I talked to xh

[Bernadine]

And I use that word lightly. I went to his office (he works for his parents). He told me to talk to my lawyer and then walked out. His parents don't want to get involved.

So since he wouldn't talk to me, I called the wife/mother. She said she does know that I'm paying the entire mortgage and that they're not paying xh any rent. Her h lost his job, her job cut her hours back, and they have no where else to go.

I'm still in shock over the entire situation. I literally don't even know what to say. I'll be calling my lawyer back on Wednesday. And xh does have a lawyer, he called mine to tell him they'd be filing their response today.

[lemondrop]

Dec 21, 2012 18:55:01 GMT -5 letsgetweird said:

Dec 21, 2012 18:53:49 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

Every single time you post about that giant bag of shit I want to roll up and punch him in the mouth.

And what the fuck on that woman for knowingly moving into the house knowing the situation, and not even bothering to not only notify you but not bothering to even ASK YOU.

I can't really fault this woman for moving in if she had nowhere else to go.

I'm surprised Bernadine's H blabs that she's paying the mortgage though.

Of course he brags about it. He's a douche, and he's probably pretty fucking proud of how easy he has it.

[softspot]

:-| That man has some steel balls. I can't believe she would want to knowingly move into a situation like this.

[sugarplum]

Can you change what you proposed for the divorce settlement?

[gault]

I am grinding my teeth into little nubs.

I hate this man.

[sherbanator]

WTF! :/

[sugarplum]

Also, how long will it take for you to figure out what he countered/responded with?

[Deleted]

Oh I suspected he would wait for the last day to file a response! What did you tell this woman?? I hope you told her to find another place asap because they might get evicted?

[Jalapeñomel]

You must must must be a saint.

[Deleted]

And please stop all contacts with him. Seriosuly. Obviously it doesn't work and he WILL use is against you.

[Mrs.Beagle]

I'm within driving distance. I would gladly move my ass in there and make his life miserable. I'm sure that I can get a bunch of other nesties to join me.

I can put out some rank farts and snore like a bear in my sleep.

[bab]

He's a loser jackass and his parents are even worse. They should be SO fucking ashamed of themselves. He WORKS for them?

OMFG!!!!

[karmasabiotch]

She could be paying him money. It wouldn't surprise me.

You're being so amazing through all of this junk. I hope you know how truly wonderful you are. Giant hugs...

[janegold]

Dec 21, 2012 19:05:35 GMT -5 cjoy said:

Dec 21, 2012 19:00:54 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Ugh, I hate this jerk.

Do you have anyone that you could send to "move in" too? A friend who would play along just to fuck up the little comfy cozy situation going on over there? Maybe throw a party? I mean, if HE can invite people to stay, you can too, right?

I'm kidding. But really, imagine if you had some really burley biker dude friend who would do you a favor and just go hang out on the couch and watch TV with his buddies for a few days?

Sorry, Bernadine. This blows.

Yessssss. Throw a raging kegger on NYE. And make sure everyone knows they're welcome to sleep over.

Please do this. Please.

[flex]

Are you on good terms with the wife, Bern? Did she fall all over herself apologizing or was she breezy about squatting on your property? Because that's what they are doing: squatting.

[weelass24]

JFC. Can you just put the house on the market now?

[textbookcase]

He is freaking terrible.

[Deleted]

You should put up a flyer for free housing at your closest strip club. Make it colorful.

[cahabalily]

Oh Bern, I'm so sorry.

I think she is paying and is hiding it from you. Bitch needs to be subpoenaed or sumshit, because there's no way she is OK with squatting knowing the situation.

[fuckyourcouch]

I want to punch them both. Fuckers

[wrathofkuus]

I honestly don't know why you, your boyfriend, and twelve cats haven't moved into that house long ago. What's stopping you, Bernadine?

[Bernadine]

If I move back in, our separation starts all over. We can't spend one night under the same roof. I'll be calling my lawyer first thing Wednesday morning.

I'm trying not to think about it until then. I refuse to let this ruin my Christmas.

[Jalapeñomel]

And I am guessing you cannot sell the home either? I think I remember you saying something about this before, yes?

[flex]

Call the troopers on the squatters. Isn't that like breaking and entering or something?

[EmilieMadison]

I want to fucking punch your ex, the people who knowingly moved into a house YOU are paying for, and your good for nothing attorney. Seriously. I simply would not accept that there is NOTHING you can do about this. As I said before, I understand that you may not be able to make your stbx move out- it's his house, too. But YOU still own the house, too, and therefor you surly have legal recourse for having squatters removed.

EVICT THEM. I can't understand why you cant. Send them a pay or quit notice (or whatever notice your state requires for evictions) so that they either have to start paying you $X/month, or they have to GTFO. If you serve them by Dec 31st then that would be 30 days notice for them to pay or be out by Jan 31, which is probably what is required for you to give them to move out, even though they're not "tenants". TALK TO A DIFFERENT ATTORNEY. Talk to a few! But for god's sake, dont just take the word of the one you've got.

[janiejones]

I am furious on your behalf.

[Deleted]

I'm glad you're not letting this ruin your holiday. I am wishing you much peace in the next week. Seriously.

[EmilieMadison]

So, booby, are you saying that even though they both own it, bern actually has zero upholdable rights? Because that's what's happening. She can't live there, but she has to pay. She doesnt want people living there, but they do anyway. I still refuse to believe there is NOTHING that can be done about any of this. Even if it's not directly related to the divorce. There must be some sort of something that could legally make life hard for him, or even for her. Why CAN'T she go after these people for rent? IT'S HER HOUSE TOO. Has she talked to a real estate attorney? How many?

What is the plan for the house after the divorce? I certainly hope that his lack of financial contributions while HE was living there come into play if the house is sold. And if they keep it, who gets it, and does she get reimbursed? Do the renters (squatters) get to continue living there indefinitely?

[EmilieMadison]

Bern, what state are you in?

[janiejones]

Dec 21, 2012 21:36:05 GMT -5 cjoy said:

So you can't move in, but I'd start repainting all the rooms. Repeatedly. And are those termites? Fleas? Rodents? You probably need to bug bomb.

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or stink bomb.