Stupid Vent

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My best friend is getting married in July. He, yes my best friend is a guy, has decided to get married in Jasper.

Jasper is about 4 hours from where we live. So we will have to get a hotel room for the night, if not 2.

I just got the invitation and it states clearly that there will be an ADULT reception and dance to follow the ceremony. I am all kinds of pissed off.

So now we will be travelling 4 hours for a 15 minute long reception and thats it. I texted him to let him know my feelings and thoughts. This is all his fiancees doing too.

You are probably thinking, leave Wy with your mom! Well he invited her too.

ARRRRRRGGGGGGG!

And on a side note, you expect all your family, who have kids as well, and friends with kids to travel upwards to 8 hours for a 15 minute ceremony because who has a babysitter lined up that far away from their homes??!!!!!!

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Sorry. All I can say is....its their wedding and they can plan it how they want. But I agree that sucks. If that was the case for us, I would probably just not go and send a gift if I was unable to find a trusted sitter.

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I know it is their wedding and all. But it is still frustrating.

And we cannot not go because I am doing her makeup and such.

It just annoys me because he made it VERY clear that Wyatt was invited to the wedding. Then to all of a sudden get an invitation where he isnt invited? Hmmmmm.

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That is curious. I'd tell them you don't have a sitter. So if kids aren't allowed, you can't do her make up. Bam!

[christidee]

Jan 3, 2013 12:32:54 GMT -5 hoodyhoo said:

Sorry. All I can say is....its their wedding and they can plan it how they want. But I agree that sucks. If that was the case for us, I would probably just not go and send a gift if I was unable to find a trusted sitter.

This. I would either not go as a family, or just go by myself for one night and leave LO with DH.

[sunshineluv]

Do you think there is a chance he can help you find a sitter? We had planned to have a place at the venue with a sitter for the kids. (but it wasn't needed).

[Dorothy Zbornak]

Jan 3, 2013 12:37:33 GMT -5 hoodyhoo said:

That is curious. I'd tell them you don't have a sitter. So if kids aren't allowed, you can't do her make up. Bam!

Yup.

Sent from the future.

[carawestt]

Is the reception the only part that's no kids allowed? If so, can't you just bring Wy, do her makeup, stay for he wedding and then leave? I would just explain that you would love to come to the reception but you don't have anywhere for Wy to go due to her "rules".

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How into weddings is your mom? Would she want to come, go to the ceremony and watch Wy?

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Jan 3, 2013 12:41:23 GMT -5 carawestt said:

Is the reception the only part that's no kids allowed? If so, can't you just bring Wy, do her makeup, stay for he wedding and then leave? I would just explain that you would love to come to the reception but you don't have anywhere for Wy to go.

Thats what Ive done, Ive told him we will come to the ceremony but that is it. It just is frustrating that we are driving 4 hours for 15 minutes. Im stoked he is getting married, it is just the first time hitting a hurdle like this and I didnt expect it from my best friend.

We will make the best of it and go to a child friendly venue for dinner on our own after the reception since we will have to stay over night anyway (Im not driving 8 hours in one day with him).

[carawestt]

Jan 3, 2013 12:43:57 GMT -5 @smudgee said:

Jan 3, 2013 12:41:23 GMT -5 carawestt said:

Is the reception the only part that's no kids allowed? If so, can't you just bring Wy, do her makeup, stay for he wedding and then leave? I would just explain that you would love to come to the reception but you don't have anywhere for Wy to go.

Thats what Ive done, Ive told him we will come to the ceremony but that is it. It just is frustrating that we are driving 4 hours for 15 minutes. Im stoked he is getting married, it is just the first time hitting a hurdle like this and I didnt expect it from my best friend.

We will make the best of it and go to a child friendly venue for dinner on our own after the reception since we will have to stay over night anyway (Im not driving 8 hours in one day with him).

Yeah, that's ridiculous. I would be pissed too. That's a long commute! I hate when people do stuff like this and then when they have kids and someone does something similar, they're so appalled.

[eav2c]

I totally get your frustrations. *NORMALLY* in this situation I would be like "eh, NBD" but he's your BEST FRIEND. Totally different situation, IMO. I am at a lack of words, but yeah, I'd be all sorts of annoyed/pissed off/ragey about it. I'm sorry. Maybe his FI will change her mind??

I probably wouldn't make the drive for a 15 minute ceremony, FWIW. There will be so many people (I'm assuming here) that unless you're in the wedding, he might not even realize you weren't there? I still don't know who was and wasn't at my ceremony.

ETA: Wait, you're doing her makeup? You are a much nicer person than I!

ETA2: Who sends wedding invites in January for a wedding in July? :-| That's asking for everyone to forget unless it was Save the Dates.

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Jan 3, 2013 12:51:06 GMT -5 eav2c said:

I totally get your frustrations. *NORMALLY* in this situation I would be like "eh, NBD" but he's your BEST FRIEND. Totally different situation, IMO. I am at a lack of words, but yeah, I'd be all sorts of annoyed/pissed off/ragey about it. I'm sorry. Maybe his FI will change her mind??

I probably wouldn't make the drive for a 15 minute ceremony, FWIW. There will be so many people (I'm assuming here) that unless you're in the wedding, he might not even realize you weren't there? I still don't know who was and wasn't at my ceremony.

ETA: Wait, you're doing her makeup? You are a much nicer person than I!

ETA2: Who sends wedding invites in January for a wedding in July? That's asking for everyone to forget unless it was Save the Dates.

Oh, no these arent their save the dates... it is their actual invitations. And he hasnt even texted me back yet which makes me rage even more because I know he isnt working. Arg.

Oh well. Im over it. No really, but I will pretend.

And it is a small wedding of 40 people total. Out of those 40 people you couldnt allow them to bring their kids?

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I would totes call the fiancee and be like..."So when can I speak with the babysitter you guys have hired for the reception?"

[eav2c]

Jan 3, 2013 13:06:46 GMT -5 @smudgee said:

Jan 3, 2013 12:51:06 GMT -5 eav2c said:

I totally get your frustrations. *NORMALLY* in this situation I would be like "eh, NBD" but he's your BEST FRIEND. Totally different situation, IMO. I am at a lack of words, but yeah, I'd be all sorts of annoyed/pissed off/ragey about it. I'm sorry. Maybe his FI will change her mind??

I probably wouldn't make the drive for a 15 minute ceremony, FWIW. There will be so many people (I'm assuming here) that unless you're in the wedding, he might not even realize you weren't there? I still don't know who was and wasn't at my ceremony.

ETA: Wait, you're doing her makeup? You are a much nicer person than I!

ETA2: Who sends wedding invites in January for a wedding in July? That's asking for everyone to forget unless it was Save the Dates.

Oh, no these arent their save the dates... it is their actual invitations. And he hasnt even texted me back yet which makes me rage even more because I know he isnt working. Arg.

Oh well. Im over it. No really, but I will pretend.

And it is a small wedding of 40 people total. Out of those 40 people you couldnt allow them to bring their kids?

Wow. Well, I bet the wedding will be MUCH smaller if they are sending invites out... Now.

Update when he texts you back. I am not a fan of child-free weddings and also personally think babies should be exempt. It's totally different than bringing around like a 7 year old (who would probably want to stay home anyway).

[carawestt]

Also, you would think she would make an exception for you since you're doing her makeup! And like eav said, I feel like the no kids rule shouldn't apply to babies since they don't take up a seat, eat a meal or run around and disrupt things..

[rxbeth]

We had no children at our wedding but if anyone had a baby, that would have been fine with us. I would maybe double check with your bff. Maybe it was worded that way because they didn't want kids of cousins or something like that.