Post by EmilieMadison on Dec 21, 2012 21:52:36 GMT -5
Ok, here's an idea. You are just as entitled as your stbx to rent out the house. Whether or not you actually rent it out is almost irrelevant in this plan (which is to make their lives miserable).
You let your stbx know that you need help paying the mortgage, and unless he and the squatters start contributing (give actual amounts and due dates, with a basic lease form), so you will be looking for tenants to rent out (a) room(s). Put a posting (or a dozen) on FB for the rental at a VERY reasonable price to ensure a lot of interest. Proceed to have several showings per day for weeks. Especially at dinner time or when they will be home. Enlist friends or even see if you can get a real estate agent or a property mgmt company to do the showings. You might have to pay them, but you might not.
If they're not going to pay up, make their lives hell. Or, you might actually get some money out of the deal. I still think you need to talk to a different attorney about evicting them.
Post by hopecounts on Dec 21, 2012 21:54:39 GMT -5
ugh this sucks, your caught in the horrible in between. it's marital property so you are very limited in your options. the family isn't squatting/B&E since they were invited by STBX and you can't force them out without his agreement usually. How long before the divorce will be final?
The one possiblility is being an ass and making it unpleasant for them. You can't stay there but you can have friends go over and party, paint, etc. Honestly though I think document everything, e-mail the Ex about it, get pictures, etc. and then sit toght and hit him hard for rent/repairs etc. in the divorce. Most judges are not going to like this and will likely see it for what it is and if you stay above it will make you look better and will help you in the long run.
Ok, here's an idea. You are just as entitled as your stbx to rent out the house. Whether or not you actually rent it out is almost irrelevant in this plan (which is to make their lives miserable).
You let your stbx know that you need help paying the mortgage, and unless he and the squatters start contributing (give actual amounts and due dates, with a basic lease form), so you will be looking for tenants to rent out (a) room(s). Put a posting (or a dozen) on FB for the rental at a VERY reasonable price to ensure a lot of interest. Proceed to have several showings per day for weeks. Especially at dinner time or when they will be home. Enlist friends or even see if you can get a real estate agent or a property mgmt company to do the showings. You might have to pay them, but you might not.
If they're not going to pay up, make their lives hell. Or, you might actually get some money out of the deal. I still think you need to talk to a different attorney about evicting them.
This takes so much energy. Bern is almost at the end...
Don't let this ruin your Christmas B - this nightmare will be over soon.
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on Dec 21, 2012 21:59:19 GMT -5
LMAO that emilie thinks she's going to have ideas that haven't been tossed out already or that the lawyers Bernie has consulted haven't thought of. Okay...
This too shall pass. While it sucks when it is happening, she will come out of this stronger for the experience and wise beyond her years. It isn't easy to deal with nor it is fair, but I trust that she has spent more time than she cares to admit trying to find a way to make this all go away more quickly.
LMAO that emilie thinks she's going to have ideas that haven't been tossed out already or that the lawyers Bernie has consulted haven't thought of. Okay...
This too shall pass. While it sucks when it is happening, she will come out of this stronger for the experience and wise beyond her years. It isn't easy to deal with nor it is fair, but I trust that she has spent more time than she cares to admit trying to find a way to make this all go away more quickly.
My ideas are ingenious and awesome. End of replies.
Post by speckledfrog on Dec 21, 2012 22:07:45 GMT -5
emilie, Bernie's been doing this for a year at this point. I think she's doing what is easiest for her but that doesn't mean that his actions aren't irritating as fuck.
emilie, Bernie's been doing this for a year at this point. I think she's doing what is easiest for her but that doesn't mean that his actions aren't irritating as fuck.
Well, yeah. I dont imagine she's been sitting around twiddling her thumbs for 11 months. I'm just playing into the "What could I do to fuck with him" scenarios for nights when she can't sleep. I dont expect that she's really going to do it, just like I'm sure she isnt seriously going to have all of her friends nut punch him. It's revenge fantasy. I still think consulting with a real estate attorney couldn't hurt, but obviously that's up to her and how far she wants to go.
I see nothing wrong with as many people being indignant on bern's behalf as she can get. Even if ideas have been thought of or tried already, let 'em loose. Let's hope it counts as more karma coming for the douche squatter xh.
I'd fucking move back in. OMG. All my shit, right in the living room. You want to live here for free? Enjoy, fuckers. I'm making curry every night and no, I'm not picking up my shit.
Post by wrathofkuus on Dec 22, 2012 0:56:23 GMT -5
Are people really suggesting that paying for a roof over this crotchwaffle's head while living with her parents is going to somehow benefit her in the long run? That's horseshit and you all know it.
People need to watch Blackadder's Christmas Carol instead of the Dickens one over the holidays. It carries a much truer, more useful lesson.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Dec 22, 2012 1:36:49 GMT -5
He is most definitely getting money from them to stay there. Most likely in the form of cash. Are there any utilities still in your name there? Because I would be shutting those bad boys off today.
I'll burn the fucker down. Sneak in and leave the stove on with tissues lying around way too close, then you collect the insurance money. I'll make sure no one is home first.
Having worked in retail, people come in an reek of curry. They return clothing that smells so bad we can't put it back on the floor to sell. Sometimes they'll dump a bag of returns on the counter. The smell wafts up so badly that you almost throw up right on the counter and I am not exaggerating or kidding.
People that cook with curry don't realize they carry the scent with them, that it oozes out of their pores. It is really horrible.