Honeymoon Fundraiser

[dulcemariamar]

Silly Me!! I decided to lurk over on the Honeymoon board during lunch and I came across this gem.

A girl wanted to know if it was a good idea to start a fundraiser so she could get money to pay for her wedding and/or honeymoon. She got this great idea because a friend of hers, started one to raise money to help pay the vet bills for a dog she found abandoned.


What do you think? How tacky is it? What would you say if a family member or friend decided to create a fundraiser to pay for their wedding?

[clickerish]

Seriously!?! If you can't afford a wedding, don't have one! Almost everyone can afford a wedding, but they don't want the type they can afford. And I will BET you that after the fundraiser, she would still expect guests to bring a gift.

[mrspurdy]

In Manitoba, Canada where I grew up. We have a thing called a wedding social. You need to bring your Wedding license to the liquor board and apply for a license. You rent a hall decorate, get raffle prizes and food. You sell tickets ahead of time for the dance, people come buy drinks and raffle tickets. It is a big party. There is a risk if you don't sell enough tickets you don't make any money. What ever money you make goes towards your wedding. However this is a very popular thing and a lot of fun.
However I think that is a different thing then just going around asking for money for your wedding.

[elenetxu]

May 28, 2012 8:41:32 GMT -5 mrspurdy said:

In Manitoba, Canada where I grew up. We have a thing called a wedding social. You need to bring your Wedding license to the liquor board and apply for a license. You rent a hall decorate, get raffle prizes and food. You sell tickets ahead of time for the dance, people come buy drinks and raffle tickets. It is a big party. There is a risk if you don't sell enough tickets you don't make any money. What ever money you make goes towards your wedding. However this is a very popular thing and a lot of fun.
However I think that is a different thing then just going around asking for money for your wedding.

I've also seen them held in Ontario and in New England. I had a lot of fun - and won a bunch of stuff! We all had a wicked good time and it was a lot more relaxed than the wedding itself.

I think if a wedding fundraiser is done like this, than I'm totally ok with it.



Edit to add: I just remembered what they call it in southern Ontario. It's a "Jack and Jill" party.

[anna7602]

Shrugs. Nothing really surprises me anymore about the things people ask for. However, the terminology here is kind of bothersome. I have seen honeymoon registries, but never a "fundraiser."

[trotamundos]

DH and I will celebrate our second anniversary in September and are still saving for our honeymoon... granted, we knew we wouldn't have time to travel after our wedding, so it's been fun to plan a trip for someday. I don't think "fundraiser" would sit very well with me (or most people I know). Then again, the attitudes of younger people today (at least in the US) towards being gifted/given almost everything (as opposed to working for something) makes me think this idea will become increasingly common.

[clogged]

Tacky.

And how she can equate a pretty pretty princess day and/or private vaca dedicated to bumping uglies with her newbie husband with urgent medical needs of a stray animal is disturbing.

[crimsonandclover]

The description of the fundraiser in Ontario sounds like it would be fun. I would go if it were a good friend or if friends were going to an acquaintance's party. So I guess it depends on how it's done. Before I read mrspurdy's post, though, all I could think was - tacky, tacky, tacky.