Is it just me? (privacy and online dating)

[Deleted]

The Facebook thing is totally weird. The phone one not so much. I think everyone has different communication styles. I prefer to meet quickly after a few emails because I hate emailing back and forth or talking/texting before meeting.

I think it's always best to be protective of your info. That's why I use a google voice number instead of my real one. But if you feel like it's too soon to chat on the phone, just tell him.

[omeomi]

I don't think you're being too secretive.

I've never done the online dating thing.. you don't have your full name on those sites, right? Only if you want to give it to them?

If someone had my full name, I'm easily google-able. But I also try to keep as much as I can on lockdown (like FB). I'm all for sharing to a certain degree, but I don't want everyone out there knowing every little thing about me. Especially if I haven't met them.

[Bernadine]

I'd talk to someone on the phone that soon, but I wouldn't become fb friends.

[bullygirl979]

I don't give out my number until we've traded emails back and forth a few times. FB? Hell to the no! I don't even friend people that I am dating until I know you're not psycho!

[lookingup]

I don't think you're being too secretive, but some people get bored with just messaging back and forth. This is why I'm horrible at online dating. I'd rather figure out a meetup within the first 5 or so messages and get to know someone in person.

[bullygirl979]

Dec 6, 2012 15:22:09 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Dec 6, 2012 15:21:20 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

I don't give out my number until we've traded emails back and forth a few times. FB? Hell to the no! I don't even friend people that I am dating until I know you're not psycho!

But you gave me your contact info! mwahaha! kidding, I'm not a psycho. PS YGPM

That's cuz I am hoping you show up at my house with your udder hat if you catch what I'm throwing down PM back!

[Deleted]

Meh, I think you should do whatever makes you feel most comfortable. I wouldn't particularly want to date someone who wants to get to know me through my FB profile. That's weird.

[starburst604]

I'm with you. I didn't become FB friends with anyone before we met, or even too quickly after. Depending on how much you reveal, it could give too much info about where you live, work, etc. I would just tell them that. I think men should understand that women have to be careful.

As for the phone I don't think it's weird of them to ask but I personally hated it. Like you I wanted to exchange a few messages before talking on the phone, or just cut right to the chase and meet. I'm just not a phone person.

[bullygirl979]

Dec 6, 2012 15:30:29 GMT -5 mintchocochip said:

Dec 6, 2012 15:27:38 GMT -5 bullygirl979 said:

That's cuz I am hoping you show up at my house with your udder hat if you catch what I'm throwing down PM back!

You wanna milk this baby? PM back, nothing of substance though

OMFG...this conversation (along with my pussy post to GOZF) is so wrong!

[glitzyglow]

I'm pretty strict when it comes to giving my info to someone until I know them. I actually won't give someone my phone number until we've met in person. I also won't add a guy to Facebook unless we are in a relationship.

I actually had a guy online get super pissed that I wouldn't add him on Facebook after we had only emailed 2x. No offense dude, but you don't need to see all my family members' names and friends names unless we are talking seriously.

Call me crazy, but that works for me.

[Deleted]

Dec 6, 2012 17:02:33 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I'm pretty strict when it comes to giving my info to someone until I know them. I actually won't give someone my phone number until we've met in person. I also won't add a guy to Facebook unless we are in a relationship.

I actually think it says a lot about someone who wants too much personal info too soon. It's a huge red flag for me, so no I don't think you're crazy to withhold.

[maplesyrup]

LOL! How ironic....

[CheshireGrin]

When I was dating online, I wouldn't even tell a guy my last name until we'd had at least one or two face-to-face meetings. Facebook? HELL NO.

I was always a little turned off by guys whose first message was about getting together, though. I wanted a few rounds of email communication before I made that decision. Probably ditto for phone calls. But I purposely took my last name out of my voicemail greeting so that I could give my phone number out a little more freely. Still wanted a couple of emails first though.