PG/Mom Check In

[aegis2005]

Pregnant
Terri (may07wedding) due 1/10/2013 (Team Blue)
Kate (mskateb) due 2/1/2013 (Team Blue)
Heather (aegis2005) due 2/22/2013 (Team Blue)
Aly (alzi) due 3/15/2013 (Team Green)
Jen (mrsjenrn) due 3/29/2013 (Team Blue)
Lauren (babybchbum) due 4/30/2013 (Team Blue)
Tasha (tashaandsage) due 5/28/2013 (Team Pink)
Kim (kimandross) due 8/12/2013

Moms
Liz (aidensmom) mom to Aiden (1/25/2008)
Kim (kimandross) mom to Quinn (2/25/2008)
Kate (mskateb) mom to Lily (7/26/2008)
Kathy (mrsjason) mom to Macy (12/8/2009)
Danielle (dvroxy) mom to MacKenzie (4/10/2010) and Madeline (7/23/2012
Jen (mrsjenrn) mom to Zoe (2/17/2011)
Jennifer (jennifer8080) mom to Kennedy (2/19/2011) and Caleb (8/6/2012)
Chelsea (mrschelseap09) mom to Lila (3/11/2011)
Tasha (tashaandsage) mom to Maisy (3/22/2011) and Beckett (1/28/2008)
Mayette (etteyam) mom to Sophia (5/3/2011) and Juliana (11/14/2009)
Marissa (amellis2) mom to Amelia and Abigail (6/4/2011)
(lovethesun) mom to Mason (7/22/2011)
Lauren (babybchbum) mom to Triston (8/8/2011)
Sara (miasmom) mom to Amelia (12/27/2011)
Meghan (mrsmew) mom to Ellie (3/29/2012)
Melissa (mellis74) mom to Mia (4/27/2012)
Shawna (mrsshawanab) mom to Blake (5/22/2012)
Jen (jen812) mom to Dominic (5/31/2012)
Angela (loskadoodle) mom to Drew (6/28/2012)
Janelle (dearselah) mom to Selah (6/29/2012)
Krystal (krystalskitsch) mom to Cannon (9/9/2012)
Kara (April17) mom to Ethan (9/14/2012)
Carolyn (moonstone523) mom to Samantha (9/30/2012)
Stephanie (surfbetty530) mom to Lauryl (10/14/2012)

[moonstone523]

Samantha was 15 weeks yesterday. She LOVES her jumper and is quite vocal. I love when she "talks" to me.

Sammy went to her first birthday party for Amelia and had fun. She played in Amelia's bouncer, saw lots of babies, and took a nap.

I went back to work and she is with a nanny during the day. She really likes the nanny and it is going well. Me on the other hand is not happy at work. I'm not sure if it's a easing back into work/missing baby thing or if it's time for me to move on. Normally when I get the bug to move on, it's time for me to do that. So I'm looking for jobs. I'd like to get into sales.

[aegis2005]

It's getting harder to do everything these days. I just feel so akward.

I'm having a hard time believing that I'm actually going to be a mom in 7ish weeks. By the time he gets here it will have been just shy of 3 years since we made the decision to have kids. I don't know how to explain it, but it just feels like it's been such a long time that it can't really be happening.

[sara76]

We just left Amelia's 1 year well checkup. She's still really small but the Dr is still not concerned. Her height is 15th% and her weight is 11th%. She has a big head like her dad though, 85th%, lol.

She was such a big girl at her birthday party. She's getting the hang of opening gifts and had lots of practice, oh my, I put lots of new toys on a shelf in her closet and we will slowly get into them all. She's definitely set until next year! She ran around the back yard with her friends and shared her toys very well. It was a great transition from baby to toddler and I think fun was had by all. Oh and I'm terribly relieved its over. We're very excited for her other little friends to all either be born or turn 1 too now .

[surfbetty530]

Today is my official first day as a SAHM. Yay! We just got back a couple of days ago from vacation. It was really fun but also really hard to carry all her stuff around. Oy! This girl is rolling and last night was the first night she only woke up once. That is big for L! L also likes to chew her hands, talk, and kick her crib piano and "dance". Before we left, she played baby Jesus at our church Christmas Eve service. She held her arm up with a thumbs up the entire time nit was hilarious! I love this girl!

