Compliment or not?

[muppetinma]

"You look better than you do most mornings." Compliment or not?

DH claims it needs some context, so for his sake, here you go. Since he's in California, he tries to video chat with Andrew every morning. Because of the time difference, it's usually right before Andrew's first nap. He's not very snuggly, especially when he's tired, so it's sometimes a bit difficult to get him to stay in front of the computer. Andrew climbed off my lap and went to go play, so I told DH I was going to close the chat window because I was not much fun to look at.

I haven't brushed my hair or teeth. I'm wearing a ratty Dropkick Murphys t-shirt and boxers. Because of issues in my personal life, I've been sleeping like shit all week and look like it, for sure.

So he says "You look better than you do most mornings." Gee, thanks. I know what he meant, and he claims that he actually thought I looked cute this morning. I'm not actually mad and he knows that. It's more of a joking argument. So of course, he's asking his friends for their opinions on the situation and I'm asking mine.

So would you be pissed at that?

[browneyedhunni85]

Not! I would take it as, "You look like crap most mornings".

[claralou]

with the constant lack of sleep in this house as well, I'd take it as a compliment. In any other context though, it would probably piss me off:)

[Regina Philange]

Nah, i wouldnt be mad at all.

[raynes]

It's a guy thing. I probably would say "well gee thanks" but know where it was coming from.

H is famous for saying "you look good to me". What? I look like crap to everyone else?

[muppetinma]

We tend to have a lot of the "You interpreted it wrong!" "You said it wrong!" disagreements. I'm trying to use this as a teaching example. Neither one of us is necessarily wrong. However, if I interpret these types of things wrong, my underwear is staying around my waist instead of my ankles. When I put it into that context, he starts to think before he speaks. . . .

[christidee]

Enh. I think it is a two sided compliment. Side one = you look good. Side two = you don't look so good most mornings. I think having babies ages us instantly. I have accepted my perma bags.

[mumegs]

Jan 15, 2013 10:18:59 GMT -5 browneyedhunni85 said:

Not! I would take it as, "You look like crap most mornings".

This! Although he probably didn't mean it that way, that's where my mind would go.

[Deleted]

I wouldn't be "mad" but ya, I would heckle him big time. Guys just don't get the difference between just saying "You look cute!" and you look good TODAY. We women always interpret that as we don't look good most days.