My job is really starting to get to me

[bab]

I am really on edge over some bullshit at work.

It is so bad that I am now carrying over my frustration into my home life. I am not working today, but I had to have something faxed for one of my clients so I stopped at my office to drop it off with the girls this morning. On the way home, I stopped at the Dunkin Donuts drive through to get coffee and some donuts for the kids. While I was waiting to pay, Ava said "potty!"
I told her to hold it as we were about 8 minutes away from home. I didn't want to get out of the car and take her in some (nasty) restroom. It was raining and I just didn't feel like it.

Anyway, she made it home and as soon as we got to the driveway she peed all over herself. I was MAD but I held it in. I sent her inside while I gathered our jackets, the wet carseat cover, and my bag out of the car. When I came inside she was sitting on the sofa.
I yelled (loud) "GET OFF THE SOFA AVA!!" She was wearing a pair of pink stretch pants and I assumed they were the same wet peed on pants she had on 2 minutes prior.
Little did I know, Abby helped her out of her wet things and put fresh undies and a clean pair of pink pants on her.

I felt like the biggest asshole on the planet. It was my fault she had an accident to begin with. I should have just taken her inside the store!!

She started crying because I yelled at her, then when I went to hug her and apologize, I noticed Abby had a tear coming down her face too!!
She was frightened because I yelled and she was sad because Ava was crying.

I am not behaving like my normal self. I feel awful.

I wish I could leave my job but i really can't right now.

[scotty]

I'm sorry bab, I can feel your pain through this post.

I hope things get better soon. Do you have time to exercise? That's where I put all of my frustrations or I'd go insane. I feel a lot worse when I don't.

[sake]

Awww. Im sorry that you're going through this, and I totally understand how work can cross over and make your home life harder. I went through that last year, and H begged me to quit because he said it was taking too much of a toll on our marriage. So I totally get it.

I would suggest possibly getting on an anti anxiety medicine if you aren't opposed to that, and if you think it would help.

You aren't a bad mother b/c you yelled when you thought pee was drenching your sofa. you reacted in the moment, which happens to the best of us. Just try to relax today since you have the day off, and don't worry about work!

[greylady]

Kids are resilient. Cut yourself some slack here. Nobody is a perfect parent 24 x 7 and you have extra challenges to mitigate. I promise they won't be crying to their therapist about this someday; you will remember it much longer than they do.

I'm sorry your work is sucking right now.

[saraandmichael]

=(

bab...i'm so sorry that you're stressed like this.

moms make mistakes, too. and it sucks extra hard when we snap like that. but every mom does it at one time or another. you give so much to those girls that this one little mishap is just a tiny bump in the road.

take them for an ice cream cone later today and laugh about your days. you'll all feel better.

xo

[bab]

Thanks guys. I'm about to take them for Happy Meals. Don't judge me for doing Dunkin' and Micky D's in the same day!

LOL

[Deleted]

i'm sorry, i know the feeling of awfulness when you feel like you've taken other stress out on your kid. i hope the day looks up from here on out. don't be so hard on yourself.

[eightangryreindeer]

Agree with don't be so hard on yourself. Stuff happens.

How adorable that Abby helped Ava into dry clothes, so sweet.

[jaylea]

I've been there.

I'm sorry. It is the worst feeling. But kids are resilient. I usually try to apologize and let them know that I am having a bad day and it's not their fault, hugs and kisses and move on.

Hugs!

[mrsjuleshs]

I'm sorry. We all have thos mom moments. She knows you are sorry. It sucks when work life comes home. My kid always asks me about the crazy antics of my coworkers and understands when I come home in a bad mood, though she is older.

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May 25, 2012 13:16:14 GMT -5 jaylea said:

I've been there.

I'm sorry. It is the worst feeling. But kids are resilient. I usually try to apologize and let them know that I am having a bad day and it's not their fault, hugs and kisses and move on.

Hugs!

i think L is still little enough that the apology is WAY more for me than for her, but i do this too.

[dowagercountess]

I'm sorry BAB.

[lifesapeach]

We all have those moments, I swear. I think an apology and a hug will go a long way.

[cbwm1]

I'm so sorry, bab.

[eddy]

Hey we ALLLL have these days. They suck big time too. But I promise promise promise those girls won't remember it by tomorrow. You are good people babs, don't stress.

[angelaa73]

Awwwwww, we've all been there. Don't beat yourself up. I love you babs! You are a fantastic mama.

[fuckyourcouch]

I'm so sorry

I was a teenager/college age, but my mom went through this with a terrible employer that basically abused her and it sucked to have her speak to me like that, but it sucked more to watch her go through it. but I never hold that against her and we still have a wonderful relationship years later. I'm sure you'll remember this longer than them and you'll make it up to them.