I'm a bad mom

[kwpnjumper55]

Had a horrible day that culminated to probably failing my A&P exam so I paid the babysitter for the rest of the day and am taking a break from being a mommy/student/wife/photographer. I feel guilty because I should be taking care of my kids and working on yesterday's photoshoot but instead I'm sitting in the movie theater by myself, waiting for The Avengers to start so that my brain can take a short mini break! I am a bad mom

[picksthemusic]

You are NOT a bad mom!!

You're a human being. I've done that (not gone to a movie by myself recently), but I've taken a day and paid the nanny to watch M for me so I could have a mental health day. I played Lego Harry Potter from my couch and played hooky from work.

Don't beat yourself up - you'll actually be a better mom for doing this! Your baby doesn't need a stressed-out mom!

*hugs*

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EXACLTY what Mgoss said!! It makes you a BETTER Mom to realize when you need a mental rest from some responsibility and unwind.

It's better to hire the sitter for a bit and go enjoy quiet time and a movie by yourself than sit at home taking care of your child, feeling unraveled and stressed and maybe a tad resentful because your time never belongs to you. I wish more moms would coordinate to take that time for themselves!

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You are not a bad mom! Sometimes you need some you time and there is nothing wrong with that. It will make you a better mom to go home with a clearer head. We all have days like this. We just need to remember we are only human.

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May 29, 2012 16:02:46 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

You are NOT a bad mom!!

You're a human being. I've done that (not gone to a movie by myself recently), but I've taken a day and paid the nanny to watch M for me so I could have a mental health day. I played Lego Harry Potter from my couch and played hooky from work.

Don't beat yourself up - you'll actually be a better mom for doing this! Your baby doesn't need a stressed-out mom!

*hugs*

+1

[sarack]

you are totally not a bad mom. i'm sure i'd need days like this too. you gotta recharge sometimes.

[picksthemusic]

May 29, 2012 17:14:29 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

May 29, 2012 16:02:46 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

You are NOT a bad mom!!

You're a human being. I've done that (not gone to a movie by myself recently), but I've taken a day and paid the nanny to watch M for me so I could have a mental health day. I played Lego Harry Potter from my couch and played hooky from work.

Don't beat yourself up - you'll actually be a better mom for doing this! Your baby doesn't need a stressed-out mom!

*hugs*

+1

We already have plans to try and get to Vancouver at least once every two months, so his parents can watch our baby while we try to get in couple time for one night, and feel like adults. I think some kind of downtime whether on your own or couple time is really really needed to keep some semblance of sanity.

That's a good goal, but I'm going to warn you that it might not happen at least for the first year. I thought I would want to do that before I had M, but I'm still not ready to be away from her longer than 8 hours or so (a whole work day LOL). The first venture like that for us probably won't be until our upcoming anniversary, and it still makes me SUPER nervous, even to think about. I know she'll be in great hands, but it just makes me feel so horrible. Date night (like out to a movie and dinner once a month or so) is all we can manage right now, and that's enough for us. But if you can do it, more power to you!

[kwpnjumper55]

Thanks everyone, I think I feel this way because my DH was joking around this weekend and said my job was easy. He said he wasn't serious about it but it made me feel bad. I go to school ft, and have 3 pt jobs on top of being a parent. I thought I was going to slap him!

FYI: the Avengers is a really good movie