$150/hr - wow! That's definitely more than the campus bookstore. lol
Lol yea, but there was A LOT of down time. If you were lucky, you'd get maybe 3 sessions every couple of Weeks unless you were in it long enough to have regulars.
Not. At. All! Those books upset me so much that I don't always have adequate words. 50 shades is to bdsm like rape is to sex. Quite literally. Ana never consents. In the bdsm world this is seen as rape. To glorify it as a good reality and sell millions of books... It makes me sick.
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I've ben wondering about this! I read the first 2 from the library and wondered how accurate they are but didn't have anyone to ask. I didn't think they were correct. While they are entertaining I don't think they desereve all the attention they've gotten. If I don't stop now I'm going to hijack this thread....
I agree with you 100%! I've actually gotten to speak to a bunch of people about it since I do have some background in school with sexual studies (I am not as open about this kind of stuff with some people I know IRL) and it has been great to help people realize not to mess with things like this and the value of consent.
My husband wants to know if there was pee and/or poop involved.
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Not with me, but yes, there was. There were clients into golden showers (pee), brown showers (poop), ruby showers (period blood) and roman showers. I never did that stuff, but there was extra money for it.
I did it for a few months. It felt longer because there was just so much dead time.
I'm not sure if I would do it again. In that dungeon, no, I wouldn't. Not because of what the dungeon was, I think it was run beautifully, but because there were a lot of randoms who came in and for me it veers more into the personal realm. I know a few Dommes who have a few select clients that they have a personal relationship with (some paid and some not and more "lifestyle") and can communicate with them and I can see the value in that. I do not think I'd do it at this point of my life, but if I were to do anything like it, it would be in that context.
Wow, wow, wow. I'm with Regina. Didn't realize these places really existed!
How does the process work exactly... from beginning to end for a client? How does one find a place like this?
They are online, so you would go to a website and take a look at who is working there and what they do. From there, you call the phone line of the dungeon and speak to the manager who tells you what time, prices, details, etc. I guess it depends on the person as to what they ask.
You get your appointment and go to the location, which was on a very busy street, upstairs from general stores and stuff. Most windows in the area are blacked out anyway, so you can't tell which is which. People were not allowed unless they had a scheduled time or worked there. There were 3 doors that were locked with video cameras that you had to pass through before you were inside. If it was a client, the dommes on at the time would have to go into rooms. It was very important that the client felt that the space was private. You could get fired if you opened the door when a client was walking through. There are lights in each of the session rooms so we would know when not to open the doors. The client would go into a room and the manager would tell us that the first can go in to interview. Who ever wanted could interview with the details we got ("He wants a medical scene with humiliation" "He wants bondage" etc) and we would go in one at a time. We'd each get to ask questions and every girl had their own style. Some went in completely in character, some went in "normal" to discuss the scene and figure everything out.
After the interviews, the manager would go back in and find out who he wanted and get the money or if he was going to walk. I want to say at least 70% of the guys tended to walk. Once a girl was picked, she would go into the supply closet and get various implements in a basket to bring into the room, then go in and do her thing. Generally the sessions were 1 hour and could be extended. After the hour, the domme would leave and allow the guy to get himself ready. When he was ready to leave, the domme would switch the lights and walk him out.
After that, we would clean up and relax.
I thought the process was fascinating! I never imagined how something like this would work beforehand.
For some reason this, bothers me more than poop. I feel so anti-woman.
That one kinda shocked me, too. It never felt anti-women to me because every time I heard someone speak about it, it was in a very reverent way. Like it would be an honor to have that happen. Strange.
I met both of them and did not get chosen for either. Thank god. I was there when another newbie domme had the giant ball guy and her reaction of awe and disgust was the funniest thing ever!! I was so glad not to get picked!!
We did! We got taught by the manager how to use various whips, floggers, crops and restraints. There were also some complicated pieces of furniture like a St Andrew's/Bondage Wheel, restraints attached to posts that had to be done in specific ways, things that were stored in the ceiling.
We would also practice on one another, which was usually pretty fun. We got along pretty well for the most part and would just chit chat while playing with a flogger. We would get pointers on technique from one another and things like that.
I agree with everyone, this is so very interesting and such a learning experience! I never even knew there was such a thing as Ruby and Roman showers.
Were you in a relationship while you had the job? If so what did your significant other think about it?
I was engaged to dh at the time. He was supportive and enjoyed the stories! He knew it was not personal to me, but is also not a jealous guy either. A lot of the girls kept it secret from their SO.
Fascinating. My mind is sort of blown that places like this exist, although I'm not sure why. I'm super impressed at both your confidence and your candor, and I love that you're sharing this. Thanks for enlightening us!
And Dorothy: /dead at "maybe I'm remembering it wrong."