Who has the worst MIL?

[underwaterrhymes]

I can't offer a thing here. I adore my MIL.

But I think Sue has a firm hold on this one. It would take a lot to knock this particular crown off her head.

[Jermys]

My MIL is a saint. But I had a friend whose MIL pinched her 6 month old son hard enough to raise a welt on his baby thigh. Shockingly, she is still alive.

[Deleted]

people, please. it is que. don't even.

[balletofangels]

I feel bad complaining about my MIL because she lost her "filter" when she had a stroke, but she's very, very weight obsessed. To the point of calling my rolly polly baby "fatso" and telling me that I'm lucky you can't tell how fat I am (when I was almost at my thinnest fwiw) from pictures because from the neck up I look "normal."
ETA: I agree, from what I recall there is really no competition with Sue Sue's MIL.

[Jermys]

Dude, Betch, holy fuck.

[Deleted]

As much as I hate my MIL, I really don't think she is the worst MIL on ML, that's for sure.

[Deleted]

She bought me a sewing machine and a mixer in an attempt to make me more domestic.

And refused to help me sew napkins for he wedding. I do not sew. She does.

[frauschmindy]

My MIL let herself into our home while we were on our honeymoon and repainted, installed a security door and "renovated" the kitchen and bathroom. And then cried when we flipped the fuck out that we ruined her life.

I think that's probably the worst thing.

[PinkSquirrel]

One time I pressed charges against my FIL for throwing me down a small flight of stairs. I can see in hindsight that he was in fact trying to protect me from my beast of a MIL who was about to hit me

[sparkythelawyer]

I'm not familiar with Que's MIL stuff. I just know it exists. How did I miss this?

As I am not familiar, I vote Sue's. But could be easily persuaded here :-)

[Deleted]

My MIL gave us a how-to sex book (H was a virgin when we married) in front of his entire family and then told me that she wanted to make sure we got off on a better start than she and FIL did because if they had maybe thier sex life would have been better now. Maybe that's not bad, but H was pretty mortified (He's a prude sometimes) and ew at the sex visual.

eta: oh then there was ornament-gate of 2012. She returned the ornaments and tea towels we got her LAST Christmas at Thanksgiving this year saying she didn't really like them and thought we could use them more than she would. 8-D

[Deleted]

Que, didn't your MIL wear a wedding dress to YOUR wedding? Or am I thinking of someone else?

[Jermys]

Dec 22, 2012 23:31:55 GMT -5 tators said:

Dec 22, 2012 23:21:30 GMT -5 Jermys said:

My MIL is a saint. But I had a friend whose MIL pinched her 6 month old son hard enough to raise a welt on his baby thigh. Shockingly, she is still alive.

WHAT?!

She's an attention whore, and I think she was upset that he was getting all of the attention.

[Jermys]

Oh Que. I had forgotten about the objecting.

[statlerwaldorf]

MIL is a drug addict. She was physically abusive to DH when he was a child. She stole DH's identity when he was an adult. We never really see her.

[PinkSquirrel]

Dec 22, 2012 23:28:46 GMT -5 mofongo said:

Dec 22, 2012 23:26:58 GMT -5 PinkSquirrel said:

One time I pressed charges against my FIL for throwing me down a flight of stairs. I can see in hindsight that he was in fact trying to protect me from my beast of a MIL who was about to hit me

What??

I just edited to add it was a shorter flight of stairs. I realize it may have sounded a worse than it was, but it was still some fucked up shit. We stopped speaking to them for 3 years shortly after that. It was the culmination of a 6 month long battle with them that was pretty much a nightmare

[Deleted]

Well, let's see.

- she's forever trying to manipulate my h against me. Every time things don't go her way she tries to get in my H's ear to tell him that I don't love him and that I will go for any man who will take me.
- when I was planning my wedding I mentioned something about candles and she went apeshit. She started screaming about how everyone was going to catch on fire and that this was HER WEDDING (said as she's smashing plates)
- she threw a wok lid at me
- when Sofia was 6 weeks old she was holding her and started screaming at me about how I'm a bad mom, swearing, freaking out. All while holding my kid who was crying for me. Oh, and every time I went to take Sofia away she would turn her back, so she was physically keeping my child from me.
- she tried to talk me me into changing my first name to something that suited her better and dropping my middle name entirely.
- she told me that it would be my fault if h and I ever divorced because as a woman I should always lay down and let him treat me however he sees fit
- women who are raped should just shut up and enjoy it. Yes, those were her actual words. This was said directly to my face after she found out that rape was how I was conceived. She said this 5 years ago and I still cannot forgive her, nor will I ever.
- I can't even begin to count the number of times she has tried to tell me everything that was wrong with me. It's just too much.

