I'm a meanie

[sara76]

I told H last night that he needs to become comfortable with Amelia being an only child. I'm going to call my Dr and get an IUD. I have a knot in my back and it's sore and I can't take a muscle relaxer because I'm still nursing and can't just go get a massage because he's working all the time. I've been complaining about it for over a week. And if one little knot is such a problem in my life I'm going to call it a day on baby making. I wasn't an awesome pregnant lady. I'm really enjoying A a lot. I'd like to continue to do that. It's kind of bittersweet, but I'm tapping out.

[babybchbum]

Hey and IUD isn't permanent so if at some point down the line you change your mind it can still happen,

[amellis2]

Dec 28, 2012 16:37:19 GMT -5 babybchbum said:

Hey and IUD isn't permanent so if at some point down the line you change your mind it can still happen,

Definitely not permanent. And definitely not 100% effective (fail rate is .5 percent, so awesome comparatively.)

But for us it has been great so far and I like the fact that I don't have to do anything!

Go for it, Meanie!

[aegis2005]

If you're a meanie, then I'm a meanie too.

[mrschelseap09]

We are all meanies. I would look into other options than the IUD. I am having serious problems with mine, I am calling the doctor next week... I was holding off until after the holidays.

[sara76]

Chelsea, What are you going to do besides the IUD? I can't take the pill and my insurance doesn't cover the ring or patch anymore unfortunately. I loved them both.

H is starting to be understanding of this but he's super disappointed. He was ok with having none, but now that we have 1 he doesn't want her growing up alone with 2 old parents. I just keep reminding him its his fault he took 4 years to propose. Now I'm old

[amellis2]

I'm curious, too, Chelsea. Mine has been amazing so far (but I know you've had yours for a little bit longer.)

I have a cycle that I can set a clock by for the first time in my life!

sara, tell him you are open to adopting an older child, lol. Then A-monkey won't be alone and you don't have to be pregnant again!

[alzi]

Someone on ML recently got pregnant with her IUD.

Be careful yo.

Or don't. You make such pretty babies!

[mrschelseap09]

amellis...I just recently started having problems within the past couple of months. I swear I can feel it when I bend in certain directions. It's causing me to cramp and bleed at random times. H says that he can feel it.

Sara, I am undecided. I may chart, H may get snipped or we may go back to condoms. Anything is better than the crazy mood swings that I have been having. I had no luck with the pill either, it made me extremely sick (probably a sign I was in for a horrible pregnancy). My hair hasn't been growing either, I think its from the IUD.

[aegis2005]

Sara - what options does your insurance cover? Not that I'm an expert on options related to birth control; I haven't taken anything for three years (well except when I took BCP as part of my IVF cycles) and was on BCP for 7 years prior to that.

FWIW - my SIL has had an IUD for 18 months and hasn't had any issues with it.

[sara76]

I'm pretty sure just the oral. I don't even know if they cover any part of the IUD. I'm planning on calling after we get back from our trip to NY in Feb. I'll do the math and see if it is more cost effective than the ring. I figure its gotta be considering the length if time it's good for.

[amellis2]

I'm supremely pissed. I just checked United for contraception coverage and they do not cover Paragard, Mirena, or Implanon. WTF. Why does insurance not cover long term birth control? Medicaid covers IUDs. I hope I have different insurance when the time comes to choose something else.

Maybe I will see if UHC cover essure or something. CHEESE AND CRACKERS!!

ETA: Oh, I know why. Because they make more money off of pregnancy and maternity care vs. women who choose to go long periods of the time between children.

[mskateb]

Dec 29, 2012 14:31:56 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

I'm supremely pissed. I just checked United for contraception coverage and they do not cover Paragard, Mirena, or Implanon. WTF. Why does insurance not cover long term birth control? Medicaid covers IUDs. I hope I have different insurance when the time comes to choose something else.

Maybe I will see if UHC cover essure or something. CHEESE AND CRACKERS!!

ETA: Oh, I know why. Because they make more money off of pregnancy and maternity care vs. women who choose to go long periods of the time between children.

I'm thinking you've got it backwards. Prenatal care and the cost of giving birth are really expensive to insurance companies, which is why I've never understood the reluctance to cover bc. Maybe they don't cover Mirena and the others you've mentioned because they are more expensive than cheap-o pills, at least until their patents expire.

Chelsea, have you tried low-dose birth control pills? I had better luck with those and the side effects.

Personally, I'm done with birth control. I've done more than my fair share in the reproductive arena. I don't mind condoms, anyway, until H decides to go for the snip snip. I'm not 1,000% sure we're not going to have a third, but I seriously, seriously, seriously doubt it. Sometimes I think we're crazy for having a second because I often feel like I can't handle the one I have. But it's too late for that. We'll just be a little crazier, I guess.

[tashaandsage]

Dec 29, 2012 21:31:16 GMT -5 mskateb said:

Personally, I'm done with birth control. I've done more than my fair share in the reproductive arena. I don't mind condoms, anyway, until H decides to go for the snip snip. I'm not 1,000% sure we're not going to have a third, but I seriously, seriously, seriously doubt it. Sometimes I think we're crazy for having a second because I often feel like I can't handle the one I have. But it's too late for that. We'll just be a little crazier, I guess.

