She works about 5 hours/week, as needed, at their business. Other than that, she has no job outside the home.
I asked if I need to bring any food, an appetizer, etc to Christmas Eve (we usually just do apps, sometimes homemade pizza) and got a 5-minute complaint about how their kitchen is too small, if sister and I make something it will make a mess, she doesn't want to figure any of this out (BIG SIGH), and we are probably just having turkey for dinner on Christmas because she already has one.
Don't go to any trouble. 8-D Never mind that we always travel to them for holidays, 3/4 of my siblings live 2.5 - 4 hours away, and we are all employed and thus limited on days off, etc.
Oh, and for Thanksgiving, there was no stuffing and there were almost no mashed potatoes until I made them (WHO DOES THAT?) because she doesn't like them and didn't want any more hassle then necessary. I am not looking forward to Christmas dinner which will be a repeat of turkey, rolls, green bean casserole, and disgusting yams.
If you don't want to host, have it at someone else's house. This guilt trip/drama business is ridiculous.
Oh, and apparently my brother's 44-year-old gf named Candy (he is 27) will probably be making an appearance. Buuut no one is ever allowed to say anything to him about his shitty life choices (girlfriends who take advantage of him, his divorce, his refusal to deal with financial issues) because it might hurt his feelings and we need to be supportive.
She works about 5 hours/week, as needed, at their business. Other than that, she has no job outside the home.
I asked if I need to bring any food, an appetizer, etc to Christmas Eve (we usually just do apps, sometimes homemade pizza) and got a 5-minute complaint about how their kitchen is too small, if sister and I make something it will make a mess, she doesn't want to figure any of this out (BIG SIGH), and we are probably just having turkey for dinner on Christmas because she already has one.
Don't go to any trouble. Never mind that we always travel to them for holidays, 3/4 of my siblings live 2.5 - 4 hours away, and we are all employed and thus limited on days off, etc.
Oh, and for Thanksgiving, there was no stuffing and there were almost no mashed potatoes until I made them (WHO DOES THAT?) because she doesn't like them and didn't want any more hassle then necessary. I am not looking forward to Christmas dinner which will be a repeat of turkey, rolls, green bean casserole, and disgusting yams.
If you don't want to host, have it at someone else's house. This guilt trip/drama business is ridiculous.
Oh, and apparently my brother's 44-year-old gf named Candy (he is 27) will probably be making an appearance. Buuut no one is ever allowed to say anything to him about his shitty life choices (girlfriends who take advantage of him, his divorce, his refusal to deal with financial issues) because it might hurt his feelings and we need to be supportive.
Hallelujah, holy shit, where's the tylenol?
Ugh, that totally sucks and you can't even have a drink to help with family dramas. I say you take something you're excited about eating!
My MIL is coming for Christmas. It's fine except that she is very picky and things have to be done a certain way..... yet she is terrible at helping and planning ahead. She told DH last week that she really wanted to help with food.....great, what would you like to make? No response. Well, here we are 4 days before Christmas, 1 day before she arrives and she isn't returning emails or phone calls. I don't care what you bring but please tell me so I can plan accordingly.
Holy shit people, this isn't brain surgery. I told DH this morning that I'm going to the store and getting everything we need so she doesn't need to bring anything if she bothers to call back or respond to the multiple emails we sent her.
If she shows up tomorrow and wants to make something (which will inevitably means she will take up the whole kitchen for hours and hours) I think my head will spin around and fly off.
Oh SJH..My mom is just like this. We all go for the holidays and she's happy to see us I know, but there's not a lot of extra effort put forth. The house isn't clean, weird food and little of it like you describe. It's just odd. The stupid part is, she'll go all Martha Stewart for their friends. My sister and I are a bit offended actually. We've been having Christmas the past few years at my house instead. I dont' have to drag stuff out, we have more space it's easier for me to plan food etc. She's happy to be here, but then invades my kitchen...lol.
My Random of the day: The grocery store was nowhere near as busy as I was prepared for. H is supposed to be occupying RubyCube this afternoon so I can clean and get organized. They're having a hell of a great time...making a bigger mess than what I need to clean up. I'm shutting up though...he hasn't seen her all week.
I'm seriously considering cutting out of work early to go work on prepping trim for paint. i want to cross things OFF this damn list.
Today is a new high - 4 (FOUR!!) people asked me when I was due/how far along I was and expressed shock that I'm only 30 weeks.
I know the belly is ridiculous, but couldn't people stifle their reaction just a little? This has been a common enough thing throughout this whole pregnancy that I'm tired of myself for being annoyed at it. BUT OMG IT'S ANNOYING!
Yes, I'm huge. thanks for pointing it out. Again.
Also i have given up on all personal grooming of areas I cannot see without a mirror. Doctors are used to seeing things au natural, yes?
bunny, I will admit that every time you post a picture with your belly in it i pull up my most recent bump picture and compare. Which is not helping of course because my belly is bigger than yours! But I know in the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal. My mom carried all out in front like this with me too and was whale like by the end.
Post by bunnymendelbaum on Dec 21, 2012 15:19:08 GMT -5
With DD1 (when I was enormous) I was back to my pre-preg weight at 10 weeks PP. I gained almost 70lbs and it was all gone. Don't sweat it. Honestly, it is a little annoying being small this time because people don't inherently understand why I'm so tired, unable to bend over, etc.