[amellis2]

Jan 7, 2013 12:43:17 GMT -5 surfbetty530 said:

Today is my official first day as a SAHM. Yay! We just got back a couple of days ago from vacation. It was really fun but also really hard to carry all her stuff around. Oy! This girl is rolling and last night was the first night she only woke up once. That is big for L! L also likes to chew her hands, talk, and kick her crib piano and "dance". Before we left, she played baby Jesus at our church Christmas Eve service. She held her arm up with a thumbs up the entire time nit was hilarious! I love this girl!

WTG Baby Jesus stand-in! LOL

ETA: For a random angry face that I never clicked on, sorry.

[kimandross]

Well, the puky grossness has started. Yay. Although I am a teeny bit happy, since I didn't get an early u/s and my next appt isn't until next Thursday, where hopefully we'll be able to hear the heartbeat.

It was so super awesome that the first time I puked was in front of Quinn. Into the bathroom sink too! He was peeing at the time, so good stuff. I got to clean the sink out to his dear sweet voice..."ew, that's so disgusting". I know son, I know. Plus we haven't told him yet, so I can't tell him why. Oh well, soon enough.

Oh, and I could seriously fall asleep at pretty much any moment. It doesn't help that I had a gangly 4.5 year old crawling over me at 4:30 this morning, and then I could go back to sleep due to my dear husband's snoring. I finally went to go sleep on the couch for a bit.

[sara76]

Jan 7, 2013 14:39:43 GMT -5 kimandross said:

Well, the puky grossness has started. Yay. Although I am a teeny bit happy, since I didn't get an early u/s and my next appt isn't until next Thursday, where hopefully we'll be able to hear the heartbeat.

It was so super awesome that the first time I puked was in front of Quinn. Into the bathroom sink too! He was peeing at the time, so good stuff. I got to clean the sink out to his dear sweet voice..."ew, that's so disgusting". I know son, I know. Plus we haven't told him yet, so I can't tell him why. Oh well, soon enough.

Oh, and I could seriously fall asleep at pretty much any moment. It doesn't help that I had a gangly 4.5 year old crawling over me at 4:30 this morning, and then I could go back to sleep due to my dear husband's snoring. I finally went to go sleep on the couch for a bit.

More of these stories! Please! Every time I get soft and start to think I can do that again tell me something like this K? I remember falling asleep on the bar at work. Not my finest morning. I used to do 6am-6pm on Wednesdays and from around 8-10am I would sit down and write out liquor orders. Around week 10 I put my head down and picked it up over an hour later.

[melis74]

I think Mia is getting ready for more teeth, she is NOT sleeping well at all and is quite the drool monster. We went to our first kids birthday party Saturday and she wanted to get down and play so bad...it was for a three year old and outside so that was a no go. Two dads were playing football and for some reason she thought that was the funniest thing ever. I wish I had taken a video, she would crack up when they would throw/catch the ball. She ate some cheese this weekend and didn't gag, that's a step in solid food direction. Still refuses puffs, yogurt drops, pinwheels and arrow cookies.

Heather - I totally understand. My first IVF was in May '08 and I had Mia last April. When you hold him in your arms for the first time you will have so many emotions racing through you...it is awesome. I'm so happy for you.

[jennifer8080]

Kennedy is just a maniac these days. She doesn't stop. She was literally running circles around a little boy her age last week. She loves the indoor bounce house places and the indoor pools with splash pads. I cannot wait until summer. I'm so sick of having to do things inside and paying to go swimming, paying to go to indoor playgrounds, etc. I really miss my friends and the Florida weather. I'm starting to meet more people, but until it gets warm, it's hard to plan things that will wear her out. We start speech and developmental therapy next week. So nervous about the therapists, I hope they are good.

Caleb is a giant. 5 months old now, it seems impossible. He's rolling, sitting for longer and longer each day, and trying his hardest to crawl. I feel like he's growing up so fast. It makes me sad, but it's so much fun to see the two of them together. Having them so close together is worth all the hard moments now that I see them starting to play together.

That said, I think I'm getting close to being ready for #3. I actually thought I could be pregnant and was a little bummed when the test was negative. I'm really excited about the idea of another baby but the last pregnancy was rough and I don't know if I'm totally ready for that. Can't I just fast forward to the giving birth and raising another child part? I also don't have a clue what I would do for a provider, since home birth midwives are SO hard to come by here.

