Should I let this friendship fizzle? (long-ish)

[malibu]

She's nuts.

Sorry, that's all I've got.

[weelass24]

Some people are just funny like that. I would just stop being the middle man for her transactions.

[imoan]

I don't know if I'd let it fizzle... but I'd avoid financial situations with her at all costs. Not worth the hassle.

[julez]

I think that you should sever ties with her around all things that involve money or might ever involve money. Maybe sever ties alltogether.

The grown-up thing to do would be to talk to her about this, but I'm not usually very good at bringing up uncomfortable things like this, so take my advice with a grain of salt.

[Deleted]

yes, i'd let it fizzle. she sounds like a psycho.

[scotty]

Yeah, I'd be done.

[angelaa73]

Cut bait

[ECB]

Dec 6, 2012 13:54:54 GMT -5 imoan said:

I don't know if I'd let it fizzle... but I'd avoid financial situations with her at all costs. Not worth the hassle.

This is where I'm at. And maybe the next time a situation comes up, use it as a chance to talk to her. Tell her that you feel she's putting it ON YOU to give her the $$, when it's actually other people who owe her. As such, you can't be the middle man for her anymore.

[lightbulbsun]

I agree with PPs - stop being the middle man regarding money.

[Deleted]

people, please. this isn't just a "money is tight" situation, or even a "she's weird about money" situation. she's REALLY weird, and so far autmnrose has only happened to see the money parts.

[PinkSquirrel]

Stop selling her shit for her. Problem solved.

[pinkflats]

Maybe distance yourself with regard to anything financial since that seems to be the issue here. Although if you are uncomfortable with her now I would just let it fizzle.

[iamgrace]

I would just stop involving myself financially with this person. It's no reason to let the friendship go if you really like her.

[Deleted]

what? move out of the country?

that's a 3 alarm psycho situation.

[VeryViolet]

I was thinking the same as others who said just have anything to do with her and money anymore but after reading your update I would run away from her. Let it fizzle for sure she sounds like a nut.

[ECB]

Ok - w/ that additional info- she sounds really INTENSE.

Depending on what you get out of the friendship, I still don't necessarily think "end it", but at the same time - i wouldn't blame you if you did.

[iamgrace]

Oh, she sounds really odd. Yes, cut and run.

[Deleted]

Maybe if they are so hard up for money all the time they should stop buying the damn tickets in the first place.

[livinitup]

I rarely buy stuff like Avon from friends, but when I do, I always write my check with the order. If she wanted football ticket money before I met those folks for the game, I would not have sold them a second time unless I was willing to front the money.

I think that you're frustrated because you have a fundamental difference on this "money". I see your point, the money has already been spent or not due yet. But she clearly sees it as new income and she seems entitled to get it right now. Much the same way she seems oddly entitled to get PG before her sister begins to parent.

I find entitled people very off putting. And limiting to friendship.

[Deleted]

Fizzle it fast. She sounds like a loon.

[ohiowan]

I don't know how avon works, but my mom sells mk and when she places an order she has to pay for it from the company and the shipping out of pocket and then recoup the money when it's paid for--so I could maybe see wanting that, but not if she set the payment date for days from now. She probably is robbing Peter to pay Paul and maybe living a lifestyle they can't afford?

Brought to you by my childhood.

[jennistarr1]

well the Avon thing is easy, don't submit an order until you have the money and order together

and like the game thing...say I can help you sell your tickets just so you know I won't be seeing this person until that day so you'll have to wait until afterwards for the money. The first time she asks for the money sooner tell her to go ahead and try and sell the tickets herself.

[sonrisa]

Dec 6, 2012 14:08:28 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

like when she told me that she was considering moving out of the country because her sister got pregnant first and if she couldn't get pregnant in the next year she "wouldn't be able to bear to be around her sister since she has kids and I don't"

Run

[adhdfashion]

She sells Avon. Run!

[livinitup]

Dec 6, 2012 17:21:00 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Dec 6, 2012 16:41:38 GMT -5 jennistarr1 said:

well the Avon thing is easy, don't submit an order until you have the money and order together

and like the game thing...say I can help you sell your tickets just so you know I won't be seeing this person until that day so you'll have to wait until afterwards for the money. The first time she asks for the money sooner tell her to go ahead and try and sell the tickets herself.

so you are saying I should give her the money for my order when I place the order.....even though I haven't actually received the products?

Yes. That is what most people I know do. If you don't trust the seller to get you the product, then don't buy from them.