Fucking Face.book

[joyseattle]

I did the stupidest, most upsetting face.book faux pas tonight. As background, I have two facebook profiles (yes against TOS), one for my general life and one for my profession/business life. It means posting and maintaining two, but it keeps things very delineated for the most part.

On my business profile I'm a member of a number of groups, some public, some private and one secret. I have been a member of a group about vegan pregnancy for about 6-9 months. It's not very active and I generally don't even think about it but as I approach the second tri I've been thinking about calcium more and thought it could be a resource. Tonight I posted something along the lines of "I'm 10 weeks and would love suggestions about calcium."

I totally didn't think it through, thought it was a private group and never thought it would share my post on my friends news feeds. Within 10 minutes I had a text from a friend asking if I was pregnant and then when I immediately went back on to check I got 4 messages from friends online alerting me to the status and saying congrats. I panicked and then did damage control (deleted the post, left the group, unfriended the few people that are friends with both profiles and changed my settings to that no one can post to my wall on either profile). I had to field questions and thank yous with the 5 people that definitely saw it (all of who were super sweet and said they'd keep it to themselves until I can intentionally share our news publicly). But, I'm not sure how many other people may have caught it before I removed it.

My biggest concern is that family (all my sibs on fb) would get wind before we can tell them on our big road trip this week and next. Once I finished my frantic attempt to fix something online, I got super emotional and then had to work really hard to calm down and let it go. C dislikes facebook and it was sweet enough not to come right out and say I told you so, most likely because she could see how much I was already beating myself up.

Lesson learned never to assume that something is private or that anything you post (anywhere, including here for that matter) isn't capable of being shared. Oh, well. Moving on.

[hensmum]

Oh no! I don't understand why group posts go in your news feed anyway - you are posting to a specific group! Not the world!

I once posted a question to a local moms group about preschool rec's for Hen, only to get a msg from my mom (who has a home daycare), asking "you're sending Henry to school???" Oops. Group not private.

It sounds like you noticed it quickly, and hopefully no one else saw.

Sorry that this happened. Stupid FB!!

[twotrue]

That sucks, I'm sorry. With groups it is all about how the admin set it up. I sometimes check my groups to make sure the admin hasn't changed the settings from private to public or whatnot. Unless someone is on FB all day it is really easy to miss even pu purposeful announ announcements so hopefully your family missed it.

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[ct]

stupid facebook!!! i'm sorry that happened joy