Anyone else NOT announcing on Facebook?

[ladystardust]

I'm pretty sure I'm not going to be making any pregnancy announcement on Facebook this time around. My cousin did this recently. I had no clue they were expecting until I saw a photo of the baby. It was quite surprising but the more I think about it, the more I like the idea.

I won't yell at people if they send a comment or something about it. I just won't initiate anything about the pregnancy and there won't be any kind of "grand announcement" status updates from me. DH would wait until the kid is 2 to say anything, so he doesn't mind keeping quiet either.

Would you be annoyed if you didn't know an acquaintance/not-too-close friend was expecting and you didn't know until the kid was born? My closest friends know, and I am going to be sending Christmas cards announcing to my aunts, uncles, and grandparents. So my cousins wouldn't find out directly, only through their parents or if I happen to talk to them outside Facebook (and I would assume they'd be invited to any baby shower I may have, so they would know then).

Anyone else going to keep your pregnancy quiet on Facebook?

[emisi]

Me! I'm going to announce the birth on April Fools Day, even though I expect he'll be born earlier.

[ladystardust]

Dec 4, 2012 19:56:54 GMT -5 emisi said:

Me! I'm going to announce the birth on April Fools Day, even though I expect he'll be born earlier.

LOL what perfect timing.

[ladystardust]

Dec 4, 2012 20:34:01 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

I'm not saying anything.

And why on earth would someone be annoyed you didn't make an announcement? No one is entitled to know the status of every acquaintance's uterus. If it would annoy you, would you really change your mind over that?

I agree it's pretty unreasonable. But my brother seemed annoyed that he didn't know about our cousin's pregnancy. He's kind of weird though. I'm pretty sure I have people on my Facebook that would at least be put off by not finding out until the baby is born. I wouldn't necessarily call them friends though.

[ladystardust]

Dec 4, 2012 21:27:15 GMT -5 @littlemoxie said:

Dec 4, 2012 20:50:06 GMT -5 ladystardust said:

I agree it's pretty unreasonable. But my brother seemed annoyed that he didn't know about our cousin's pregnancy. He's kind of weird though. I'm pretty sure I have people on my Facebook that would at least be put off by not finding out until the baby is born. I wouldn't necessarily call them friends though.

So their opinions shouldn't factor into your decision making process.

I'm not trying to be snarky, I really just don't get why people think they have a right to be annoyed/upset/offended if they aren't told. I can see immediate family and really close friends getting a bit upset, but anyone beyond that is making it about hem and being asses.

I get what you're saying. I think the only reason I would announce would be if I really wanted to talk about it on Facebook, which I don't think will happen.

I was just curious if others would feel like my brother did. It's hard to judge where his emotional ineptitude is sometimes. If people get annoyed, that's ok. But I do tend to over analyze how my decisions could make people feel (whether they have the right to or not) even though it won't change my decision.

[joolz]

I never said anything last time and don't plan to this time either. I posted a picture a day or so after G was born, primarily because family friends etc were posting congratulations and I thought I should.

There were a few pictures posted but nobody really caught on. I didn't look extra pregnant in them, I guess.

[Deleted]

I've had this happen to me before. I understand if the parents aren't really into Facebook and don't post much. But I always find it REALLY strange when people post ALL THE TIME and neglect to mention something as important as a pregnancy. Like, the ones who post that they are eating a ham sandwich for lunch, but not that they are expecting. I find that really weird, like lunch is somehow a bigger deal to them then their new kiddo. It doesn't offend me, per se, but I find it strange.

[mrssandro]

I don't get the appeal of not announcing via fb.

[rt2008]

I'm sure I will break down and say something on facebook. Even though I want to wait longer than when people "normally" announce (13-14 weeks). Just to be sure everything's ok. But I definitely would not get upset with someone not announcing while pregnant. Especially if it's someone I'm only "friends" with on fb and don't talk to in real life. If it weren't for facebook, I wouldn't know they were pregnant anyway.

[baconlettucetomato]

I did but because people were starting to throw congrats around. I waited until just yesterday.

[mandapanda18]

I'm not up for putting my whole life on the web, we will not put anything, including pg pics on FB. I have threatened the two people other than H that know to stay away as well!

[urbancowgirl]

Dec 4, 2012 19:49:59 GMT -5 ladystardust said:

I won't yell at people if they send a comment or something about it. I just won't initiate anything about the pregnancy and there won't be any kind of "grand announcement" status updates from me. DH would wait until the kid is 2 to say anything, so he doesn't mind keeping quiet either.

This is my plan. DH logs into FB like once a quarter, so he's not going to announce anything either.

[kelle017]

My sister hasn't announced or even said anything. She's 19 weeks.

[wkatie]

I think I'm going to announce when I found out the sex at 20 weeks.

[horseoutside]

I'm not much of a facebooker, but I'll probably throw something up there later in the pregnancy. Definitely nothing before 16 weeks.

[Deleted]

I don't know what I'm going to do yet. But if I would announce it won't be until the second tri. I'm on FB all the time so it would feel weird to me to leave out such a big thing, but at the same time I don't really have any interest in announcing it.

[rosetyler]

I haven't decided. My initial thought is no, as the people I care most about will find out either in person or via a phone call/individual email. But I'm kind of an AW, so I might come up with something. It wouldn't be probably until after our anatomy scan.

I locked down my wall last time I was pg so nothing was leaked out too soon, and just never freed it up again.

[ladystardust]

Glad I'm not alone! Besides just not posting much, my main reason for not saying anything is because I had to untell Facebook with my last pregnancy and that really was not fun.
If I don't announce, I don't have to potentially also unannounce.