[babybchbum]

Jan 7, 2013 15:42:58 GMT -5 jennifer8080 said:

That said, I think I'm getting close to being ready for #3. I actually thought I could be pregnant and was a little bummed when the test was negative. I'm really excited about the idea of another baby but the last pregnancy was rough and I don't know if I'm totally ready for that. Can't I just fast forward to the giving birth and raising another child part? I also don't have a clue what I would do for a provider, since home birth midwives are SO hard to come by here.

Do you need Internet cheapies for ovulation tests and pg tests? I'd be more than happy to mail some to you.

I can't remember how many are you wanting?

Best of luck with the new therapists. I hope you don't go through all the struggles again.

[mskateb]

Started checking the cervix today. Yay for that. No dilation yet, but she said his head is reallly far down. So that explains the pressure I've been feeling. I think he's trying to get out but the gate is closed.

Lily took a big sister class at the hospital on Sunday. It was adorable, and she did great. She was really paying attention. She does that with anyone but me, though. I highly recommend doing the sibling class if you've got a preschooler; I think it was great for her. She also got to see where mommy was going to be in the hospital, so I think that made her feel better. She's been nervous about me being in the hospital, and I think our trip to see my grandma in the hospital didn't help.

Finally making some progress on getting ready for the baby, too. Two of three walls are painted, and I ordered all kinds of stuff, finally. It's going to look like Amazon puked on my doorstep sometime this week. Better late than never!

[alzi]

I finally ordered nursery decor and linens and stuff. So when it arrives in a month, the room will be closer to done.

I've had a headache for 3 days now. Tylenol and caffeine help for a short time and the it comes back. So that's fun.

I feel large, am uncomfortable, just not loving this at all. I'm not mentally ready for baby, but I'm physically over it. 9.5 weeks to go AHHHH.

[jennifer8080]

Jan 7, 2013 17:15:27 GMT -5 babybchbum said:

Jan 7, 2013 15:42:58 GMT -5 jennifer8080 said:

That said, I think I'm getting close to being ready for #3. I actually thought I could be pregnant and was a little bummed when the test was negative. I'm really excited about the idea of another baby but the last pregnancy was rough and I don't know if I'm totally ready for that. Can't I just fast forward to the giving birth and raising another child part? I also don't have a clue what I would do for a provider, since home birth midwives are SO hard to come by here.

Do you need Internet cheapies for ovulation tests and pg tests? I'd be more than happy to mail some to you.

I can't remember how many are you wanting?

Best of luck with the new therapists. I hope you don't go through all the struggles again.

Sure! If you have extras that you don't want to keep around for later.
I was planning to get a test the other day, and then MIL showed up and wanted to go shopping with me. It was a whole ordeal. But it tok me 2 days to finally get a damn test.

We want 5. So I need to get a move on it. My fear is that I'm going to have trouble getting/staying pregnant while I'm breastfeeding. I'm no where near ready to stop BFing, and probably won't be at a year either. I'm hoping that once he starts solids, maybe my cycles will regulate a bit more.

[aegis2005]

Jan 7, 2013 21:02:34 GMT -5 mskateb said:

Started checking the cervix today. Yay for that. No dilation yet, but she said his head is reallly far down. So that explains the pressure I've been feeling. I think he's trying to get out but the gate is closed.

Lily took a big sister class at the hospital on Sunday. It was adorable, and she did great. She was really paying attention. She does that with anyone but me, though. I highly recommend doing the sibling class if you've got a preschooler; I think it was great for her. She also got to see where mommy was going to be in the hospital, so I think that made her feel better. She's been nervous about me being in the hospital, and I think our trip to see my grandma in the hospital didn't help.

Finally making some progress on getting ready for the baby, too. Two of three walls are painted, and I ordered all kinds of stuff, finally. It's going to look like Amazon puked on my doorstep sometime this week. Better late than never!

This made me laugh. My office, which is right inside our front door, looks like a baby stuff explosion. DH's grandma is flying in tomorrow to spend a week with us. She doesn't know it, but she's going to help me sort through everything and create a list of what we still *really* need to pick up.

