PG/Mom Check In

[mrsjenrn]

Jan 9, 2013 12:49:59 GMT -5 kimandross said:

Jan 9, 2013 8:50:39 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

I think it is totally ok to feel rough especially when pregnancy and delivery didn't go they way we wanted it to; it is a huge time in our lives! We are creating PEOPLE! It is ok to grieve. I grieved my body (since our pregnancy was unplanned); I grieved the natural birth that I so desperately wanted; I grieved my inability to nurse my babies.

I think people who have a happy-go-lucky view on pregnancy and delivery are lucky and bless them for it, but I would venture to say that a lot of women are not satisfied by the way things went. We heal, with time, yes, but there is still grieving to be done and I think that is ok.

I completely agree. As someone in a very similar position (except the RN part of course) I know how much it sucks when things don't go as planned. And grieving is definitely necessary and I think in some weird way, it helps. Since Q is older than Z, I've had more time to deal with it and think I'm now at a good place with what/how it happened and knowing that the best was done for me and my baby (except for the borderline verbal abuse from the one Dr., but hey, his loss). A healthy mom and healthy kid are the main victories, and at least we live in this age of modern medicine that help ensure such victories.

Very true! I try and tell myself that despite having a c section I was able to successfully bf Zoe for almost 21 months with really no problems. There are plenty of women who have the birth that I envy, but had a long, hard road with BFing. It's all perspective and in the end we get what we get and I am trying my best to accept it and move on. I thought that I had and then I got pg again and the hormones took over!

[mrsjenrn]

Jan 9, 2013 8:50:39 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

Jan 8, 2013 15:09:37 GMT -5 mrsjenrn said:

Zoe is doing great, minus the temper tantrums. She doesn't like to be told that she can't do whatever she wants, whenever she wants. We are trying to get her out of the habit of yelling "aaahhhh" when she wants something. She still isn't talking much, so pointing and yelling is how she communicates with us. We understand what she wants, but we don't like her yelling like that.

I am officially in the 3rd tri now so it is starting to feel real all of a sudden. My c section incision aches pretty bad when I go from a lying down to sitting position, so that is just fab. I preregistered and prepaid for my hospital visit while I was at work yesterday (so handy that the office is right there!) so I am good to go in that aspect. I got really overwhelmed last night and bawled my eyes out, so now I feel a lot better. Crying like that a few times during this pregnancy really helps me relieve the stress I feel about giving birth/having my baby cut out of me. I am already swelling and my BP is borderline, so I am just hoping and praying I don't have to be induced and/or placed on bedrest. Then there is the whole blood sugar thing. I have been eating much healthier and actually feel better than I did before, but of course I am still worried about having a gigantic baby. I may have one anyway because that is just how babies are in both our families. H gives me a lot of crap about being tired all the time, but he is really supportive of my crazy hormones and fear of having this baby. He just listens to me and is there to support me and I really appreciate that. I hate that I feel this way and wish I could just be happy with the way Zoe's birth went because it really could've been worse. Neither of us were at risk at any point and we weren't exactly running back to the OR. We both came out physically healthy in the end and I should be happy about that, right? It's the emotional part that I am struggling with and I hate hate hate hate it. I am better than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy, but I go through periods where it is sometimes hard and I am right in the middle of one. Sometimes it is hard to see my patients who deliver their babies be able to walk to the bathroom less than 2 hours after giving birth. Being able to take care of themselves and their baby. Sigh. Sorry I wrote a book. I need to vent about this sometimes.

I think it is totally ok to feel rough especially when pregnancy and delivery didn't go they way we wanted it to; it is a huge time in our lives! We are creating PEOPLE! It is ok to grieve. I grieved my body (since our pregnancy was unplanned); I grieved the natural birth that I so desperately wanted; I grieved my inability to nurse my babies.

I think people who have a happy-go-lucky view on pregnancy and delivery are lucky and bless them for it, but I would venture to say that a lot of women are not satisfied by the way things went. We heal, with time, yes, but there is still grieving to be done and I think that is ok.

Thanks, amellis! I know that some people even get upset that they caved and got epidurals. There are a lot of people I know who didn't enjoy their birth experiences and most of those people had their babies in hospitals. I think it would be awesome to be a midwife and deliver babies outside of the hospital!

[amellis2]

If you ever start being a nurse for a midwife's practice let me know, and I will go there the next go-round
I hope with our next pregnancy it is a singleton and I would be able to deliver at a birth center (I was ineligible to be cared for at Labor of Luv/Love because of the multiple gestation ) or maybe even a homebirth. I would love to have a homebirth!

[alzi]

Tasha - my doc didn't ok Emergen-C. When H was sick I asked, and she said to just take straight vitamin C instead. Which is funny, bc she is all about loading up on Tylenol.

[tashaandsage]

Jan 9, 2013 18:46:48 GMT -5 alzi said:

Tasha - my doc didn't ok Emergen-C. When H was sick I asked, and she said to just take straight vitamin C instead. Which is funny, bc she is all about loading up on Tylenol.

From what I understand, large doses of it can be dangerous to the baby, so drinking 10 packets would be bad, but then pregnant or not, I don't think anyone needs 10, 000 mg of Vitamin C. It is funny though, that for fear of you taking to much, doctors will say not to take it but OTC & prescription meds are safe.

[amellis2]

Jan 9, 2013 21:06:14 GMT -5 tashaandsage said:

Jan 9, 2013 18:46:48 GMT -5 alzi said:

Tasha - my doc didn't ok Emergen-C. When H was sick I asked, and she said to just take straight vitamin C instead. Which is funny, bc she is all about loading up on Tylenol.

From what I understand, large doses of it can be dangerous to the baby, so drinking 10 packets would be bad, but then pregnant or not, I don't think anyone needs 10, 000 mg of Vitamin C. It is funny though, that for fear of you taking to much, doctors will say not to take it but OTC & prescription meds are safe.

Don't get me started on this. If the information in "Food Matters" is correct (I never double checked it), it is illegal to treat cancer with any other tx than chemo, radiation, or surgery. However, there are significant documented cases (according to the documentary) where certain types of cancer have been put into remission and cured with megadoses of vitamins and the only side effect is cottonmouth.

[aegis2005]

Had my first NST this afternoon. It was interesting for about 5 minutes
It looks like I'll be having them every visit from here on out (I've been going weekly for the past month) so I suspect it will get old soon enough. Note to self, bring good reading material next week.

I went to BBB to look at gliders again, and found one I liked. It's dark gray with white piping. They said it will take 8-10 weeks, so after the baby gets here, but oh well.

DH's employees and co-workers had a surprise shower for him last night (they asked me to be there) He was so suprised, and I loved seeing the look on his face when he walked in the room. They hooked Shane up with tons of baseball and football clothing and gear, which DH was very excited about.

[alzi]

They are dead on with that estimate at BBB. It came I smack in the middle of the week they predicted. And FYI it comes in a HUGE box. Do you guys have a big car? It JUST fit in the back of my Pilot with the second row down.

But I love the chair it is so comfy!!

[aegis2005]

Jan 10, 2013 17:57:23 GMT -5 alzi said:

They are dead on with that estimate at BBB. It came I smack in the middle of the week they predicted. And FYI it comes in a HUGE box. Do you guys have a big car? It JUST fit in the back of my Pilot with the second row down.

But I love the chair it is so comfy!!

We have a rocking chair that was DH's mom had bought when she was pregnant with him, so I plan on using that until the comfy chair comes in. I figure the rocking chair will be our downstairs chair and the glider the upstairs/nursery chair. My dad has a pickup. He doesn't know it yet, but he'll be picking it up for us.