I think I just pissed off my ILs.

[gretchenindisguise]

Whoops!

AIL was wrapping presents that they brought, which is a ton. Imagine giant suitcase with toys and clothes all for L.

They wanted them to all be from Santa.

I told them no, they can give her 3-4 gifts from Santa, the rest from them.

A few reasons, but mostly I don't want L to think she gets 30 presents from Santa and then next year only get 5 when they aren't here.

How mean am I on a scale of 1-10?

[cahabalily]

Your daughter, your rules.

[sake]

No, they don't need to be from Santa. L gets to enjoy them either way. A few can be from Santa, the rest can be from them. That's nothing that they need to be pissed about!

[peach]

You are right. They are wrong.

[pinkeggs]

TeamGretchen. That would setting a ridiculous standard.

[Jalapeñomel]

Your daughter, you make the rules.

[gretchenindisguise]

Here's the thing, I think she would notice that we are giving presents to them and they aren't giving presents to her. She gets caught up on things I wouldn't notice.

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[Deleted]

That's not mean at all.

You are properly managing expectations for the future.

[Deleted]

Dec 24, 2012 20:10:21 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Here's the thing, I think she would notice that we are giving presents to them and they aren't giving presents to her. She gets caught up on things I wouldn't notice.

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That would be a moment to teach her that Christmas is about giving, not recieving.

I get the setting a precedent thing, though. If Santa presents are unwrapped while other presents are wrapped she would probably pick up on it and remember,

[gretchenindisguise]

Dec 24, 2012 20:43:07 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

Dec 24, 2012 20:10:21 GMT -5 gretchenindisguise said:

Here's the thing, I think she would notice that we are giving presents to them and they aren't giving presents to her. She gets caught up on things I wouldn't notice.

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That would be a moment to teach her that Christmas is about giving, not recieving.

I get the setting a precedent thing, though. If Santa presents are unwrapped while other presents are wrapped she would probably pick up on it and remember,

My mom always did Santa presents in Santa specific paper. That's what I do now


And you don't think it'd be odd to ostensibly not get a single present from his entire family?

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[bab]

What is AIL? I keep forgetting to ask

[Deleted]

I think she's too young to pick up on the social weirdness of it, but you could always tell her that they gave Santa their lists for her.

[Deleted]

I would think it would be odd for her to not receive any gifts from the family. Is there a reason they don't want her to know that any of their gifts actually came from them? FWIW, I think you are right and I would tell my ILs the same thing if I were in your situation.

[bab]

Also, you are not being mean. My DD would get stuck on something like that too and ask about it a year later. Her memory is astounding!!!

[gretchenindisguise]

Dec 24, 2012 20:49:08 GMT -5 bab said:

What is AIL? I keep forgetting to ask

Aunt In Law.

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[gretchenindisguise]

Dec 24, 2012 20:49:48 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

I think she's too young to pick up on the social weirdness of it, but you could always tell her that they gave Santa their lists for her.

She picks up on things that astound me. I'm trying to think of an example and I can't.

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[Bonita]

Oh well for them, I think what you did was just fine

[eb777888]

Dec 24, 2012 19:59:03 GMT -5 cahabalily said:

Your daughter, your rules.

:Y:

And if they are seriously mad over this then they are weirdos.

[pugz]

I have never heard of santa gifts coming from anyone other than the parents. Team you.

[pugz]

I have never heard of santa gifts coming from anyone other than the parents. Team you.

[drrn04]

You're right, and you're the mom, so you make the rules. They'll get over it. And I get what you mean about kids picking up on that stuff. They're smart little buggers.

[jayded]

Not mean at all.

[Raggedeannie]

Dec 24, 2012 22:05:45 GMT -5 pugz said:

I have never heard of santa gifts coming from anyone other than the parents. Team you.

This!