So, xh goes to court today

[Bernadine]

Remember when he called the cops on me because I was at the house? I didn't post about this then, but it's public record now, so I'll post it.

I'm at the house, I walk into the office, I see xh's (pot) bowl sitting on the desk, where it usually is. I'm there for a bit, xh comes home, tries to get me to leave, I don't, he calls the cops.

Cop comes in and asks me to sit in the office. I sit down and see that dumbass didn't put the bowl away before HE called the cops to the house. The cop comes in and out of the office a few times and finally sees it sitting right out in the open. He rolls his eyes and looks at me and I just shrug and tell him it's not mine. I'm trying not to burst out laughing because really, how fucking stupid can you be. I hear xh in the kitchen admit that it's his. Cop asks me to leave, and I do.

Yada yada yada, xh now has a possession of paraphernalia charge and has to go to court this afternoon.

And in two weeks, he goes to court again for his second DUI.

He keeps asking me out on dates and really, wtf has he done since I left that's supposed to make me want to get back together?!?

[hubes]

Any possibility he could go to jail and get his ass out of the house?

[Deleted]

holy hell. i am SO FUCKING GLAD that you are divorcing him.

and i'm laughing in a snide, sarcastic way at him asking you on dates. as IF.

[cleo29]

Lord, that stinks. But I am kind of glad that he is getting his due. Does he contribute anything to the house? Because I am still confused as to why he is living there and you are not.

[cbwm1]

What a dumbass!

I'm glad you're going to (eventually) rid yourself of him!

[flex]

He's mental. Pure and simple.

[jaylea]

I laughed. What a dummy.

You are so much better off, my dear.

[Bernadine]

I actually am kind of concerned for his mental health.

He won't go to jail for the paraphernalia charge, but I think he could for the DUI.

[janiejones]

he really sounds like he needs a psychiatrist.

[peachykate]

Wow.

If he is mentally ill, I hope he gets some help.

If not, then he really just is a total and complete moron.

[broc]

How the fuck does he call he cops on you for a b & e if it's your name on the deed and you're theonly one paying on the mortgage?

[Bernadine]

May 30, 2012 10:53:18 GMT -5 puddleofgrace said:

May 30, 2012 10:50:09 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

I actually am kind of concerned for his mental health.

He won't go to jail for the paraphernalia charge, but I think he could for the DUI.

Did you ever call and talk to his family?

No- I'm really not sure if it's a good idea or if it would completely backfire on me. He's not close enough to his parents that he would really take their advice on anything- he's just as likely to do the complete opposite of what they say.

[underwaterrhymes]

LOL. What a dumbass!

What on earth makes him think you want to go on dates with him after all of the shit he's pulled?

[Vally]

second dui? that's awful, what more of a reality check does he need? jeez.

stay strong bernadine, I'm sure this can't be easy to watch someone you care(d) for make so many stupid decisions.

[flex]

I'd say he has a drinking/drug problem, and this court hearing may just be his "bottom". he needs help.

[fuckyourcouch]

what a fool! he basically called the cops on himself. he needs a wake up call.

[lemondrop]

Now I know who you are!

I'm LOLing at how stupid he is. And to think you'd go on a date with him? What an idiot!

[janiejones]

May 30, 2012 11:12:48 GMT -5 toledo said:

This pleases me.

And yes, has there ever been a satisfactory answer to the question of Why The Fuck Is He Living In The House?

Isn't it because he won't leave, and there os some crazy fucked up divorce law that means they have to be physically apart for a gaziilion unfair # of years before granting a divorce?

[Bernadine]

Yes, there's an answer, but not a satisfactory one. The house is in both of our names, therefore it belongs to both of us, and I can't make him move out, even though I'm paying for it. He refuses to move out and refuses to give me money for it. MD has a one year separation period, so I can't file until November.

I've talked to two different lawyers, they've both told me there's no way for him to get me out of the house. Also, the cops couldn't have forced me out of the house either.

[karmasabiotch]

I'm do glad that you're untangling yourself from him.

[sprky79]

I feel like we need to throw Bernadine a "YAY! I CAN FILE FOR DIVORCE!" party when the date arrives.

[mrsjuleshs]

I would be super tempted to throw out all his stuff and move back in, changing the locks if he gets put in jail. Then file a restraining order mandating he stays away from the house.

[nadasteph]

May 30, 2012 12:10:31 GMT -5 mrsjuleshs said:

I would be super tempted to throw out all his stuff and move back in, changing the locks if he gets put in jail. Then file a restraining order mandating he stays away from the house.

Yes. Have you asked your lawyer what your options are if he goes to jail?

[hubes]

Uh, yeah. I'm actually really impressed that you haven't gone in there while he's at work, thrown his shit to the curb and changed the locks. You have restraint.

[Deleted]

I second hoobs.