Speaking of surrogacy, my local mom's group board had a thread the other day where someone asked if they should mention the surrogate in the birth announcement - and most of the respondents said yes! Very strange.
I can see how it would be a nice gesture to do so, but I certainly don't think it would be wrong not to mention it either. I think it would be weird if a surrogate were hurt/offended by not being mentioned in a birth announcement.
The implication was that they should do it for her. I don't know. I feel like the announcement should be about the !!!new baby!!! not the details. Of course, I put really minimal stuff in ours - her name and birthday. I'd think the surrogate needs much more and less recognition than that - a big, long heartfelt letter from all family members seems more appropriate than having your name announced to the ex-colleague of the kid's grandpa, you know what I mean? It isn't like she is looking for more business and wants the contacts.
I think they typically don't allow surrogates who haven't had children for potential carrying problems, potential attachment, all that kind of stuff.
I guess I was thinking more in terms of deciding to be a surrogate for someone you are close to, a girlfriend or a sister or something. For someone who is a "professional" surrogate, I definitely understand these concerns.
It's hard for me to explain, but there is a clear difference in my mind. I guess either way, someone gets a baby to love very, very much, and that's all that matters.