If you find out or don't I promise the birth will not be anti-climatic for you.
I found out with both. I needed to have a name decided and knowing the gender helped me think of them as people and not just a pregnancy.
Oh yeah I didn't really mean it as it would be anti-climactic for us...I just was thinking that it might be cool to have that moment where you announce to the family what it is (like a bunch of people have mentioned). My dad didn't want to know with my niece but since everyone else knew, he found out too. So I think it would be especially cool to surprise him.
This may be a moot discussion for us anyway....depending on what happens and all the tests and such that have to be done, I don't know if the doctors will be able to keep it a secret from us. Obviously we'll discuss that with them later on.
We were Team Green with my daughter. It was my husband's idea initially, and I was eventually convinced since it seemed so important to him and I knew we would be unable to keep it a secret from each other if only one of us knew. I do remember having a moment late in pregnancy, staring at my belly, thinking, who the hell are you, kid?, and I did kind of wish in that moment that I knew. However, it is not like I had any trouble bonding with my daughter when she actually did arrive. We would have been thrilled either way, but mostly, I felt relief at the moment of her birth, learning that she was a girl, because we had a name for one. (We never really did figure out a boy's name and that started to stress me out a little as I neared the end of pregnancy.)
I do not know what we will do next time. My husband has said he wants to be Team Green again, but I think we did it once his way, maybe we will do it the other way next time. Part of my thought for wanting to know ahead of time is that I sometimes wonder about the sex of the baby I miscarried just before I was pregnant with my daughter (but it was early and there was no testing done, and no way to know that now).
We were team green both times. I could find out but DH really, really likes the surprise. We didn't share names either, way too many strongly opinionated rude family members lol. I still felt really connected to my babies each time, but I have to admit, it was a whole lot to process PP each time. Like, not only did I finally have my baby, but I had a daughter.
Next time I think I need to know lol. There will be too much I'll want to prepare and we have one of each already. Even if we do find out, I don't think we'll share the news or the name.
Post by Willis Jackson on Dec 14, 2012 12:07:15 GMT -5
We were team green both times and LOVED it.
I loved hearing DH tell me what they were, I loved calling our parents and telling them they had a new grandson/granddaughter. I loved everything about it.
FTR, I wanted a boy 1st and a girl 2nd and got exactly what I wanted.
I think it is fun to be team green. I'm just an impatient person and just want to know as early as possible. I don't think knowing/not knowing has anything to do with feeling connected. I'm just impatient. I did love calling and telling my siblings and parents what we were having when we found out so I can see that being fun as well on the delivery date.
We were Team Green and I loved it and would totally do it again. I didn't feel like it impacted my connection with the baby while pregnant at all. Things like poking her foot when it was jutting out of my belly and having her move it in response were very bonding to me. We also had a "What is it" moment in the delivery room, which was very cool. And ditto everyone about calling our parents to tell them the news. I know they would have been excited even if they knew, but it added a certain something for them to be learning they had a granddaughter.
We were team green. I wanted to have a big surprise in the delivery room. It was pretty anti-climatic. I think because he had meconium in the amniotic fluid the nurses whisked him away to assess him and I was more concerned about that than the sex.
I had a similar experience with my daughter. Then when they finally did tell me, they did it by showing her to me. She was so swollen, and I was so tired that I couldn't figure it out and they had to tell me.
I really wanted to find out with my son, but my husband didn't, so we waited. I wanted the big announcement, but caught him myself, so I saw what he was as I pulled him to my chest. I had myself so convinced he was a girl that even now I stop sometimes and think "wow, I have a son".