Apparently I plan on drinking over the holiday weekend. I bought 4 bottles of wine and 18 beers. I had a gift card and couldn't decide on stuff so I just bought everything I wanted. I will share with dh though
With DD1 (when I was enormous) I was back to my pre-preg weight at 10 weeks PP. I gained almost 70lbs and it was all gone. Don't sweat it. Honestly, it is a little annoying being small this time because people don't inherently understand why I'm so tired, unable to bend over, etc.
Oh, I will dream of being like you with the weight loss. And thanks for the reality check on that greener grass. I guess it is nice that everybody always jumps up to give me a chair.
With DD1 (when I was enormous) I was back to my pre-preg weight at 10 weeks PP. I gained almost 70lbs and it was all gone. Don't sweat it. Honestly, it is a little annoying being small this time because people don't inherently understand why I'm so tired, unable to bend over, etc.
Yes. I mean, I am grateful that I'm not gigantic, but I am uncomfortable and have a hard time moving around and my back hurts, and I had 3 people ask me at church last week if we "just announced" this and they were shocked I'm due March 8.
Your mom sounds like my MIL. She never hosts and when she does it's awful and she complains about all the work. I'm pretty sure she's never had a full time job.
My vent is I have a cold, am miserable and just want to feel better so I can do some holiday baking!
Post by sierramist03 on Dec 21, 2012 16:44:38 GMT -5
I'm so excited I think my grandparents are coming to Christmas!! I haven't celebrated Christmas Day with her in years. I really hope they decide to come. They are currently at my uncles and not enjoying themselves at all. Ex aunt decided they are doing finger foods for Christmas there and I think that pushed it over the edge.
I went to pick up my dry cleaning yesterday and it wasn't ready. No big deal, but I asked if I could pick it up in a week or so because it's near work and I'm off all next week. Lady says sure, but don't you need your clothes back? Apparently 30 items is a lot to bring it at one time and she assumed I was dry cleaning everything I owned.
This, combined with my sister's response to discovering H doesn't get to use any space in our master walk-in makes me feel like I really do have a clothing problem.
Post by emoflamingo on Dec 21, 2012 19:15:55 GMT -5
My H decided he didn't think repairing my car was going to be a good idea (because it's not worth that much) so we're taking the check for the damages from Farmers and using it to buy a new car and selling my old one to salvage. If he doesn't get the one he saw through work, I might die while we are a one car family. At least until we move, it's sort of on the way for his mom and dad to stop and pick him up before work and drop him off after work.
Post by bunnymendelbaum on Dec 21, 2012 21:06:14 GMT -5
Peach- that's bullshit. You are not acting bratty. 2 of 12?? All my friends with kids in daycare gave $20 to the main teachers at least and you are a sole proprietor! Hell, we even gave our part-time nanny $100 even though she only works 13hrs/week! I felt like a cheapskate doing that little.
Your clients are weird and sort if pissing me off.
Well I know not everyone can afford to give gifts to every service provider in their life. I just have always been showered with gifts, and those that didn't give gifts usually brought me baking and a card or something like that. It was just weird that so many parents didn't even acknowledge....I was hugging the kids and saying "merry Christmas" and handing them their armloads of gifts and special projects to take home and parents were like "whatever lets go" sort of attitude.
Like not even a Merry Christmas? Come on, I give you a sweet deal and tons of extras. Jerks. LOL.
i don't give gifts to every service provider either, but i sure as hell would give a nice gift to the woman who (most likely) spends more waking hours with my kid each day than i do! i think your annoyance is justified.
i wanted to post a similar vent, but i can't risk anyone finding it online. just know i'm right there with you in spirit, peach :-)
Peach that blows. Like the pp I'm not for gifting everyone I've ever met either, but man I gave something decent to Ruby's daycare provider too and her teenage babysitter and anyone else who watches her even on occassion. Watching my kid is important business.
What is up with your clients these days? Seriously.
It's all new people. I really shouldn't complain because the kids are all awesome! And the parents all pay me on time. And are decent to deal with. Just definitely a different sort of group. I feel very taken for granted with a lot of them, but I have had so many terrible families or people who I could barely get to pay me so overall I have it really good.
Post by emoflamingo on Dec 21, 2012 22:51:19 GMT -5
I need to buy a new car seat. Rear and forward facing. I'm going to be getting $180 for Monkey's car seat that was in the back seat of my car, so I can spend.
Post by statlerwaldorf on Dec 21, 2012 23:40:40 GMT -5
I'm having the same thing with our families. No one wants to host a meal, but they expect us to make the long drive down there. Our families live in the same general area, so when we come down I like to see at least a couple of them. It's usually not a big deal because we can just stop at a restaurant for lunch or whatever, but all of them will be closed on Christmas. Last year we stopped for Chinese, but I want a real meal for Christmas. And of course they don't want to make the drive to see us either.
SJH my MIL is the same way. H is super traumatized by this. It is like aliens came back from Portugal in their place. They bought a HUGE house and won't cook. It is bizarre.
Post by SusanBAnthony on Dec 22, 2012 7:43:47 GMT -5
My mil is the same. No special food. Cereal for breakfast on Christmas. Etc. I am taking over and making Bread pudding and cinnamon rolls. I hate faking Christmas cheer at the in laws but I am trying for the kids.