My H tries to help with the baby. Like, he asks if he can take her for a little bit when he gets home from work. But all he does is sit on the couch holding her. Silently. He doesn't play with her or talk to her. I think it's weird and she gets bored/grumpy, so I end up taking her back. I'll say "Why don't you at least talk to her?" and he says he doesn't know what to say. I should just appreciate him taking her, right?
Also, today I'm really irritated because he's taking a nap right now. I'm the one who got 4 hours of sleep and has been up since 6. He got up at 8:30, worked half-assed from home for a few hours. I'm so tired. Am I being a mommy martyr?
Post by peachykate on May 25, 2012 19:11:22 GMT -5
Yep, just leave them be. They'll figure it out in time. I've always heard/read that a lot of new dads have trouble figuring out what they should be doing before their kids become more interactive and mobile.
Ditto the sentiment that you need to not worry about what exactly they do together and make yourself scarce. I think his tune'll change right quick when the kid gets uppity and you're in the bath or out for a drink so he can't shrug and hand her back.
my H does the same thing with the nap. either he naps in the afternoon, or he goes back to bed when i take jonah to school. i don't WANT to go back to bed, but i think if i need to be up, so does he!! LOL!
See, you get me! lol. WE ALL MUST SUFFER TOGETHER!
Post by lazyphoque on May 25, 2012 19:40:03 GMT -5
Does she have any toys/books that he picked out for her? Maybe something that he could feel like was their thing would help. Other than that, yeah, leave the area and let him figure it out.
And I 100% make my h be awake when I'm awake, because I'm a selfish bitch. not really, but I do sometimes huff about him getting extra sleep if I'm exhausted.