Girl gets rest. order against helicopter parents

[Willis Jackson]

"We're not bothering her."

lol.

www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2012/12/student-restraining-order-against-helicopter-parents-stalking-video

[Balki.Bartokomous]

LMAO. Poor child. Having your tuition paid for & receiving impromptu visits is sort of part of the deal.

I wonder who paid for the cell phone & computer that she said they put tracking software on.

[pugz]

her parents sound crazy, making her keep her skype on all night so they could make sure she wasn't sneaking out to have sex, lol. Totally controlling crazy parents. I don't blame her for getting a RO.

[pugz]

they were also driving up there and meeting with her advisor/professors and telling them that they thought she was mentally ill and they wanted to get her committed.

[rubytue]

Not to mention "claiming that they stalked her, accused her of using illegal drugs, promiscuity and suffering from emotional woes," despite her making dean's list.

BTDT. My mother tried to check me into the residential treatment facility when I was in HS. Her justification: I was short-tempered and she found strange red pills in my purse. Never mind that the red pills were in a sudafed bottle. And were actually sudafed. Straight A student, in band and theater, never even drank or had sex until college.

Oh, and when I was in graduate school (age 26, after 3 years of of a real job, 6 years of having my own apartment, etc), she called the dean about me.

Say what you want that unexpected visits are part of the deal when someone pays for college, its no way to live to be constantly distrusted when you have done nothing to deserve it.

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At first I thought this girl was just a brat based on the headline. But reading the story it sounds like her parents are insane.

[bunch]

I like my mom a lot more than I did five minutes ago.

[Balki.Bartokomous]

Dec 28, 2012 19:11:11 GMT -5 rubytue said:

Not to mention "claiming that they stalked her, accused her of using illegal drugs, promiscuity and suffering from emotional woes," despite her making dean's list.

Eh, I know a bunch of straight-A students that were into those things. I don't think it's out of the norm for a parent to worry about that even if the kid's on the dean's list.

Her parents were surely helicopter parents to the extreme, but I do wonder what the other side to this story is.

The Skype thing is weird. Why would she not just shut her computer off?

[rubytue]

Worry, sure. Accuse? Monitor everything? Try to have her committed? This is beyond trust but verify. Especially for a 21 year old.

The school was even hiring security guard to keep them out of performances? Sounds like outsiders thought the parents, not the kid, were the problem.

Here is another article that is less blinding to read: news.cincinnati.com/article/20121225/NEWS0107/312230085/Judge-orders-parents-away-from-daughter?gcheck=1

[Velvetshady]

Dec 28, 2012 19:41:05 GMT -5 Balki.Bartokomous said:

Dec 28, 2012 19:11:11 GMT -5 rubytue said:

Not to mention "claiming that they stalked her, accused her of using illegal drugs, promiscuity and suffering from emotional woes," despite her making dean's list.

Eh, I know a bunch of straight-A students that were into those things. I don't think it's out of the norm for a parent to worry about that even if the kid's on the dean's list.

Her parents were surely helicopter parents to the extreme, but I do wonder what the other side to this story is.

The Skype thing is weird. Why would she not just shut her computer off?

I'll say it, I feel sorry for your kids.


Please do explain what "other side of the story" you believe would make the parents actions here "normal" or "justified"?

[stephm0188]

"The parents became such an issue that the school hired security guards to keep them out of their daughter’s performances. When the parents stopped paying her tuition because she’d cut off all contact with them, the school gave her a full scholarship for her final year.

The college senior decided to seek a civil stalking order to keep her parents away from her after they went to UC and told her college administrators they could seek to have her taken in for mental evaluations. She filed a Sept. 24 stalking order against her parents."
news.cincinnati.com/article/20121225/NEWS0107/312230085/

[Balki.Bartokomous]

Dec 28, 2012 19:54:53 GMT -5 Velvetshady said:

Dec 28, 2012 19:41:05 GMT -5 Balki.Bartokomous said:

Eh, I know a bunch of straight-A students that were into those things. I don't think it's out of the norm for a parent to worry about that even if the kid's on the dean's list.

Her parents were surely helicopter parents to the extreme, but I do wonder what the other side to this story is.

The Skype thing is weird. Why would she not just shut her computer off?

I'll say it, I feel sorry for your kids.


Please do explain what "other side of the story" you believe would make the parents actions here "normal" or "justified"?

Lol.

I'm not saying that they're not crazy, but I'm saying I would like to see the full testimony. Why would she keep Skype on all night? I'm totally stuck on that lol.

And I keep thinking about the straight-A student I know who OD'd on heroin and how his mom had no freakin' clue. Among others. Half the people in my HS were like this girl on paper but in reality were more like the kid her parents are saying she is, so that's why I'm wondering if there's another side to the story.

[pugz]

It doesn't matter what her extra curriculars were, the parents were out of line

[rubytue]

Because when you have someone crazy manipulating you with threats of showing up unannouced, going to the dean to have you committed, etc - you give in. When you have a parent who calls you 15 times a day, you answer the phone to stop the madness. It just feeds in to the whole cycle, but when its all you have ever known, you just do it. She is 21, just starting out as an adult, and just learning how to be an adult.

I was just talking to our intern today about living with a crazy parent. When its all you have ever known, its hard to separate the crazy from normal.

Clearly I'm relating to this girl way too much to be able to see the other side. But, you know, I was friggin 38 before I found out that not everyone believed my mom's side of the story (which is I was crazy, needed serious therapy, was a drug addict, and abandoned her just to hurt her). I've spent over 20 years thinking her whole side of the family thought she was a sweet, well-meaning parent and I was evil.

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And the crazy parents are from the next town over from me.

[pugz]

kcpoker there is some crazy shit being posted on the kshb facebook page about this story

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I wonder if there is a back story here. I have seen my share of helicopter nightmares but somehow I wonder.....

[pugz]

I doubt their behavior started when she left for college, I have a feeling they were all up in her business when she was at home too, it was probably just easier to get away with it, plus she was a kid so she couldn't do anything about it.

I know someone that had a similar kind of issue with her parents but the parents were uber religious and were trying to crack down on her rebellion. They'd regularly read her diary, make her watch Christian videos about honoring your parents and have her write essays about them, follow her around town when she was out with friends or on dates. But she was 16 at the time, not 21.