s/o Bucket List Desires

[twotrue]

I find it interesting that a handful of people (ok, I didn't count) in the bucket list thread mentioned grandchildren because it's placing one of your (general 'you') life's desires in the hands of someone else.

I'm not saying it's right or wrong by any means. I think because so many people on this board have had to deal with parental expectations of what we should/shouldn't be (or who we should love) I'm surprised to see the assumptions that our children will have the same desire to have children that most of us have.

Does that make sense? Again, not judging, just surprised.

[ct]

I only ask 2 things of my children: Go to college, and give me grandbabies. That's not much!

really, though, statistically speaking I will have grandchildren one day (and the more kids i have the more those odds are in my favor!!), and I can't wait. I'm absolutely looking forward to being a grandmother.

[twotrue]

Jan 14, 2013 9:48:17 GMT -5 ct said:

I only ask 2 things of my children: Go to college, and give me grandbabies. That's not much!

lol!

[2brides]

LOL, CT.

I would love to have grandchildren, but I know that is the decision of the kids.

[joyseattle]

TT - I was curious about that as well. While I would love grandchildren, I know it may not happen, and with C sticking to the two kids thing I feel our odds are okay but not stellar.

[ElsaVonM]

Currently about 80% of American women have at least one child by the time they reach the end of their childbearing years. It's not unreasonable to expect/hope/plan for it IMO - the chances are good that it will happen. It would be unreasonable to be a dick about it if they choose not to, and I doubt any of us have plans in that direction.

[ct]

Jan 14, 2013 11:17:34 GMT -5 ElsaVonM said:

Currently about 80% of American women have at least one child by the time they reach the end of their childbearing years. It's not unreasonable to expect/hope/plan for it IMO - the chances are good that it will happen. It would be unreasonable to be a dick about it if they choose not to, and I doubt any of us have plans in that direction.

:Y:

[hensmum]

You'll note that I, Ms. One And Done, did not put it on my list. I know it's 50/50

CT better get some grandbabies after all her hard work as a mom of so many!!!

[twotrue]

Jan 14, 2013 14:12:25 GMT -5 hensmum said:

You'll note that I, Ms. One And Done, did not put it on my list. I know it's 50/50

CT better get some grandbabies after all her hard work as a mom of so many!!!

If I was CT's child I would have kids juat so they could be spoiles by her.

I guess I never thought of bucket list items that rely on other people. But as you can see I didnt answer the question bcause I couldnt narrow it down.

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[quinny]

I could rephrase mine and say I hope to live long enough to see my children through child baring age. That's more appropriate but saying I want to hold a grandchild is what came out.

It's impossible to look at N and knowing that this was the age I was when my mom was diagnosed with cancer. I can't imagine what she was going through. I can't imagine how fucking furious I would be with the world, especially at the end. To know there was no hope and to trust the world to take care of a 3 year old. It's unimaginable.