Got "called out" for not drinking...

[glitzy07]

We had my work holiday party on Saturday at my boss' house, and I had told my husband that it would be very obvious if I didn't drink at this particular event.

I had water at first and immediately got "called out" by someone who asked if I was ok and why wasn't I drinking wine like everyone else? So I eventually grabbed a small glass of red wine, had about two sips of it, and ended up dumping it down the sink when I went to the bathroom to make it look like I drank it.

Apparently after I left, someone else made a comment to my work BFF about me not drinking. She told them it was fine and not to worry about it. I have a feeling when I announce my pregnancy to work, they will have already suspected and won't be at all surprised. Whoops! I guess my past socializing habits at these functions might be helping to give me away.

Anybody else get caught before they were ready to share with work?

I might have to work my way around a happy hour this month with my good co-worker/friends, or end up just spilling the beans. We have a 10W appointment just before Christmas and were planning to tell family at Christmas if we heard a heartbeat and work sometime after that.

[arch01]

My go to was saying I had to drive or had to be up early the next morning.

I got caught at 6w when I was outside and talking to HR about benefits-a CW came out a door that isn't usually used by my office and he overheard. He kept quiet though until I gave the OK to say something.

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I was just saying in a different thread how I pretended to drink and got caught twice but it wasn't with work people. I think saying you're not drinking because you're trying to lose weight is always a good one. Even if they know you're lying a good friend won't call you on it.

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I have had to share with a lot of people earlier than planned this pregnancy because I have been so sick. I was about 10 weeks at a friend's birthday party and had to leave the room 3 times in 10 minutes to vomit. Guess how quickly the entire room figured me out??

It sucks to have to share before you want to, but I've found that people have been supportive and kind about it and have kept my secret. I'm fortunate that I have not had a loss but I do feel confident that if I had, everyone who found out earlier than I intended would have been very kind about it.

[glitzy07]

Dec 3, 2012 10:20:14 GMT -5 @carmensandiego said:

I have had to share with a lot of people earlier than planned this pregnancy because I have been so sick. I was about 10 weeks at a friend's birthday party and had to leave the room 3 times in 10 minutes to vomit. Guess how quickly the entire room figured me out??

It sucks to have to share before you want to, but I've found that people have been supportive and kind about it and have kept my secret. I'm fortunate that I have not had a loss but I do feel confident that if I had, everyone who found out earlier than I intended would have been very kind about it.

I've been lucky so far that I haven't had any illness so I haven't had to explain any of that away. And in most situations, it wouldn't be weird if I didn't drink anyway, but things like this work holiday party and an upcoming happy hour with co-workers might force me to share with a few people sooner than I planned.

It's not a huge deal to me, and I trust the few people to keep my secret, but I agree that it's a bummer to not be able to keep it in as long as I wanted. We're not even telling family until 11 weeks at Christmas, but I'll probably end up telling three of my co-workers next week.

[rickandtricia]

I was on a business trip with my boss and coworkers when I was 7w. One night after work, my boss REALLY wanted to have some drinks with us at the hotel bar. He even offered to pay. I guess my "No, thanks, I don't really want anything" gave myself away. He side eyes me and says "Am I going to be a man down in 6 to 9 months?" At the time, I was really flustered and really upset that he found out already (even though I did not confirm or deny) but it turned out to not be a big deal.

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I *think* I got away with faking the drink my coworker bought me last week. DH was there and got the same thing, and we swapped glasses a few times when I think no one was paying attention.

It's a really hard time of year to not drink. Too many events in too many social circles; we'll likely just tell family at Christmas rather than try to be clever. I'm really not ready to tell work, though. I would expect my family to support me if something goes wrong, but I would prefer that people at work didn't know. I'm not close to anyone at work at the moment.

Biggest lost drinking opportunity: my old staff association is disbanding and will be having a party in January to spend all our money. I'll probably fess up then, as it will be totally obvious anyway when I turn down free drinks.

[froggy76]

I got called out privately by my old boss at her farewell happy hour. I told her, but not anyone else, even though I know others suspected it. I have no problem lying to people or letting them assume what they want. However, IME from having a m/c, it is very hard to tell people that you lost a baby and I will always be careful who I tell early on. People mean well, but 99.9% of people say the wrong thing and it can be very hurtful.

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I didn't tell work until 14w, and had to fake it at two happy hours. I got there early and asked the bartender for coke in a highball glass that I told my CWs was my standard jack & coke.

[Redpoppy]

The first person to find out I was pregnant other than DH was the bartender at the bar we went to every Friday. She called me out immediately. We just laughed and told her to keep it quiet when our friends showed up.

[Becca]

Dec 3, 2012 16:25:24 GMT -5 @supergreen said:

I didn't tell work until 14w, and had to fake it at two happy hours. I got there early and asked the bartender for coke in a highball glass that I told my CWs was my standard jack & coke.

I do this at work events. Order a kiddie cocktail or coke, and request it go in whatever kind of glass they are serving mixed drinks in. Works well, and I have never had to ask a bartender twice - after my first order, they always remember. Last time the girl even smiled at me and said, "you know, there are three other girls her tonight doing the same thing" - I had fun trying to secretly figure out who else was pg

[glitzy07]

Dec 4, 2012 7:27:02 GMT -5 Becca said:

Dec 3, 2012 16:25:24 GMT -5 @supergreen said:

I didn't tell work until 14w, and had to fake it at two happy hours. I got there early and asked the bartender for coke in a highball glass that I told my CWs was my standard jack & coke.

I do this at work events. Order a kiddie cocktail or coke, and request it go in whatever kind of glass they are serving mixed drinks in. Works well, and I have never had to ask a bartender twice - after my first order, they always remember. Last time the girl even smiled at me and said, "you know, there are three other girls her tonight doing the same thing" - I had fun trying to secretly figure out who else was pg

Haha, that's so awesome.

[dr.girlfriend]

Dec 3, 2012 9:00:45 GMT -5 glitzy07 said:

Anybody else get caught before they were ready to share with work?

In the 8 years I've been at this job, the only two times my boss has asked me to assist with a procedure with radiation were the two times I was pregnant and hadn't told yet. I swear he wasn't doing it to smoke me out, it was just an odd coincidence, but both times I had to 'fess up way before I had planned.