AW my H

[ilovecandy]

So today I was talking about wanting to do a girl trip with my bestie in the next year and a half but I wasn't sure she would go for it cause money is tight and she is suppose to go to law school this fall so it would be even tighter for her. H was just okay then just budget to pay for her expenses too.

Then we were talking about me going to apply for a job and he was all you know you don't have to work right. We are making ends meet and have a little extra for fun stuff with you not working so it is ok. I love him so much.

[Cheesecake]

That's so sweet!

[sunflower22]

That is very kind of him to pay for your friend. So you're a stay at home wife? This has always fascinated me! What do you do while your H is at work? I have jealous visions of watching Lifetime movies and 2 hour naps.

[ilovecandy]

Yes I stay at home. I try to keep the house clean (sometimes i just get really lazy or depressed and fail at this though). I surf the internet and hang out with my friends that don't have jobs. I had a job for a while but since my knee surgery i just couldn't physically do my job without seeming to keep re-injuring myself (i worked in childcare). So I keep an eye out for jobs that are officy or in this case at bank. Also I am looking into going back to school sometime this year i just have to be able to get scholarships because i can't take on any more student loans than i already have.

ETA: and yes movie marathons or tv show marathons happen a lot lol. Honestly because a good portion of my friends are SAHM or SAHW it isn't that bad though for me it is getting bad because my self-worth is very tied into me having a job and bringing in money.

[sunflower22]

Thank you for elaborating! Sounds like fun, no fair! Lol. GL with the bank job, I hope it works out if its a good fit. It's great you have a supportive H

[ilovecandy]

No problem. I am so very lucky that i can stay home and we can make it work financially. Also that my H want me to. Though in his case he thinks that since i am less stressed i might get pregnant now hasn't happened in the 5 months i haven't had a job but then again he was gone for about half of those too. Also I think he likes that he has lees cleaning to do ; p

[jewel]

OMG - You are a real life lady of leisure?

This is my dream job

[ilovecandy]

Jan 7, 2013 19:29:44 GMT -5 jewel said:

OMG - You are a real life lady of leisure?

This is my dream job

lol yep though i do sometimes miss the extras of having a second income. Also I think I may convinced H to go to San Antonio for few days this summer, and I am trying to conivince him to go to D.C in Oct for a race i want to run I am very spoiled ;D

eta: i Realize I am coming off bit conceited sorry! this past year sucked and we haven't had a vacation pretty much ever (other than some weekend trips here and there, and visiting family doesn't count as vacation in my book). This year is looking so much better and I just needed somewhere to say it.

[KaraOrNot]

Aww!

[sunflower22]

I don't think you sound conceited, I asked lol!!

[G22]

I don't think you sound conceited either. I can't wait to be A SAHW/SAHM. Ever since I was young, I felt like that was what I wanted to do. My mom was/still is a SAHM and I think that's why I feel that way. I have really struggled to find a job that I enjoy long term, because after a few months I start feeling suffocated and unhappy. Even when I loved it to begin with. I finally cut back to part time and will stick with that for now. In my head I keep thinking, if I could just get pregnant so I can quit and do I what I prefer! When I put this in words, I always worry I'll come off as lazy or something. I'm not I promise. I'm happiest when I can work around the house, run errands, volunteer, and do things on my own time. Thankfully my H understands and completely supports the fact that I feel that way.

[ilovecandy]

Thanks for telling me I don't sound concieted. Gumby I get you I feel the same way which is why after I re-injured myself and we figured out that we would be ok on H's salary I finally said ok to being a sahw. Although I wouldn't be opposed to a part time job right now untill we have kids.

[daisy24342]

First off, your husband is incredibly generous paying for your friend!!

Secondly, not conceited at all. I didn't work for a while too, I moved away from a job I loved to be with DH and got a job I hated. DH hated how miserable I was and told me to quit until I found something I enjoyed, since we could live off his salary. I, unfortunately, found staying at home made me lazy and depressed (I think it was because he was deployed at the time...so super lonely) amd I had not really made any friends here yet. But , I found a part time job that I like, and have made some great friends and I am so happy I don't have to work full time, especially with TTC. I like you, work with kids, and it can be stressful, which doesn't help TTC. Part time allows me a chance to get out of the house, work with kids, but not feel incredibly overwhelmed.


I say enjoy it while you can!!!