Glad Lily did well with the sibling class. I'll be thinking good thoughts that she'll do well when you're in the hospital.

[aegis2005]

Jan 7, 2013 21:13:57 GMT -5 alzi said:

I finally ordered nursery decor and linens and stuff. So when it arrives in a month, the room will be closer to done.

I've had a headache for 3 days now. Tylenol and caffeine help for a short time and the it comes back. So that's fun.

I feel large, am uncomfortable, just not loving this at all. I'm not mentally ready for baby, but I'm physically over it. 9.5 weeks to go AHHHH.

Hope the headache is gone (or close to it).

[moonstone523]

Jan 7, 2013 21:13:57 GMT -5 alzi said:

I finally ordered nursery decor and linens and stuff. So when it arrives in a month, the room will be closer to done.

I've had a headache for 3 days now. Tylenol and caffeine help for a short time and the it comes back. So that's fun.

I feel large, am uncomfortable, just not loving this at all. I'm not mentally ready for baby, but I'm physically over it. 9.5 weeks to go AHHHH.

Pics of the nursery decor please!

[babybchbum]

Jan 7, 2013 23:00:28 GMT -5 jennifer8080 said:

Jan 7, 2013 17:15:27 GMT -5 babybchbum said:

Do you need Internet cheapies for ovulation tests and pg tests? I'd be more than happy to mail some to you.

I can't remember how many are you wanting?

Best of luck with the new therapists. I hope you don't go through all the struggles again.

Sure! If you have extras that you don't want to keep around for later.
I was planning to get a test the other day, and then MIL showed up and wanted to go shopping with me. It was a whole ordeal. But it tok me 2 days to finally get a damn test.

We want 5. So I need to get a move on it. My fear is that I'm going to have trouble getting/staying pregnant while I'm breastfeeding. I'm no where near ready to stop BFing, and probably won't be at a year either. I'm hoping that once he starts solids, maybe my cycles will regulate a bit more.

Haha I hope we would need them in the future but I think they will expire before I get the chance again.

I have some convincing to do with DH. He has kinda set his mind to 2 although previously he told me 3. I'll play it by ear.

[mrsjenrn]

Zoe is doing great, minus the temper tantrums. :-| She doesn't like to be told that she can't do whatever she wants, whenever she wants. We are trying to get her out of the habit of yelling "aaahhhh" when she wants something. She still isn't talking much, so pointing and yelling is how she communicates with us. We understand what she wants, but we don't like her yelling like that.

I am officially in the 3rd tri now so it is starting to feel real all of a sudden. My c section incision aches pretty bad when I go from a lying down to sitting position, so that is just fab. I preregistered and prepaid for my hospital visit while I was at work yesterday (so handy that the office is right there!) so I am good to go in that aspect. I got really overwhelmed last night and bawled my eyes out, so now I feel a lot better. Crying like that a few times during this pregnancy really helps me relieve the stress I feel about giving birth/having my baby cut out of me. I am already swelling and my BP is borderline, so I am just hoping and praying I don't have to be induced and/or placed on bedrest. Then there is the whole blood sugar thing. I have been eating much healthier and actually feel better than I did before, but of course I am still worried about having a gigantic baby. I may have one anyway because that is just how babies are in both our families. H gives me a lot of crap about being tired all the time, but he is really supportive of my crazy hormones and fear of having this baby. He just listens to me and is there to support me and I really appreciate that. I hate that I feel this way and wish I could just be happy with the way Zoe's birth went because it really could've been worse. Neither of us were at risk at any point and we weren't exactly running back to the OR. We both came out physically healthy in the end and I should be happy about that, right? It's the emotional part that I am struggling with and I hate hate hate hate it. I am better than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy, but I go through periods where it is sometimes hard and I am right in the middle of one. Sometimes it is hard to see my patients who deliver their babies be able to walk to the bathroom less than 2 hours after giving birth. Being able to take care of themselves and their baby. Sigh. Sorry I wrote a book. I need to vent about this sometimes.

