xp from ML: need advice please

[sake]

I am having issues with my OBGYN and her office, and I would like advice about how to approach this with her.
Here are the issues that i have been having with the office/doctor.
1.) She double orders tests that my endocrinologist has already done, even though I have the results sent to her office. I feel like she doesn't trust him or something, but that doesn't make sense to me, b/c he is nationally recognized, and has done wonders for my diabetes and blood sugar issues. Because she double orders these tests, it makes me have to go to 2 different labs, multiple times, both of which close before I can get there if I don't leave work early. She has been doing this the whole pregnancy, and if this was the only issue, I wouldn't be upset, but it's not.
2.)She also orders tests, such as an EKG, and I get them done in a timely fashion, and then she misplaces the results that get sent over from the hospital, and it takes multiple times of me asking about the results and her "Realizing" that she doesn't have them, for her to finally find them, and review them herself. For the EKG, it literally took me asking about it at 3 appointments, so 8 weeks of me asking, before she found them and told me everything looked fine. The EKG is not the only test that she has ordered, then not addressed the results of.
3.)My feet are super swollen, and it is a bigger issue than normal, b/c of my diabetes. My endocrinologist is on the brink of ordering bed rest, but i really don't want to do that. My OBGYN had told me last week that she could write a prescription for compression socks if i decided I wanted to do that. I called yesterday, spoke to a nurse, and asked her to please phone in a prescription for the socks. She said she would have to call several pharmacies to see who would do it so that my insurance would cover them, and that she would call back. this was at 9:30am. I tried calling after lunch, to check back, but the nurse was busy, and I was told that she would return my call. I never got a call back.
I called again this morning, and she said that she had called it in to the cvs by my house, but they had to order them, so it might take a couple of days. I called CVS, and they said that they needed measurements of my legs before they could even order them, so they hadn't even placed the order yet. I feel like someone dropped the ball by not letting me know that they couldn't be ordered until there were measurements done. I am very upset about this, but don't know who to be upset with.
4.) Also, during my birth class, the teacher mentioned that often people with diabetes have to be induced early, and talked about several other complications that had not been discussed with me before, by my actual doctor. I addressed this with her last week at my appointment, and she said that she didn't tell us, b/c she didn't want to scare us, and then have us switch doctors. I told her that I didn't appreciate not being informed b/c she thought I would be scared off, b/c these are important things that I should have been told about. She acted like she didn't think it was a big deal that she hadn't told us before now about these issues.

I feel like my OB's office is just SO disorganized. But, no one else that I know who goes there feels the same way. They all love her. I don't feel like I'm expecting too much. And I don't know how to address this latest thing with the CVS pharmacy when I go in tomorrow. I probably should have switched Dr.'s a long time ago, but now I feel like i just need to stay there, b/c finding a new doctor and being big risk at this point seems like a LOT of work.

Can someone give me some advice?
Thanks.

[jssymom14]

Do you think your OB is not equipped to deal with your diabetes and pregnancy at the same time? That would be my main concern, that she frantically is trying to cover all of her bases by giving you this extra tests because she doesn't understand all the challenges you are trying to deal with on top of pregnancy.

This close to the end, I would not switch (and some doctors might not take you either). Are you also considered high-risk? Just wondering...

[joolz]

For the labs, can you just ask your endocrinologist if you can go to the lab your OB likes? That might solve that issue.

I also think you're pretty far along, so switching now would be a massive pain and probably not worth it, but it's up to you.

I would be super annoyed by that office and doctor. Can you ask the nurse how to measure, and whether you can do it yourself or if you need to come in? Or maybe your endocrinologist's office can do it, since they seem to be more on the ball?