Pick up/put down people!

[TrudyCampbell]

I fucking love you.

This was night 5 and there was no picking up or putting down. I just walked away and she went to sleep with no crying! And the other nights weren't that bad either. She would cry, which sucked, but I was always right next to her, singing to her etc, so I never felt that guilty about it.

THANK YOU! God bless the internet.

ETA- I was kind of sad about not nursing her to sleep anymore but now that it's over I'm feeling a lot better about weaning in the future.

[browneyedhunni85]

:Y:

[thedahliharpa]

Glad you found something that worked for you both!

[kandrze1]

Is this the sleep lady shuffle thing or something else? I have to do something soon and I really don't want to. I'm glad to hear it's going well for you!

[lolaburns]

Whoo hoo! So happy for you!


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[carawestt]

Yay! So happy for you!

[mamasaurus]

Flameful: I have never been able to put her down and have her fall asleep. I just used it to get her to stop being a spazz while I was trying to rock her to sleep.

5 minutes tonight, though, people! 5 minutes!

[claralou]

Jan 8, 2013 21:45:16 GMT -5 mamasaurus said:

Flameful: I have never been able to put her down and have her fall asleep. I just used it to get her to stop being a spazz while I was trying to rock her to sleep.

5 minutes tonight, though, people! 5 minutes!

If this is flameful, my ass is on fire too. I need to learn more about this. ::runs off to Google::

[TrudyCampbell]

It's this www.mybabysleepguide.com/2009/01/pupd-tbw.html?m=1

I really like it as a CIO alternative. Sure, she wasn't thrilled about being forced to go to sleep. But I was always with her so I didn't feel like it was CIO.

[claralou]

Thanks Trudy!!

[thedahliharpa]

What was the longest amount of time it took for you to get her down? Just curious.

[kandrze1]

Thanks for the link! It might be useful in a few nights...just tell me to do it and it over with...

[Deleted]

Yay!!! We are a disaster over here so it is nice to have a reminder that it can work!

[TrudyCampbell]

Jan 8, 2013 22:02:25 GMT -5 thedahliharpa said:

What was the longest amount of time it took for you to get her down? Just curious.

Probably 30 - 40 minutes the first night.

I nursed her and then bath, lotion, story (used to do bath, lotion, story then nurse to sleep) and then put her in her crib wide awake. I stood by her the whole time and when she would start to fuss I'd put my hand on her and sing to her. If that didn't calm her down I'd pick her up until she was calm but then put her down still awake. Repeat until she fell asleep. The first 3 nights she fell asleep with my hand on her.

[TrudyCampbell]

Dahli- how much does this method offend you? I'm genuinely curious, be honest!

[laurack]

Yay!

I am beginning to have slight anxiety about the nursing to sleep thing... Wondering, should I not be doing that any more now that she's older? It does make me worry about weaning when it happens.

Nice to hear about gentler methods working well for people!

[TrudyCampbell]

Jan 8, 2013 22:25:25 GMT -5 laurack said:

Yay!

I am beginning to have slight anxiety about the nursing to sleep thing... Wondering, should I not be doing that any more now that she's older? It does make me worry about weaning when it happens.

Nice to hear about gentler methods working well for people!

I worried about it, too. Mainly because I plan to wean at age one and I didn't want it to be this traumatic event that prevented her from being able to fall asleep. It makes me feel relieved that she can sleep without it.

[TrudyCampbell]

Jan 8, 2013 22:25:25 GMT -5 laurack said:

Yay!

I am beginning to have slight anxiety about the nursing to sleep thing... Wondering, should I not be doing that any more now that she's older? It does make me worry about weaning when it happens.

Nice to hear about gentler methods working well for people!

I worried about it, too. Mainly because I plan to wean at age one and I didn't want it to be this traumatic event that prevented her from being able to fall asleep. It makes me feel relieved that she can sleep without it.

[thedahliharpa]

Jan 8, 2013 22:17:41 GMT -5 TrudyCampbell said:

Dahli- how much does this method offend you? I'm genuinely curious, be honest!

I'm not offended It's on the gentle side of the sleep training spectrum. Yeah I've read some sleep related stuff around here that is NOT for me but I don't have a gut wrenching convulsion of disgust in response to PUPD with an older baby. I'm glad it worked for you.

I've been a little torn regarding sleep because I'm happy to nurse to sleep forever and I'm ok with a night waking or two and rough patches. But, she has stopped napping independently and I'm having a really hard time working at home with her between that and the crawling. I used to get 4 hours of solo naps broken up through the day and then I could work for an hour at night and be pretty good. With no meetings, phone calls, etc 5 slid hours was pretty effective. Now I'm working 4 hours at night in addition to being in touch with the office and it sucks. So, I've been thinking about things because I really need to get to Sept on this crazy schedule. But ughh letting her cry does not compute :-(.

Oh sorry...hijacked ya! Bottom line is I may need to sacrifice what I want in terms of sleep method to allow me to spend more time w/ her in the long run.

[Deleted]

I'm sure I offended Dahli when I posted that D's voice was hoarse from CIO! Sorry Dahli! And it didn't even fucking work! Last night was awful you guys!!! Ugh- maybe I'll try PUPD.

Trudy: how is V in the MOTN?

[Deleted]

Oh dahli, I'm sorry you guys are struggling with naps. We seem to have lost our ability to self-soothe in our holiday travels. PUPD is exhausting, but I hope it will help us some. It may involve tears, but at this point that seems like a better solution than parental insanity.

[TrudyCampbell]

Jan 8, 2013 23:16:00 GMT -5 ladybug said:

I'm sure I offended Dahli when I posted that D's voice was hoarse from CIO! Sorry Dahli! And it didn't even fucking work! Last night was awful you guys!!! Ugh- maybe I'll try PUPD.

Trudy: how is V in the MOTN?

I'm the worst example because V is such a good sleeper overall. Don't hate me! Once she actually falls asleep she's usually pretty good. She wakes up once in the MOTN a few times a week and my H gets her back to sleep. The other nights she sleeps until 5am and is then up for the day. So, she's not the best example because she didn't need that much help. Before the PUPD she was exclusively nursed to sleep and she still is for naps- we will tackle naps once bedtime is going really well.

[thedahliharpa]

Jan 8, 2013 23:30:25 GMT -5 @thadsrad said:

Oh dahli, I'm sorry you guys are struggling with naps. We seem to have lost our ability to self-soothe in our holiday travels. PUPD is exhausting, but I hope it will help us some. It may involve tears, but at this point that seems like a better solution than parental insanity.

Thanks. It sucks because some of it is separation anxiety and I feel like that is the worst time to force it. I end up keeping her on me on my breastfriend so I can email on my phone and sometimes do a bit on my laptop. At least that way I can get something done. It's almost guaranteed she wakes up if I transfer her during the day even w/ the sound machine and all the night time stuff going. So, out of fear and the combination of being home for 3 weeks straight naps stink. She usually rolls right over and goes down for the nanny. Maybe with a squawk but just until the nanny steps out of the room. She goes ballistic if it is me and then that's it, nap gone.

[thedahliharpa]

Jan 8, 2013 23:16:00 GMT -5 ladybug said:

I'm sure I offended Dahli when I posted that D's voice was hoarse from CIO! Sorry Dahli! And it didn't even fucking work! Last night was awful you guys!!! Ugh- maybe I'll try PUPD.

Trudy: how is V in the MOTN?

I feel for you guys and your sleep struggles. She will become a normal sleeping person someday. I promise!