Therapist question

[SKP82]

If you're comfortable with her and can speak freely, THAT is what matters.

[silva]

I'm struggling with mine.

Though talking with him helped me with a few things, the process is really uncomfortable. I feel like I talk and talk and talk and he never really responds unless he has to. Like there are several occasions where there is this LONG awkward silence where I'm waiting for him to respond and he doesn't and then he finally does.

But again. The original thing I went for i feel better about so i guess it works.

I guess I was looking for more challenging questions. I don't know.

is that normal?

[SKP82]

Nov 29, 2012 23:48:13 GMT -5 silva said:

I'm struggling with mine.

Though talking with him helped me with a few things, the process is really uncomfortable. I feel like I talk and talk and talk and he never really responds unless he has to. Like there are several occasions where there is this LONG awkward silence where I'm waiting for him to respond and he doesn't and then he finally does.

But again. The original thing I went for i feel better about so i guess it works.

I guess I was looking for more challenging questions. I don't know.

is that normal?

My sessions are kind of like this, too. I get the feeling that she doesn't want to say anything if she's not sure whether or not I've completed my thought or what I wanted to say. So, there will be a few moments of silence before she makes a statement or observation.

There aren't a lot of "challenging" questions, more so questions that help me see something differently or encourage me to take a thought/feeling a little further/deeper.

[silva]

I don't want validation. Just enough talk where I don't feel like I'm word vomiting. I guess I need more response to things I do say that he picks up on.

Like I finally talked about our struggles to get pregnant again. I went through everything and all that was said was...."those are common feelings and it may be good to check in with your H from time to time to see how he feels."

I guess I need to realize that therapy doesn't provide you direct guidance or answers, it's better for me to come up with it myself by talking and talking and talking....but on some days that's all I want.