[babybchbum]

I think going into L&D as a nurse is going to bring back some of the struggles you were dealing with but at the same time I also thing it is probably helping you through some of the difficult times. Just think you will get to hold a little man in your arms soon enough

[babybchbum]

I am 24 weeks today. My neighbor had her little girl on NYE which has sent me into a panic that our little guy will be here soon too. I can't believe how quickly this pregnancy is going for me. I got ahold of HR and requested my FMLA paperwork so hopefully these nightmares of not being able to take leave will die down and let me sleep at night.

Seperation anxiety seems to be peaking (or is just worse than before). T won't go down for bed as normal which concerns me. I'm hoping it is just a phase.

[alzi]

Headache is still here. OMG. I can't even.

Moon- ordering custom stuff off etsy, ill pip once it's in the room!

[mrsjenrn]

Jan 8, 2013 17:40:58 GMT -5 babybchbum said:

I think going into L&D as a nurse is going to bring back some of the struggles you were dealing with but at the same time I also thing it is probably helping you through some of the difficult times. Just think you will get to hold a little man in your arms soon enough

I definitely think it's helping me heal in some strange way. It is hard for me sometimes, but for the most part I really don't mind. I am going to be in the OR the next couple weeks, but I think I will be ok. My first time in there was with a woman who delivered her twins vaginally, but we have to do it in the OR just in case the 2nd baby flips and they need to do a c section. That was the first time I had been in the OR since my section and I about had a panic attack. The next time I was in there when I shadowed the newborn nurse for a day and I was fine. All I have to say is that I am really glad my dr was the one who did my c section. I won't let any other doctor touch me!

[mrsjenrn]

Jan 8, 2013 20:10:58 GMT -5 alzi said:

Headache is still here. OMG. I can't even.

!

That sucks, Alzi. I can definitely relate! The only thing that even take the edge off is taking tylenol and Mountain Dew (can't be Coke or anything else), hot showers, and warm compresses on my face. And even the they still remain.

[sara76]

Jan 8, 2013 21:04:18 GMT -5 mrsjenrn said:

Jan 8, 2013 17:40:58 GMT -5 babybchbum said:

I think going into L&D as a nurse is going to bring back some of the struggles you were dealing with but at the same time I also thing it is probably helping you through some of the difficult times. Just think you will get to hold a little man in your arms soon enough

I definitely think it's helping me heal in some strange way. It is hard for me sometimes, but for the most part I really don't mind. I am going to be in the OR the next couple weeks, but I think I will be ok. My first time in there was with a woman who delivered her twins vaginally, but we have to do it in the OR just in case the 2nd baby flips and they need to do a c section. That was the first time I had been in the OR since my section and I about had a panic attack. The next time I was in there when I shadowed the newborn nurse for a day and I was fine. All I have to say is that I am really glad my dr was the one who did my c section. I won't let any other doctor touch me!

Being able to have my own Dr was the one major consolation for me in having to schedule my delivery. And will also be the deciding factor if I ever choose a repeat c section over a vbac.

[amellis2]

Jan 8, 2013 15:09:37 GMT -5 mrsjenrn said:

Zoe is doing great, minus the temper tantrums. She doesn't like to be told that she can't do whatever she wants, whenever she wants. We are trying to get her out of the habit of yelling "aaahhhh" when she wants something. She still isn't talking much, so pointing and yelling is how she communicates with us. We understand what she wants, but we don't like her yelling like that.

I am officially in the 3rd tri now so it is starting to feel real all of a sudden. My c section incision aches pretty bad when I go from a lying down to sitting position, so that is just fab. I preregistered and prepaid for my hospital visit while I was at work yesterday (so handy that the office is right there!) so I am good to go in that aspect. I got really overwhelmed last night and bawled my eyes out, so now I feel a lot better. Crying like that a few times during this pregnancy really helps me relieve the stress I feel about giving birth/having my baby cut out of me. I am already swelling and my BP is borderline, so I am just hoping and praying I don't have to be induced and/or placed on bedrest. Then there is the whole blood sugar thing. I have been eating much healthier and actually feel better than I did before, but of course I am still worried about having a gigantic baby. I may have one anyway because that is just how babies are in both our families. H gives me a lot of crap about being tired all the time, but he is really supportive of my crazy hormones and fear of having this baby. He just listens to me and is there to support me and I really appreciate that. I hate that I feel this way and wish I could just be happy with the way Zoe's birth went because it really could've been worse. Neither of us were at risk at any point and we weren't exactly running back to the OR. We both came out physically healthy in the end and I should be happy about that, right? It's the emotional part that I am struggling with and I hate hate hate hate it. I am better than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy, but I go through periods where it is sometimes hard and I am right in the middle of one. Sometimes it is hard to see my patients who deliver their babies be able to walk to the bathroom less than 2 hours after giving birth. Being able to take care of themselves and their baby. Sigh. Sorry I wrote a book. I need to vent about this sometimes.

