I hate that family activities with my family now don't matter to my mom unless the grand kids are there. I only have one sibling, and he has 2 kids. It seems like those kids are all that matters to my mom. H and I (who are kidless) will be at my parents house for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. She isn't even making a holiday meal and we don't get to open gifts because my brother isn't coming with his kids until the 28th.
I know she loves being a grandma and all, but her obsession with the grand kids makes the rest of us feel like we don't matter and she doesn't even care that we are here. We don't get to celebrate the holiday in any way on the actual holiday because the kids won't be here.
She also admitted to me when I arrived yesterday that she hasn't done any shopping for H and I, but she's finished shopping for the kids. She'll run through TJ Maxx at the last minute and pick up a bunch of weird stuff we don't want/need because she puts no thought into our gifts. She only cares about gifts for the grand kids.
Not only do the kids only matter, it's SIL's kids that matter most over BIL's kids. It makes me want to barf. And at least I don't have the only weird mom. I don't know what's happened, she used to not be like this!