I feel bad

[lauren9317]

A few weeks ago, a new guy started at my workplace. His name sounded familiar and I realized he was a long lost friend of MH's from HS! I had never met him, but I had heard his name over the years and it was definitely the same guy. I let H know, and then I ended up training the guy and he saw my wedding pic on my desk, so all was figured out. He thought it was cool and gave me his number and asked for H to call him so they could catch up.

MH doesn't want to call him. Apparently some stuff happened during their HS years that makes H think it's best not to "get back involved" with him. But none of "the stuff" has ever been proven to have actually happened. Still, H doesn't want to bother.

The guy knows that H has his phone number and he was even like "just tell him to text me at some point, no rush". But I feel bad because he must obviously feel like MH doesn't want to talk to him. Otherwise H would have called him right away!

I'm hoping I can still get H to text him. I know I shouldn't force him to be friends with someone but I DO see this guy every day at work and I just feel bad...

[aegis2005]

That's a weird position to be in ... no advice, just wanted to commiserate that it's a weird position

[sara76]

Awkward for sure. My H doesn't like one of his HS friends husbands who he knows from college. It's totally awkward. If you handle the situation like we do its just a lot of avoidance.

[mrsjenrn]

That is definitely awkward for you so that sucks! There's really nothing you can do though!

[lauren9317]

Yeah it's weird H says he wouldn't mind reminiscing on the phone for a while, but he doesn't want to gtg with him in person. Every few days I've been asking if he thinks he'll contact him so maybe I will wear him down....lol.

[alzi]

your H should suck it up. he is going to make your work situation really awkward. they can text and he can just avoid making plans!!!

[jen812]

Can your H call to catch up & casually bring up the incident. Then he'll know for sure.

[lauren9317]

I talked to him about it last night and he is still being stubborn! It's so frustrating. He's like "I would never put you in the same situation." Arghhhh. But he could see it was upsetting me so he said maybe we can compromise. He found a picture that has new coworker in it from their HS days so he's thinking of maybe texting it to him or something. I'll keep bugging him. He's made "social mistakes" like this in the past, like insisting on not inviting a certain friend of his to our wedding bc of reasons that seemed super important to him at the time. He needs to get better at this stuff.

[tashaandsage]

Hopefully he comes around. That is an awkward position to put you in! I agree with Aly about the idea of getting a texting conversation going, but then just avoiding actually ever meeting up.

[alzi]

He is judging this dude on things he did in high school? I mean, that was like 12+ years ago. Even if he met up ONCE to catch up and then dropped it...it wouldn't kill him.

[lauren9317]

Jan 4, 2013 10:10:30 GMT -5 alzi said:

He is judging this dude on things he did in high school? I mean, that was like 12+ years ago. Even if he met up ONCE to catch up and then dropped it...it wouldn't kill him.

I know! That's what I told him... like seriously, that was high school, how ridiculous.