For me sex and a loving relationship are linked and always have been. Alcohol and sex is a dangerous combination for the young and often results in unsafe practices and teen/unwanted pregnancy. I am not the kind of person who could/can handle casual sex, I want more than that. I am confident enough in myself and value myself enough to wait til circumstances are right. It also avoids many pitfalls and problems with 1 nighters, FWB and other casual arrangements.
I've become more conservative the older I've become. I slept around a lot at different points in my past and even though at the time I thought it was empowering, I was just fooling myself. I have a mother that got pregnant at 18 with me, married my father and was miserable for 20 years. She never talked to me about anything.
I lost my virginity at 17 with a boyfriend that later turned out to be gay. I slept with a few other guys before college, and then was in a relationship for freshman-sophomore years. After that ended, I had what I thought was "fun" for the next two years but really just left me empty. Even when I was telling myself I was being strong etc, really, I wanted a relationship and was being used. And underneath it all, I knew that. Meaningly sex is just that, meaningless. I think I'd rather just have a good vibrator and a good friend if I'm ever in the same situation on the future.
After graduating, I met my exFI, but after that ended a few years later, I was in my mid twenties and had several casual relationships. Not nearly as fun as you would think. At one point, I got in touch with an old college fling that I always wanted more from. Surprisingly, I met my husband through him, who I slept with on the first date. Amazingly, it all worked out and I thank God every day. All I've ever wanted was to be respected and loved and I have that x1000000 with DH.
So looking back, I don't want what I had for my daughter and I certainly wish I had valued myself more. If I'm ever single again, I won't be sleeping around. It's not worth the emotional carnage.
Another twist is that growing up, my family wasn't religious at all. But in my adult life, I've come to embrace my faith and although I don't completely agree with the church's teaching on everything, that whole your body is a temple and a gift from God thing probably would have done someone like myself a world of good in my younger days. I guess I really need to balance it all with my kids because I'd hate for them to blame their faith for guilting them out of living, but man, sometimes I think the church may have it's heart in the right place by trying to help us avoid some needless suffering.