Neighbor is concerned about our nanny

[thedahliharpa]

I need some outside view points on this one please.

Our nanny has mentioned that one of our neighbors is always glaring at her when she takes the kids on walks. I didn't give it much thought. The lady is probably in her late 50s, is nice but a little strange. We don't know her name but she knows the kids names.

Apparently the neighbor came to the door yesterday while I was out to tell DH she is concerned that she sees the nanny "go to her car to get something" every day. We have carports behind our house and a central guest parking behind those carports. I think she is going to get her lunch because she eats lunch but but doesn't bring it in with her.

I don't know if I care. I put D in the PNP and run to our carport right outside our patio when I have to. The nanny has mentioned she eats when the girls nap and that H harasses her for the food she brings.

DH wasn't really concerned and I trust our nanny. DH is horrible at repeating conversations so this is the info I was given second hand. I don't know if it is worth mentioning to the nanny. "Hey, it isn't a huge deal but the neighbor did mention it"...I don't know. What do the probies say?

[rjamz]

Doesn't seem like a big deal to me

[dixeedeluxe]

I also don't feel like it's a big deal. But, I'm curious! Does your nanny bring up the neighbor often? If she does, mabye you can bring it up at that time. Like "yeah, that crazy broad..."

[carawestt]

I think your neighbor is just one of those overly suspicious people. I would just ask her though. Since she talks about how the neighbor looks at her weird, just say something like the neighbor said a strange thing to your H and you were just curious..

[ashleydl83]

I wouldn't be worried either.

[erniebufflo]

Seems silly to me. Is the neighbor concerned she's going outside to do a quick bump or something? Or is just walking right outside now a no no? I go hang diapers in the back yard while the girls nap all the time.

[EnchantedSoul]

Jan 14, 2013 16:40:53 GMT -5 dixeedeluxe said:

I also don't feel like it's a big deal. But, I'm curious! Does your nanny bring up the neighbor often? If she does, mabye you can bring it up at that time. Like "yeah, that crazy broad..."

This is what I would do. I feel like it would always be in the back of my mind if I didn't say something. I don't think it's a big deal though.

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[devonpow]

I love and trust our nanny completely. If this situation hapened to me, I would tell my nanny, but more as a "heads up on the crazy neighbor lady watching you". I guess I would say something like "I have no problem with you going to the car to get something as long as the kids are safely contained, but I just wanted to let you know".

[thedahliharpa]

Jan 14, 2013 16:40:53 GMT -5 dixeedeluxe said:

I also don't feel like it's a big deal. But, I'm curious! Does your nanny bring up the neighbor often? If she does, mabye you can bring it up at that time. Like "yeah, that crazy broad..."

No, she had said it once in passing. Like, "Your neighbors are nice but that old lady freaks me out because she just stares at me". Our nanny wears sort of harsh blush and her hair is
cut on an sharp angle. She's very sweet but might look like she has an attitude to a pearl clutcher I guess.

[thedahliharpa]

Jan 14, 2013 16:43:38 GMT -5 erniebufflo said:

Seems silly to me. Is the neighbor concerned she's going outside to do a quick bump or something? Or is just walking right outside now a no no? I go hang diapers in the back yard while the girls nap all the time.

Yeah I asked DH if she thought she was stealing (she isn't) or hanging out in her car/smoking (she doesn't smoke) and he said no. I guess she just wanted us to know she leaves them alone for a minute.

[gmoneymommy]

If doesn't seem like a big deal to me if you trust your nanny.

[dixeedeluxe]

I really want to know. If you ask, you better report back.

I don't want to know for safety reasons. I just wanna know!

[thedahliharpa]

Jan 14, 2013 16:44:40 GMT -5 devonpow said:

I love and trust our nanny completely. If this situation hapened to me, I would tell my nanny, but more as a "heads up on the crazy neighbor lady watching you". I guess I would say something like "I have no problem with you going to the car to get something as long as the kids are safely contained, but I just wanted to let you know".

Thanks. If I say anything I will say it in that way. "Hey we figured out why the neighbor stares at you...".

[Deleted]

I think she's just being a nosy old broad and I would definitely tell your nanny and see what she says.

[charlielove]

I think it's nice to have neighbors that "watch out" for you, I guess, but this really seems like nothing to worry about...and I'm typically a worry wart.

[thedahliharpa]

I may sit on it for a week. Her Dad's funeral is today...In the meantime we are apparently being watched, which is fine but a little strange.

[browneyedhunni85]

Jan 14, 2013 16:56:48 GMT -5 dragonflybelle said:

I think she's just being a nosy old broad and I would definitely tell your nanny and see what she says.

This. I hate nosy neighbors. Mind your own!

[laurack]

Hmm I don't see it as being an issue, but i have many a time carried her carseat in then went back out for the groceries. I mean... How else could one get groceries and child in?

I suppose if she were out there twenty minutes it might be weird...

[Deleted]

I wouldn't be worried. Maybe she leaves her lunch in the car so H doesn't see it and ask for some. I would also mention it but like others said more as "hey, the crazy lady told me this.. Do you just get your lunch out?" Or something like that..

[eav2c]

I wouldn't think twice. I bet the neighbor is exaggerating.

[spaghetticat]

I think it's a teensy bit odd that she doesn't just leave her lunch n the house, but I wouldn't give it a second thought. It does bother me that your neighbor is watching her every day, potentially for long periods of time. I like DevonPow's way of wording it, once things are a little less stressful.

[thedahliharpa]

Jan 14, 2013 19:07:05 GMT -5 ladybug said:

I wouldn't be worried. Maybe she leaves her lunch in the car so H doesn't see it and ask for some. I would also mention it but like others said more as "hey, the crazy lady told me this.. Do you just get your lunch out?" Or something like that..

Yeah I think H ate all of her dried fruit once, ha! H kind of gives her a hard time about 50% of the time. She really pushes her limits w/ the nanny. I think because H only sees her once a week, she's w/ D twice a week, that the novelty factor is still there.

[Regina Philange]

Did she say how long she was in the car for? Or just that she goes to the car? I don't see it as a big deal either. Unless she stays in the car for an extended period of time.

[mamasaurus]

Tell your neighbors to roll their eyes right back into their heads.

[Deleted]

Yep, I would tell the neighbour to MHOB. I totally get H wanting her dried fruit though, dried fruit is the bomb