I'm sure I'm missing a bunch.

[statlerwaldorf]

I never realized people actually objected in real life. Holy crap.

[Deleted]

Guy- that is awful. Your MIL is a bitch.

[Deleted]

Dec 22, 2012 23:38:52 GMT -5 @amoosed said:

Guy- that is awful. Your MIL is a bitch.

She's easily the most disgusting person I've ever met in my life. Hands down.

[Deleted]

Wow. I was going to contribute, but after reading, I realize I got nothing.

GOAB, I am so sorry. She sounds horrible.

[Deleted]

Dec 22, 2012 23:40:35 GMT -5 @ygmg said:

Dec 22, 2012 23:38:52 GMT -5 @amoosed said:

Guy- that is awful. Your MIL is a bitch.

She's easily the most disgusting person I've ever met in my life. Hands down.

do you still see her? if so, i'm perplexed. half of what you summarized is sufficient for a lifetime cutoff, imo.

[frauschmindy]

Guy, omg. Terrible.

I have plenty of "Mil is a shitty bitch" stories, but I'll just leave it at the redecorating incident and throw in that she never cut the cord. That, plus the fact that she hates me, pretty much sums our relationship up nicely. We don't really talk.

[fuckyourcouch]

- told me (and H) she didn't like me because I wasn't blonde or from the south
- refused to learn anything about me and to speak to me directly - she would ask my H things about me while I was sitting next to him.
- after we got engaged, told my H she hoped we would hurry up and get divorced
- told me my mom wasn't allowed to participate in any wedding activities because she went wedding dress shopping with me instead of MIL. I told her she was insane.
- after she told my H some really mean shit about me (and him) and then refused to attend his college graduation if I did (I did), we stopped talking to them. She blamed us.
- made up cancer and some other illnesses to the point of getting hospitalized (and then told to leave) to try to get my H to give her attention
- FIL had 2 affairs and blamed it on H not having a relationship with them due to their behavior.
- told H's little brother a bunch of shit like H hated him (the kid was 12 at the time :/) and that he wasn't allowed to talk to him
- H's best friend's parents, who stepped in as his parents for our wedding, received a call from MIL and FIL during our honeymoon telling them they were horrible people for being kind to us. It was awful and luckily they told MIL and FIL they were insane and to leave them and us alone.
- continue to send H birthday cards each year that say things like "I hope you grow up someday" and "if FYC loved you, she would tell you to leave her and come back to us"

I'm too tired to list more. She fucking sucks and so does FIL.

[papie]

I could do a worst FIL contest. But my MIL is a sweetheart (married to an asshole).

[fuckyourcouch]

Oh wait, I forgot how she told H she couldn't wait until we had kids so that when we sent them to visit (LOLOLOL) she could tell them all the things she didn't like about me.

[Deleted]

i don't know if this is nearly as bad as some of these.

but she hit me last thanksgiving.

[textbookcase]

Alright, you guys win.

Que, I can't believe she OBJECTED.

GOAB, she sounds awful

[Deleted]

Dec 22, 2012 23:43:38 GMT -5 cville said:

Dec 22, 2012 23:40:35 GMT -5 @ygmg said:

She's easily the most disgusting person I've ever met in my life. Hands down.

do you still see her? if so, i'm perplexed. half of what you summarized is sufficient for a lifetime cutoff, imo.

Not really. I never talk to her and my h doesn't want much to do with her. It's a complicated situation because my fil is amazing. Hes my H's idol. Plus, my h has a 13 year old sister who he adores. To cut out my mil completely would mean he can't see his little sister or his dad. It's a shitty situation and I only see her when I reaaaaly have to. Mostly just holidays, even though we only live 30 minutes away from each other.

[fuckyourcouch]

Oh I forgot another gem (I swear I blocked some of it out): once we went to lunch with her and the waitress was a daughter of one of her friends. She actively tried to get my H to ask her out on a date. While I was sitting there. And we were engaged. My H flipped on her.