Moms - birthday party gift help needed

[changedname]

I am not a mom yet so need some help. It's kind of a 2 parter.

1) I'm going to a friend's ds 2nd birthday party tomorrow. I went to TRUS last night but all the toys are 3+ or for babies. Are those guidelines really strict?

I ended up getting a Cookie Monster teddy bear thing and the only Playdoh set that said 2+ instead of 3+.

2) Then this morning we got an email saying that Santa spoiled him too much so they don't want gifts at all. (His birthday is 27th Dec). Should I still take my gifts and keep them in the car in case? I don't want to be the only person who shows up without something but I want to respect the mom's wishes too.

I feel like this poor boy is going to get shafted every year. Other kids get spoiled at Christmas then get their birthday in June or whatever. I feel bad not getting him something. (I didn't get him a Christmas gift). Obviously this is the parent's choice and nothing to do with me. I almost think they should do a birthday for him in Feb or something.

[pierogigirl]

I think the parents dropped the ball if they waited until now to tell you no gifts. I'd give them.

[MamaMaui24]

I'd respect the parent's wishes and not take anything.

Maybe I'm a scrooge, but if someone tells me not to get something - I'm going to listen!