 bajillion times and I have to play baby related games. Seriously.

[pugz]

I've been to a few showers like this at restaurants and it doesn't bother me. Typically it a brunch shower, we have a private room, and it's $15 for the brunch buffet + whatever you want to spend on drinks. Hostess provides cake/desserts.

[soozy87]

Lame! I wouldn't go.

[genet313]

Nov 28, 2012 15:16:58 GMT -5 limey said:

Tacky. I'm assuming the MTB doesn't know?

I'd decline and give her a gift later.

Having been to the MTB's wedding (which was reeally cheaply done and the "worst" wedding I've been too), I think she knows.

[genet313]

Nov 28, 2012 15:46:18 GMT -5 lindyanne said:

I want to know - are they hosting at a restaurant or at a home?

It's at a bar/restaurant. Home may not be feasible, given that it's apartments, but still...I don't care where it is, I just find this so tacky.

[cricketwife]

Nov 28, 2012 13:53:56 GMT -5 Velvetshady said:

Tacky.

Don't RSVP. IF they reach out to you to ask if you are coming or not, tell them there is a $5 fee for a response.

:Y:

[cjeanette]

Nov 28, 2012 16:57:25 GMT -5 genet313 said:

Nov 28, 2012 15:46:18 GMT -5 lindyanne said:

I want to know - are they hosting at a restaurant or at a home?

It's at a bar/restaurant. Home may not be feasible, given that it's apartments, but still...I don't care where it is, I just find this so tacky.

I have attended parties in apts. heck, my apt had a larger living room than my house does.

[jene]

Tacky

[80sjunkie]

Sadly this would happen in my home town. Even as a teenager I thought it was pretty awful.

[hocus]

Its tacky, but I feel like it is more common. My very good friend "hosted" a no host shower. I was really irritated by it because she didn't note the extra cost in the invite and I think she should have. Better to be tacky and honest than suprise people at the end.

[Doggy Mommy]

Beyond tacky! I think you should throw the shower that you can afford to throw. If that means it's cake and ice cream in someone's back yard, that's just fine. It's a lot better than charging people!

[cherry1111]

My SlL offered to throw me a shower...at a restaurant where she would expect everyone to buy their own lunch. I politely declined. I'm so glad she told me her idea before I told her I would love for her to throw me a shower. I would have felt horrible if the guests had gotten that invite.

[bronxgirl]

Beyond tacky- just plain rude.

[heygrey]

I would decline with a "no thanks! I guess I'd rather spend an extra $20 on the gift!"

Or something. I'd try to be sort of lighthearted, but I wouldn't let it go with saying something. Some people just don't realize how rude they are.

[Deleted]

Tacky! I would not attend.

[genet313]

Nov 28, 2012 17:08:30 GMT -5 80sjunkie said:

Sadly this would happen in my home town. Even as a teenager I thought it was pretty awful.

Do you mind if I ask where that is?

[GailGoldie]

back in my early 20s when we were right out of college? It wouldn't bother me... b/c none of us could afford to throw a big party for someone... but now, as a real adult- tacky.