I think it is totally ok to feel rough especially when pregnancy and delivery didn't go they way we wanted it to; it is a huge time in our lives! We are creating PEOPLE! It is ok to grieve. I grieved my body (since our pregnancy was unplanned); I grieved the natural birth that I so desperately wanted; I grieved my inability to nurse my babies.

I think people who have a happy-go-lucky view on pregnancy and delivery are lucky and bless them for it, but I would venture to say that a lot of women are not satisfied by the way things went. We heal, with time, yes, but there is still grieving to be done and I think that is ok.

[tashaandsage]

Jan 8, 2013 20:10:58 GMT -5 alzi said:

Headache is still here. OMG. I can't even.

!

Aly, I feel for you. Have you by chance tried taking Emergen-C? I know that might sound odd as a headache cure, but when I have gotten headaches this pregnancy, it has been what has worked for me. Yesterday I had a brutal headache all day, but didn't have any Emergen-C, and I finally resorted to Tylenol, which I normally never take, and it did nothing for the headache. Once H got home, he had some in his car, and it totally did the trick. Might be worth a try.

[melis74]

Jan 8, 2013 15:09:37 GMT -5 mrsjenrn said:

Sometimes it is hard to see my patients who deliver their babies be able to walk to the bathroom less than 2 hours after giving birth. Being able to take care of themselves and their baby. Sigh. Sorry I wrote a book. I need to vent about this sometimes.

I have to chime in and say that I am so sorry that things didn't work out the way you wanted and as everyone has said, you have a right to be upset by that. I also wanted to add that on a positive note I think you will be better equipped to help birthing women who end up in a similar situation, if that gives you any type of comfort. I can't thank my nurse enough for being my advocate and fighting for me to not have a section. I think you will be that nurse, the one that helps their patient deliver vaginally if at all possible.

In my situation I was fine and the baby was fine but the doctor coming on thought I had labored too long and scheduled the OR for me without even seeing me. I had just gotten fully dilated and was so happy that I was able to start pushing and then had the wind knocked out of me when I was told that. My nurse told me to start pushing if that's what I wanted to do and she would hold off on starting the meds for the section. When the doctor got there you could tell he was pissed but what was he going to do at that point? He said I had an hour from when I started pushing to deliver the baby or he would go ahead with the section. My H said it was about an hour on the dot when Mia was born....we were all determined.

Sorry for the long ramble, I just appreciate her support so much and I know you will do that same thing for your patients and if you have a patient who has to end up having a section anyway, you will stand by her side and talk her through it and let her know it is ok to be sad about how things turned out.

[kimandross]

Jan 9, 2013 8:50:39 GMT -5 amellis2 said:

Jan 8, 2013 15:09:37 GMT -5 mrsjenrn said:

Zoe is doing great, minus the temper tantrums. She doesn't like to be told that she can't do whatever she wants, whenever she wants. We are trying to get her out of the habit of yelling "aaahhhh" when she wants something. She still isn't talking much, so pointing and yelling is how she communicates with us. We understand what she wants, but we don't like her yelling like that.

