iamali

[saraandmichael]

did you post about your husband and the JW business?

how is this affecting you? its seems kind of sucky for you.

i wish i were close so i could celebrate your birthday with you this weekend. you deserve something nice and fun.

[iamali]

Awww - thanks guys!

Sarah - I've posted some about my H going back to being a JW, but I've DD most of the posts since they contained a lot of personal info.

Calle - I am in So. Cal - San Diego.

[saraandmichael]

May 25, 2012 19:16:53 GMT -5 iamali said:

Awww - thanks guys!

Sarah - I've posted some about my H going back to being a JW, but I've DD most of the posts since they contained a lot of personal info.

Calle - I am in So. Cal - San Diego.

is this something you are ok with? it just seems so foreign to me and would be a really big deal in my relationship if my husband or i made a huge change like that.

[iamali]

May 25, 2012 19:24:20 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

May 25, 2012 19:16:53 GMT -5 iamali said:

Awww - thanks guys!

Sarah - I've posted some about my H going back to being a JW, but I've DD most of the posts since they contained a lot of personal info.

Calle - I am in So. Cal - San Diego.

is this something you are ok with? it just seems so foreign to me and would be a really big deal in my relationship if my husband or i made a huge change like that.

Oh geez.

LOL.

I'm ok with it in the sense that he's happy with it.

I'm HUGELY not ok with it for a plethora of reasons. JW's aren't very "pro" women in general IMO. They are esp. not pro "educated" women. Being that I pride myself on my independence and education that is a HARD pill for me to swallow.

I feel like this religion (cult?) is almost a cage. My H hasn't been "re-instated" as an official JW yet. So all of these years he's been "disfellowshipped" and his family isn't supposed to have anything to do with them (his parents didn't come to our wedding!). Another pill I can't swallow.

The birthdays and holidays aren't really the biggest issue. Yeah, it bugs me and I was really hurt last week (this is the first year he's gone back, so the first bday that wasn't celebrated), but I generally spoil myself anyway, so it's not he lack of gifts. I guess I'm just sad that he'll never "celebrate" (be happy about?) those things again.

[saraandmichael]

i didn't want to quote you in case you wanted to dd, but i'm sorry. it must be exceptionally difficult to accept, most especially with the highlights about women that you pointed out. i know very little about JWs, so hearing that makes my blood boil. mostly because i feel much the same as you...that i am an intelligent and educated woman and for someone that i love so closely to dismiss that would just be too much.

i certainly don't want to start anything over this, i was just curious since it wasn't something i'd heard before today.

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Oh Ali, I don't really know what to say so I'm just going to offer some hugs.

[iamali]

Thanks guys. I am struggling with this, but I have hope in my heart that we can make it work. I've made it clear to my H that I'm never, ever, ever going to be part of his religion. If he is able to respect that I think we'll be ok (::fingers crossed:.

[lookaway24]

JWs do drink, but don't overindulge. Sure, some may not drink at all, but it's not because there is a rule not to.

JWs do celebrate things, have parties, get together and have a good time-just not associated with holidays/birthdays.

I know JWs who are doctors, engineers, successful realtors, teachers and business owners. Both men and women. Education and careers are simply not put before God, but there is a place for those things in our lives.

I understand this must be very difficult for you. I hope everything turns out well for both you and your husband.

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iamali- I usually post on MM, but saw this and wanted to chime in. My mother's side of the family are all JW so I've grown up and been around witnesses all my life. There are definitely different levels or devoutness but I would be making it clear to DH that you are not comfortable with their stance on women.

If you have any questions or want I chat feel free to PM!