Car Wreck and Break Up 2012

[cardiganagain]

That is what my current prediciment is. Thursday day night driving home from the gym I was t-boned at 45 mph. DS was in the rear passenger seat. We were hit so hard the top buckles of his 5 point harness busted open and off. We rushed DS to the hospital. He is ok now, a nice big goose egg and body pain. I have about the same and that lovely bruise you get from the seat belt hitting you. My air bags did deploy and it was horrible.

It was the other drivers fault. We were driving straight in the left lane. The light was green. The other driver was headed the other way and was in the left turn yeild on green lane. He didn't see us until it was too late and he slammed right into us. Thankfully it only impacted the front and DS was on the complete opposite side of the impact zone.

Now to add insult to injury. I got into a fight with H last night and it just came out that I didn't love him anymore. I have no idea what we are going to do. I am currently driving H's car to get to work. H is home with DS until Jan 9th (when DS goes back to school) I can't/won't leave my apartment. I already pay 75% of the bills and don't have any where to go right now.

So now I'm freaking scared and stressed and sad. I freaking hate this entire year. :-( :-( :-( :-(

[Jalapeñomel]

Dude, that's terrifying. I am glad to know you are all OK.

Sorry about the big fight

[alzi]

Holy crap, I'm glad you guys are ok after such a scary wreck!

[lightbulbsun]

That's so scary! I'm glad you and your DS are ok!

I'm sorry you got into a fight with your H.

[ginger]

Glad you're okay.

[Deleted]

((evee)) I'm glad y'all weren't seriously hurt and that you and DS are okay. I'm sorry you fought with H but things will work themselves out.

[cardiganagain]

Yes unfortunately that fight puts a big fat krinkle in my plans. I'm completely unprepared now. I wanted to be prepared for when the split happened. I do feel somewhat relieved that I don't have to pretend to love him anymore. It still sucks that I'm completely unprepared though.

[cardiganagain]

I'm just going to AW a picture of the car too.

[saraandmichael]

i'm sorry to hear of your accident, but am glad that you and your little one are well.

don't be scared about the break up...its a brand new start for you. just remember to remain calm and in control of your actions and be as nice and positive as you can until he moves out.

[Deleted]

Glad you and DS are okay!

[cardiganagain]

Dec 24, 2012 9:00:51 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

i'm sorry to hear of your accident, but am glad that you and your little one are well.

don't be scared about the break up...its a brand new start for you. just remember to remain calm and in control of your actions and be as nice and positive as you can until he moves out.

That's my plan. I have no idea what I'm going to do about a vehicle. The other driver has insurance but I don't know if will cover a rental for me. Heck, my car might be totalled. I have gap protection thankfully. I'm not really sure how gap protection works though.

[Deleted]

Shit evee. I am glad you are okay.

As for everything else there is no place to go but forward. I agree w pps -- dont sweat it now.

[idoinjuly]

I'm so sorry Evee. Thank goodness you and DS are ok. That's the most important thing. Good luck with the rest. Hope you find a way to enjoy your Christmas.

[lilafowler]

I'm glad you guys are ok-how scary.

[Deleted]

Don't worry about the insurance for now. If you have questions, call your insurance. That's what they're there for sweetie. Just get to feeling better and take it easy hon. Car accidents suck

[Ruby Gloom]

Oh Evee. I'm so sorry about everything. I am glad, though, that you and your little boy are ok. How absolutely terrifying!

I know that you weren't planning on talking to your H quite yet, but now the stress of having to pretend won't haunt you. You guys will come to some sort of arrangement and although it is not what you had planned, it will be ok.

((hugs))

[cardiganagain]

Dec 24, 2012 9:13:17 GMT -5 Ruby Gloom said:

Oh Evee. I'm so sorry about everything. I am glad, though, that you and your little boy are ok. How absolutely terrifying!

I know that you weren't planning on talking to your H quite yet, but now the stress of having to pretend won't haunt you. You guys will come to some sort of arrangement and although it is not what you had planned, it will be ok.

((hugs))

Yes. I have no idea what we are going to do tonight since it's Christmas Eve or for the future. He doesn't really have any where to go either. He could stay with his sister, but it would be very difficult.

I'm guessing we will likely still both live at the apartment until October when the lease is up. We will have to work out some kind of arrangement. I think tonite we are both staying at the apartment, so we can still give DS a nice Christmas morning (so he'll think Santa came) After tonight, I have no clue.

