S/o of ring thread -- do you look for rings?

[dr.girlfriend]

If you interview people (men or women) do you check out their hands for rings?

I interview a lot of applicants for positions every year (externships, internships, and postdocs) and never have thought to look for a ring. The only remotely similar situation I have encountered was a woman who was obviously well along in her pregnancy, but chose not to bring up the subject at all. That was a little awkward, and I think she should have addressed it. We have worked around maternity leave before, but it is a big consideration when you're talking about a one-year position. I mean, maybe she had a giant fibroid or something, but I doubt it.

[limey]

No, but I would judge someone negatively if they came in dressed like a slob.

[sillygoosegirl]

I kind of get the argument against wearing a big honking diamond to an interview at a non-profit, but I couldn't care less whether my coworkers are married or not. Almost half of all babies in the US are born out of wedlock these days, so being married doesn't exactly increase a woman's risk of needing maternity leave or anything.

[Deleted]

I look for rings on everyone, generally, but the only judgments I make are along the lines of "that's really pretty" or "OMG that's hideous." Oh, and among the more middle-aged population, I judge the newness of the marriage on whether the ring is yellow gold or silver colored. But that's not people I'm interviewing -- that's opposing counsel and witnesses and arbitrators and such.

I don't think this would at all impact my opinion of whether I want a person to be hired.

[heyrebekah]

I don't think I have ever noticed.

It's funny, but as much as I always tend to agree with the interview attire advice given here, I've noticed that when my group actually interviews people the ones we pick usually don't follow the rules. We hired one guy who wore a purple shirt & tie. And for our latest assistant we hired the only one interviewee who DIDN'T wear a suit (and both have turned out awesome).

[Deleted]

I look for rings on everyone.

I'm not sure why, but I always do.

[mbcdefg]

I don't interview people.

I look for rings on everyone. I want to see if men are married, and I want to see what styles women are wearing. I have no idea why I do this.

[rosetyler]

I've never actively looked for a ring. The only time I notice is if it's a particularly flashy diamond.

[raangoli]

Dec 21, 2012 13:30:21 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

I don't interview people.

I look for rings on everyone. I want to see if men are married, and I want to see what styles women are wearing. I have no idea why I do this.

This. I find it interesting when men are married, and I know that they are happily married, but they don't wear their rings. I wonder if they just don't fit. Or maybe they aren't ring types.

I will admit that I only started paying attention to other people and their rings after I got engaged. Mostly I judge women who have large looking stones but they look "dead". There is no sparkle or shine and I feel sorry for them since it may not be a good quality or set properly.

[heygrey]

What is the correlation with big rings and nonprofits? I work at a nonprofit and while I have a very modest ering and am not particularly wealthy, I still cannot relate to being drug addicted and homeless. I'm not sure how having a big ring makes a person less relatable or compassionate. If anything, I might assume that a big ring means a financially stable household, therefore the woman isn't concerned about the salary.

That said, I wouldn't necessarily wear a huge ring to work because I'd be concerned about clients' perceptions, but I wouldn't think to take it off for the interview.

[limey]

Dec 21, 2012 13:39:45 GMT -5 raangoli said:

Dec 21, 2012 13:30:21 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

I don't interview people.

I look for rings on everyone. I want to see if men are married, and I want to see what styles women are wearing. I have no idea why I do this.

This. I find it interesting when men are married, and I know that they are happily married, but they don't wear their rings. I wonder if they just don't fit. Or maybe they aren't ring types.

My H never wears his ring, or any other jewelry, including watches. Part of it is that he isn't a ring guy.

He does software engineering for manufacturing automation, so there's a safety issue with being on the line as well.

[Deleted]

I interview people daily. I notice rings but I do not actively look for on unless the candidate mentions they are married. Then I am just curious what the rings look like so I take a peak. I never make recommendations to the hiring manger based on the ring I did or did not see but I know other people do.

[RoxMonster]

I don't interview people for a living, but just in everyday life, I always look for rings, especially on women. I don't know why--it has nothing to do with married vs. single; I think I just really like looking at the different types of rings people have, esp. if they are unique.

[drloretta]

I almost always notice people's hands, so I would therefore notice their rings.

I wouldn't make any hiring decisions based on them though

[Deleted]

Dec 21, 2012 13:23:26 GMT -5 v said:

I look for rings on everyone, generally, but the only judgments I make are along the lines of "that's really pretty" or "OMG that's hideous." Oh, and among the more middle-aged population, I judge the newness of the marriage on whether the ring is yellow gold or silver colored. But that's not people I'm interviewing -- that's opposing counsel and witnesses and arbitrators and such.

I don't think this would at all impact my opinion of whether I want a person to be hired.

Interesting - I have a yellow and white gold ring but we've only been married 5 years. I just look better with yellow tones.

Along the interview lines, I've interviewed literally thousands of people (working in HR) and the only ones I've noticed with rings are VERY attractive men. But not for purposes of hiring decisions.

[KaraOrNot]

I mentioned in the thread, but I have never noticed.

[Deleted]

No. DH and I are married, but neither of us wear any rings.

[chessie]

Dec 21, 2012 17:26:23 GMT -5 @rainbow said:

No. DH and I are married, but neither of us wear any rings.

us as well..though we do have tattoos now.

[jenny1223]

It's funny to me how many people look for rings. Even when I was single, I never looked for rings on men - I just didn't think about it. I remember numerous occasions where a girlfriend would comment on a guy at a bar hitting on one of us who was wearing a wedding ring that I didn't notice. I probably inadvertently slept with a few married guys! (Just kidding.)

[Deleted]

No, I have noticed a few that were flashier but didn't think much of it.

Too many women mention their children unnecessarily.

[Norticprincess]

I don't pay much attention in recent years unless one is really unique, noticed a lot more before and during my engagement on people in general. I was trying to figure what styles I thought I liked.

Interviewing, I didn't really notice, Most of the summer interns I had to pick from were still in undergrad or HS.

I thought in the linked article about the non profit, the lady who said she judged, worked for a conflict diamond violence relief charity. In that case I could see it being an issue.

[mokes]

I don't look or notice, generally. Definitely doesn't affect my decision.

I do think it's odd when people bring up kids/spouses, which is actually fairly often.

I hardly ever wear my rings...I just don't wear rings at all. So I probably wouldn't wear them to an interview.

[Deleted]

I look wheinterviewing because I am curious. Esp when the person is odd - then I wonder who the heck picked you!? This happened in an interview I was doing a few months ago with a candidate that was a total dud.

I am still trying to get the story on a woman we hired a few months ago who has a freaking giant rock. She is awesome, and from what I am learning about her, my guess is it is a family diamond, she seems to come from money. I hope someday she tells me, becuase it would be way awkward if I asked.