I am officially in the 3rd tri now so it is starting to feel real all of a sudden. My c section incision aches pretty bad when I go from a lying down to sitting position, so that is just fab. I preregistered and prepaid for my hospital visit while I was at work yesterday (so handy that the office is right there!) so I am good to go in that aspect. I got really overwhelmed last night and bawled my eyes out, so now I feel a lot better. Crying like that a few times during this pregnancy really helps me relieve the stress I feel about giving birth/having my baby cut out of me. I am already swelling and my BP is borderline, so I am just hoping and praying I don't have to be induced and/or placed on bedrest. Then there is the whole blood sugar thing. I have been eating much healthier and actually feel better than I did before, but of course I am still worried about having a gigantic baby. I may have one anyway because that is just how babies are in both our families. H gives me a lot of crap about being tired all the time, but he is really supportive of my crazy hormones and fear of having this baby. He just listens to me and is there to support me and I really appreciate that. I hate that I feel this way and wish I could just be happy with the way Zoe's birth went because it really could've been worse. Neither of us were at risk at any point and we weren't exactly running back to the OR. We both came out physically healthy in the end and I should be happy about that, right? It's the emotional part that I am struggling with and I hate hate hate hate it. I am better than I was at the beginning of my pregnancy, but I go through periods where it is sometimes hard and I am right in the middle of one. Sometimes it is hard to see my patients who deliver their babies be able to walk to the bathroom less than 2 hours after giving birth. Being able to take care of themselves and their baby. Sigh. Sorry I wrote a book. I need to vent about this sometimes.

I think it is totally ok to feel rough especially when pregnancy and delivery didn't go they way we wanted it to; it is a huge time in our lives! We are creating PEOPLE! It is ok to grieve. I grieved my body (since our pregnancy was unplanned); I grieved the natural birth that I so desperately wanted; I grieved my inability to nurse my babies.

I think people who have a happy-go-lucky view on pregnancy and delivery are lucky and bless them for it, but I would venture to say that a lot of women are not satisfied by the way things went. We heal, with time, yes, but there is still grieving to be done and I think that is ok.

I completely agree. As someone in a very similar position (except the RN part of course) I know how much it sucks when things don't go as planned. And grieving is definitely necessary and I think in some weird way, it helps. Since Q is older than Z, I've had more time to deal with it and think I'm now at a good place with what/how it happened and knowing that the best was done for me and my baby (except for the borderline verbal abuse from the one Dr., but hey, his loss). A healthy mom and healthy kid are the main victories, and at least we live in this age of modern medicine that help ensure such victories.

[mrsjenrn]

Jan 9, 2013 12:10:58 GMT -5 melis74 said:

Jan 8, 2013 15:09:37 GMT -5 mrsjenrn said:

Sometimes it is hard to see my patients who deliver their babies be able to walk to the bathroom less than 2 hours after giving birth. Being able to take care of themselves and their baby. Sigh. Sorry I wrote a book. I need to vent about this sometimes.

I have to chime in and say that I am so sorry that things didn't work out the way you wanted and as everyone has said, you have a right to be upset by that. I also wanted to add that on a positive note I think you will be better equipped to help birthing women who end up in a similar situation, if that gives you any type of comfort. I can't thank my nurse enough for being my advocate and fighting for me to not have a section. I think you will be that nurse, the one that helps their patient deliver vaginally if at all possible.

In my situation I was fine and the baby was fine but the doctor coming on thought I had labored too long and scheduled the OR for me without even seeing me. I had just gotten fully dilated and was so happy that I was able to start pushing and then had the wind knocked out of me when I was told that. My nurse told me to start pushing if that's what I wanted to do and she would hold off on starting the meds for the section. When the doctor got there you could tell he was pissed but what was he going to do at that point? He said I had an hour from when I started pushing to deliver the baby or he would go ahead with the section. My H said it was about an hour on the dot when Mia was born....we were all determined.

Sorry for the long ramble, I just appreciate her support so much and I know you will do that same thing for your patients and if you have a patient who has to end up having a section anyway, you will stand by her side and talk her through it and let her know it is ok to be sad about how things turned out.

That is crazy that the doctor just did that without your knowledge! So far I have only seen one case where I was furious at the doctors and felt like they were setting the pt up for a section. Luckily she didn't end up with one, but I was mad for her. I think you're right about me advocating for my pts so they don't end up with a c section. I know my nurse that night did everything she possibly could for me to not have one and I appreciate her to this day. She got me further than my doctor ever thought I would go. He also gave me the 1 hour push deadline, but honestly by that point I was exhausted and felt like I couldn't go on anymore so I was as ok as I would ever be going into a c section.
I actually went and visited one of my pts on the postpartum floor who ended up with a c section after I had gone home just to make sure she was ok. She seemed ok with what happned, but I was ready to be there for her and give her advice if she needed it. I have to say that my hospital for the most part is pretty good about letting patients VBAC and they really do everything they can to avoid a c section in all their patients.