I think they can both be difficult. It also depends on what your job is. A low stress desk job where you get to check facebook throughout the day is not the same as a high stress physically or mentally challenging job.
I work at home. For the most part, Tuesday-Saturday, I am a stressball single parent. I find it to be overwhelming at times but I just try to motor through it and get done what I can get done. I have a routine and L has developed his own natural routine which makes things easier for me.
Post by livinreality on Jan 11, 2013 16:00:59 GMT -5
It deepens on the kid, DS2 is a much harder kid than DS1. I actually had maternity leave with DS1 and it was easier than working, I SAH with DS2 but he was the baby from hell so working would be easier...
Post by jessandandy09 on Jan 11, 2013 16:07:10 GMT -5
for me, working is much harder than maternity leave was. BUT, my husband is a sahd so when I was home on mat. leave, he waited on me and the baby hand and foot. All I had to do was nurse/play with/diaper a newborn. He did the rest.
now if you were to ask is staying at home as a sahm would probably be harder for ME than working, because then I would do everything alone and I suck at self motivation ( I need the carrot and the stick) ;D
Post by charlielove on Jan 11, 2013 16:07:14 GMT -5
For me, working PT is better/easier for my mental health then staying home FT, and I've done both. I get the chance to have a "break" from the kids when I'm at work, and I think it makes me a better and more fun mom on the days I'm at home. It's worked out perfectly for our family. I do plan on going back FT when the right opportunity comes my way, I just hope that I can put it off until Charlie is at least 3.
For me its having my job, but that's because I hate it. I would take being a sahm anyday, because that is what I feel I am meant to do. We are going to be working on our debt hardcore to make that happen.