[saraandmichael]

Dec 24, 2012 9:02:48 GMT -5 cardiganagain said:

Dec 24, 2012 9:00:51 GMT -5 saraandmichael said:

i'm sorry to hear of your accident, but am glad that you and your little one are well.

don't be scared about the break up...its a brand new start for you. just remember to remain calm and in control of your actions and be as nice and positive as you can until he moves out.

That's my plan. I have no idea what I'm going to do about a vehicle. The other driver has insurance but I don't know if will cover a rental for me. Heck, my car might be totalled. I have gap protection thankfully. I'm not really sure how gap protection works though.

the other company should cover a rental for you, but only until your car is deemed totaled (or, at least, thats how it worked for me when my car was stolen...as soon as it was recovered and deemed a total loss my insurance stopped paying).

gap protection will cover the difference between the money your insurance will give you for the car (if it is totaled) and the amount you owe on the loan, so you should walk away from it not owing anything.

[chedominique]

Dec 24, 2012 8:48:51 GMT -5 frkls said:

2013 will be better. it will be THE YEAR OF EVEE!

:Y: I pray that 2013 will be a lot better for you.

I'm glad that you and your son and okay. And I'm sorry about the fight with your H.

[thebamker]

so you were T-boned or you T-boned someone else? your car looks like you were the T-boner. I don't get it..

[mudslide]

That accident sounds really scary. ((Hugs))

[cardiganagain]

Dec 24, 2012 9:59:43 GMT -5 thebamker said:

so you were T-boned or you T-boned someone else? your car looks like you were the T-boner. I don't get it..

I was going straight/forward and he pulled out in front me from making the left turn yield on green turn.

I had the green light/ the right of way.

[latte]

Yikes. Glad you and your DS are ok!

[thebamker]

Dec 24, 2012 10:03:05 GMT -5 cardiganagain said:

Dec 24, 2012 9:59:43 GMT -5 thebamker said:

so you were T-boned or you T-boned someone else? your car looks like you were the T-boner. I don't get it..

I was going straight/forward and he pulled out in front me from making the left turn yield on green turn.

I had the green light/ the right of way.

Ok, but your car hit the other car in the side, right?

You can T-bone someone and it is still their fault.

To say you were T-boned means a car ran into the side of your car.

[cardiganagain]

I see what you are saying. I was vertical. He was horizontal.

[speckledfrog]

Either that's not a picture of your car or your story is incorrect. You said the other driver slammed into you and that DS was on the opposite side of the impact. Then you post a pic with front end damage and say that you hit the other driver. Add in the fact that you had an accident on Thursday and we're just now hearing about it and absolutely nothing adds up.

[bleubook]

Olson you weren't t boned. But regardless. It wasn't your fault and thank god you are okay. I'm not happy your marriage is ending I know first hand how painful that is but I am happy that you have finally made a decision. This has been a long time coming. And please, don't even think about finishing the lease with him. That's a recipe for disaster.

[cardiganagain]

Dec 24, 2012 11:02:13 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Either that's not a picture of your car or your story is incorrect. You said the other driver slammed into you and that DS was on the opposite side of the impact. Then you post a pic with front end damage and say that you hit the other driver. Add in the fact that you had an accident on Thursday and we're just now hearing about it and absolutely nothing adds up.

I'm guessing my explanations haven't been clear because sadly, that is my car and I'm not telling any lies here. I took this picture Saturday. I had to go to the towing yard to see the damages, clean out my stuff and take pictures.

I have front damage (obviously). He has right side damage. The accident did happen on Thursday night, late. I didn't get to bed until 2 am Friday morning (because we were at the hospital) and I still had to work the next day. I didn't post until today because I was really busy this weekend. I also usually don't weekend or after work post.

[Kit]

Glad you guys are ok!

[cardiganagain]

Dec 24, 2012 11:03:15 GMT -5 bleubook said:

Olson you weren't t boned. But regardless. It wasn't your fault and thank god you are okay. I'm not happy your marriage is ending I know first hand how painful that is but I am happy that you have finally made a decision. This has been a long time coming. And please, don't even think about finishing the lease with him. That's a recipe for disaster.

I pay the majority of the bills at our place, and have no where else to go. I have no intention of leaving until the lease is up. If he chooses to leave that is up to him.