Vent

[decemberrain]

My brother is getting married at the end of June. His fiances bridal shower is tomorrow at the same exact time that I need to be at the airport with my husband. I just got in a huge argument with my brother about me not being able to be there. I was told that I will have the next three years to be with my husband and I should just let his mom take him and go to the shower. When they planned her shower they knew I wouldn't be able to go because of this and now all the sudden it's an issue. Also, who plans a bridal shower for Memorial Day weekend???

[verycontrary247]

I hope you told him to fuck off.

[brandienee]

What is up with him saying that you have the next three years with your husband? Is he giving your marriage an experation date? Ha!

I am sorry you had to deal with that, especially when you gave them plenty of time for them to get used to your absence.

[decemberrain]

I just walked away in the middle of hearing how I'm not part of the family anymore because I'm moving.. Well we got married too young so it's never going to last.. Quoted from my brother mind you.. Eh oh well I guess he will have to be the one who looks back in a few months and realizes he was being a total ass right before he sent his brother-in-law and sister off for quite sometime. In the mean time I'd really like to return their shower and wedding gifts..

[basilosaurus]

Wait, you're blowing off a party to wait at the airport with someone? I may not have phrased it like your family, but I don't quite get how waiting at the airport is that important. It's not like you can wait at the gate these days (or for the last decade) Also, I don't get how a fiance's (I assume you don't know her) bridal shower is important.

[decemberrain]

I'm dropping my H off at the airport for Guam. Before we actually see him off though we are going to breakfast with his family and all that fun stuff. I do know her pretty well but she knew well in advance that I wasn't going to be able to go because of the "breakfast party" if you will. But I also don't have a very good relationship with his bride to be but I've tried really hard to put that in the past while they have done nothing but hold grudges so I guess I'll wait the three years we'll be in Guam and see if things cool down lol

[blueshirt2003]

Surely your brother and his fiancé will realize that your plans were made prior to their bridal shower plans.

This seems so weird for them to be upset about. Is something else going on with them and you?

[decemberrain]

Not that I knew of. My H and I left to go see my Grandma and came back and all the sudden he was pissed at me because I wasn't going. It was out of the blue for me but maybe I did do something and I'm unaware but either way instead of me getting home and having him ambush me in the hallway and start yelling at me he probably should have acted like an adult. It's always a fun experience moving back home for a few months..

[NomadicMama]

It's a gift grab, I mean bridal shower (not that I have anything against showers, but their importance is often over stated). Sounds to me like your future SIL wants to extend her claim to one day to include some extra time and put your brother, her fiancé tome task of bullying you into attending.

Enjoy your breakfast with your husband and ILs. See him off at the airport, then go get a pedicure.

[ilovecandy]

May 26, 2012 0:50:21 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

Wait, you're blowing off a party to wait at the airport with someone? I may not have phrased it like your family, but I don't quite get how waiting at the airport is that important. It's not like you can wait at the gate these days (or for the last decade) Also, I don't get how a fiance's (I assume you don't know her) bridal shower is important.

Actually you can get a gate pass to go back to the gate with them usually. I have done this when H has left before.

[Beeps (WOT?*)]

My guess is FSIL has been bitching at brother about how much you hate her because you're not coming to her shower and a breakfast with someone who is NOT your family is more important. After all, it's your husband's parents and what-not, right? And she's your brother's future wife and this is all about her her her and her wedding and everything. How dare you be so inconsiderate and selfish?!

(I hope you spoke up before you turned around and walked off. I assume the three year comment was aimed at the fact that you'll be stationed with him for the next three years and not near family? Rather than "you'll be divorced by then.")

[prettyinpink]

Are our brother's marrying the same girl? I've had this conversation about 10 times with my brother since November.

[decemberrain]

May 26, 2012 12:29:13 GMT -5 Beeps (WOT?*) said:

I assume the three year comment was aimed at the fact that you'll be stationed with him for the next three years and not near family? Rather than "you'll be divorced by then.")

Yea that's what he was getting at. At least I think anyway lol

[decemberrain]

I leave next week. So not to long but I don't plan on seeing most of his extended family again before I leave because they are all pretty scattered so it was our chance to say goodbye to everyone at once. We went to a pretty nice breakfast place ate talked and all that and he ended up leaving a little earlier than we thought so I probably could have caught the end of the shower... BUT I decided after all the drama about it I'd really rather just go buy some summer cloths lol

[Beeps (WOT?*)]

Hellsbells, after the drama I would have gone on a (well-deserved) spree for summer clothes, winter clothes, shoes, gifts for the in-laws...

[decemberrain]

May 26, 2012 14:19:01 GMT -5 prettyinpink said:

Are our brother's marrying the same girl? I've had this conversation about 10 times with my brother since November.

After reading this all I can say is: Good God I hope not.. (and if so, you can keep her!)