I definitely have my days that I question my sanity in having a third, but I keep being reassured that anything after two really isn't as much of an adjustment as going from zero to one or one to two. Besides that whole being outnumbered thing. And if that turns out not being true, we'll just learn to deal with the craziness. In any case, a snip is most definitely in my H's very near future. This 100% it for us.

Sara, I totally get your decision to stop now and enjoy what you've already got. I will say though, you are doing the world a bit of an injustice by denying it another ridiculously adorable baby

[mrschelseap09]

Dec 29, 2012 21:31:16 GMT -5 mskateb said:

Chelsea, have you tried low-dose birth control pills? I had better luck with those and the side effects.

I have not. The Mirena was supposed to be low hormone and I have crazy mood swings that I have never had before. The more that I think about it, I think I am done with BC all together. We will probably just go back to using condoms. What a waste the Mirena was. My BFF has gotten it several times and never had an issue.... she has also had 2 perfect pregnancies. lol.

[amellis2]

Dec 29, 2012 21:31:16 GMT -5 mskateb said:

Dec 29, 2012 14:31:56 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

I'm supremely pissed. I just checked United for contraception coverage and they do not cover Paragard, Mirena, or Implanon. WTF. Why does insurance not cover long term birth control? Medicaid covers IUDs. I hope I have different insurance when the time comes to choose something else.

Maybe I will see if UHC cover essure or something. CHEESE AND CRACKERS!!

ETA: Oh, I know why. Because they make more money off of pregnancy and maternity care vs. women who choose to go long periods of the time between children.

I'm thinking you've got it backwards. Prenatal care and the cost of giving birth are really expensive to insurance companies, which is why I've never understood the reluctance to cover bc. Maybe they don't cover Mirena and the others you've mentioned because they are more expensive than cheap-o pills, at least until their patents expire.

Chelsea, have you tried low-dose birth control pills? I had better luck with those and the side effects.

Personally, I'm done with birth control. I've done more than my fair share in the reproductive arena. I don't mind condoms, anyway, until H decides to go for the snip snip. I'm not 1,000% sure we're not going to have a third, but I seriously, seriously, seriously doubt it. Sometimes I think we're crazy for having a second because I often feel like I can't handle the one I have. But it's too late for that. We'll just be a little crazier, I guess.

Yeah, ignore me. I was on a lot of cold med (today is the first day I have not felt like I was dying...and I go back to work tomorrow. Way to spend my break!) and pissed off. I hated BC pills and both times I was pg, I was taking bc pills.

[mrschelseap09]

Dec 30, 2012 19:25:50 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

Dec 29, 2012 21:31:16 GMT -5 mskateb said:

I'm thinking you've got it backwards. Prenatal care and the cost of giving birth are really expensive to insurance companies, which is why I've never understood the reluctance to cover bc. Maybe they don't cover Mirena and the others you've mentioned because they are more expensive than cheap-o pills, at least until their patents expire.

Chelsea, have you tried low-dose birth control pills? I had better luck with those and the side effects.

Personally, I'm done with birth control. I've done more than my fair share in the reproductive arena. I don't mind condoms, anyway, until H decides to go for the snip snip. I'm not 1,000% sure we're not going to have a third, but I seriously, seriously, seriously doubt it. Sometimes I think we're crazy for having a second because I often feel like I can't handle the one I have. But it's too late for that. We'll just be a little crazier, I guess.

Yeah, ignore me. I was on a lot of cold med (today is the first day I have not felt like I was dying...and I go back to work tomorrow. Way to spend my break!) and pissed off. I hated BC pills and both times I was pg, I was taking bc pills.

My mom swears she was on BC with 8 of her 9 kids (1 was planned via IVF)

[amellis2]

Wait, will this hole thing change with 1/1/13 and the Affordable Healhtcare act? IF my employer doesn't have an issue with providing contraceptives, under AHCA, I should be able to have an IUD covered, yeah?

[mrschelseap09]

Dec 31, 2012 9:46:09 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

Wait, will this hole thing change with 1/1/13 and the Affordable Healhtcare act? IF my employer doesn't have an issue with providing contraceptives, under AHCA, I should be able to have an IUD covered, yeah?

I believe so. I read that Hobby Lobby is refusing some coverage and will be facing a 1.5 million a day fine for refusing contraceptive coverage based on religious beliefs.

[amellis2]

Dec 31, 2012 11:14:08 GMT -5 mrschelseap09 said:

Dec 31, 2012 9:46:09 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

Wait, will this hole thing change with 1/1/13 and the Affordable Healhtcare act? IF my employer doesn't have an issue with providing contraceptives, under AHCA, I should be able to have an IUD covered, yeah?

I believe so. I read that Hobby Lobby is refusing some coverage and will be facing a 1.5 million a day fine for refusing contraceptive coverage based on religious beliefs.

YES! /hissy fit!

Yeah, that is where I read about it. So, I wonder when that will be reflected on the United website.