I'M SO MAD AT H'S FRIEND!!!!!!!! vent. long.

[jennlin]

this guy, R, is a "tough guy".. he's very into living the kid-free/single life. likes to come and go as he pleases, stay out late, likes things HIS way or he won't participate at all, etc.

h has been friends with R since highschool (so over 12 years?). R is also the closest cousin of one of my bff's, M.

for the last few years, he's been on and off with this one girl. and when things are on, he's normal. when things are bad, he becomes non-existent, depression, disappears for months at a time, won't return phone calls. (btw, this girl is bad news...the whole time they were "on", she was also engaged to this one guy G).

the last time i saw R, was at my birthday party in 2011 (august), when we announced my pregnancy. he said "i'm gonna need a drink" and walked out of the house, and that was the last time i saw him. so needless to say, i've been pissed at him since then.

during this time, things were bad with the girl, so we never saw him (or at least that's what we're assuming, since no one else really hung out with him either, other than M).

R emailed h last week and asked us to go on a double date. he said "the keg, or anthony's". since these are slightly nicer restaurants..we figured there was something special..we didn't really know the occasion, but we were taken back...we thought things were probably finally stable between him and that one chick, and they wanted to start associating themselves with the world again...

they sched dinner for 7pm..and we went on our merry way. today, he texted h and said he was getting off work early, and if 6pm would work..we said yes.

at 5:35, R called h to cancel. no explanation, it was a 6 second phone call. WTF.

so now we have no dinner, hungry, and i really really wanted to eat steak tonight (we chose the keg). h tries to make me feel better by saying we'll go anyway, but i really didn't want to spend the money on going out to a steakhouse for no reason...

h and i started talking about other options..and just when we said "fine, we'll go anyways", bjl randomly fell asleep. she doesn't ever nap at this time. ever. she just decided to lay down and fall asleep on her own. so we're not going out. no steak for me.

i'm now drinking wine while h picks up thai food.

:drink: :drink: :drink: for listening.

[Deleted]

WOW. Dude. I don't care how long you've been friends with someone, no one should get to treat you that way. I say if he ever invites again, turn him down. He is NOT worth any more time or energy. At least you have some wine and hopefully a good long time before bjl needs to drink so you can have a bit more!

[jennlin]

Nov 28, 2012 21:23:02 GMT -5 @ksta said:

WOW. Dude. I don't care how long you've been friends with someone, no one should get to treat you that way.

exactly. i told h i'm not rescheduling with him. i was so mad at him for saying he "needed a drink" because we were pregnant that i had already given up on him. in the past, even when things were bad with the girl, we *tried* to make him feel better...but i gave up after that. so after 1.5 years of not seeing/hearing from him, we thought he might've "turned a new leaf" and was getting straight...he might actually have gotten a real girlfriend who wasn't technically engaged to be married to someone else......ugh.

[llh0211]

Nov 28, 2012 21:23:02 GMT -5 @ksta said:

WOW. Dude. I don't care how long you've been friends with someone, no one should get to treat you that way. I say if he ever invites again, turn him down. He is NOT worth any more time or energy. At least you have some wine and hopefully a good long time before bjl needs to drink so you can have a bit more!

This. How rude!!

[dawnyp]

Totally rude and inconsiderate. I would be pissed.

[Deleted]

Nov 28, 2012 21:23:02 GMT -5 @ksta said:

WOW. Dude. I don't care how long you've been friends with someone, no one should get to treat you that way. I say if he ever invites again, turn him down. He is NOT worth any more time or energy. At least you have some wine and hopefully a good long time before bjl needs to drink so you can have a bit more!

Exactly.

I would be pissed.

[fiddles]

Nov 28, 2012 22:59:24 GMT -5 @legalbritt said:

Wtf!!? Asshole. That is so inconsiderate

Couldn't say it better.

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[picksthemusic]

Nov 28, 2012 21:23:02 GMT -5 @ksta said:

WOW. Dude. I don't care how long you've been friends with someone, no one should get to treat you that way. I say if he ever invites again, turn him down. He is NOT worth any more time or energy. At least you have some wine and hopefully a good long time before bjl needs to drink so you can have a bit more!

This.