CIO question.

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For those that have successfully used CIO- how did you time it? If the crying was on and off. Did you just do 5,10,15 minutes from the last check in or 5 min of continuous crying. Then stop and restart if they stopped crying? Does this make any sense?

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We just did it a couple days ago for DS2's standing in the crib fiasco. We just said night-night and see you in the morning. He woke up a few times (stood there, no doubt) and protested for 5-10 mins at most. We didn't go in. Obviously if he would have been screaming his guts out we would have gone in to see what was wrong.

I think it's a case-by-case thing, how you feel comfortable. And yes, continuous crying is what Ferber says. If it's stop & start then you wait, as they may be putting themselves down at that point. Only count minutes when they go continuously.

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Haha ya as I was writing that it was after my first (5 min) check and she was crying on and off but she stopped after a few minutes and is asleep! Go Laney!!

How is he doing with standing now? Did he get it all figured out?

[carawestt]

Yes, what Star said. If Lincoln stopped crying but then started up again, I would only go in if he got really worked up beyond just a fussy whiny cry. That's what we did for bedtime. I'm no help for MOTN because I don't let him CIO then. Since he usually only wakes up twice, I just nurse him.

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Well done Laney!! That's awesome. How is her teeth situation?

I would also say, that at this point, 8-9 months most babies get MORE riled up if you go in. Mine certainly do.

Yeah, he's stopped the standing debacle finally. The 2nd night he didn't cry at all, so without a video monitor, I'm assuming he's over the standing..? DS1 is still in our room because he feels like he's camping in there, but we will move him back in with DS2 tonight. I hope the coast is clear now.

[carawestt]

Jan 16, 2013 0:04:40 GMT -5 ladybug said:

Haha ya as I was writing that it was after my first (5 min) check and she was crying on and off but she stopped after a few minutes and is asleep! Go Laney!!

How is he doing with standing now? Did he get it all figured out?

Good job, D! Glad she went down easy for you

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Jan 16, 2013 0:08:14 GMT -5 carawestt said:

Jan 16, 2013 0:04:40 GMT -5 ladybug said:

Haha ya as I was writing that it was after my first (5 min) check and she was crying on and off but she stopped after a few minutes and is asleep! Go Laney!!

How is he doing with standing now? Did he get it all figured out?

Good job, D! Glad she went down easy for you

I know- I'm actually quite surprised. I'm not planning on doing MOTN, at least not right now. I'm still a little sick and have work tomorrow but I wanted her to get back to putting herself to sleep, hopefully over time it will help when she stirs in the MOTN.

What time does L usually wake to nurse? I don't think I knew he was up twice a night still.

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Jan 16, 2013 0:07:26 GMT -5 @starbound said:

Well done Laney!! That's awesome. How is her teeth situation?

I would also say, that at this point, 8-9 months most babies get MORE riled up if you go in. Mine certainly do.

Yeah, he's stopped the standing debacle finally. The 2nd night he didn't cry at all, so without a video monitor, I'm assuming he's over the standing..? DS1 is still in our room because he feels like he's camping in there, but we will move him back in with DS2 tonight. I hope the coast is clear now.

Glad he figured it out!

I'm sure DS1 is totally loving being in your room! Hopefully he doesn't have too hard of a time going back in his bed

Her teeth are funny! She only has 3 on the bottom and no sign of the fourth. She's had those 3 for weeks now so who knows when it will make its appearance!

[carawestt]

Jan 16, 2013 0:18:38 GMT -5 ladybug said:

Jan 16, 2013 0:08:14 GMT -5 carawestt said:

Good job, D! Glad she went down easy for you

I know- I'm actually quite surprised. I'm not planning on doing MOTN, at least not right now. I'm still a little sick and have work tomorrow but I wanted her to get back to putting herself to sleep, hopefully over time it will help when she stirs in the MOTN.

What time does L usually wake to nurse? I don't think I knew he was up twice a night still.

I don't think I'll ever be able to do MOTN, he's so used to nursing when he wakes that he freaks if we try to change things up on him.

Ha yeah! He STTN that one time and then he was back to waking up a few times a night. He's in bed between 7 and 8, then he wakes to nurse at around 11 and 3. And then sometimes he wakes at 6 while Jake is getting ready for work.

[christidee]

We did continuous crying.

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Honestly I'd be okay with 11 and 3.

She woke after 30 minutes. Let her cry with one check in and she was asleep against within less than 10 min.

I just don't understand why she can't sleep longer than 30-90 minutes at a time!!!

[lauranicole91]

We do it based on the kinds of crying. If she is doing her "crying so hard she is coughing" kind of cries, if she doesn't settle by 5 minutes we go back in. If it's whiney intermittent cries we go in after 10-15mins. If they are muffled cries(aka she is laying down) we don't go in at all. She usually settles at about 7mins.

[carawestt]

Jan 16, 2013 0:40:26 GMT -5 ladybug said:

Honestly I'd be okay with 11 and 3.

She woke after 30 minutes. Let her cry with one check in and she was asleep against within less than 10 min.

I just don't understand why she can't sleep longer than 30-90 minutes at a time!!!

It's not like that every night if that makes you feel any better! He has weird nights when he wakes up every 2-3 hours. I wish I knew what caused it!

Like last night he was in bed at 7 and woke at 9:30, 12:30, 4 and up for the day at 8:30. Every night is a guessing game!

[laurack]

If the crying is on off like that, no we don't go in. We actually did CIO again for the first time in a while, she had started to wake very regularly just wanting a snuggle and a back patting, I mean, like every half an hour for periods of time. She had an elevated temp over the weekend so I just succumbed to her demands. But then she was fine again but still doing it.

Monday night, 9pm, I let her cry and didn't go in there. I'm sure she was standing up. It was an on off cry, in bursts. Screeeech/I'm dying cry, moan, silence, screech, moan, silence. The silences lasting slightly longer each time. After 20 minutes, silence. She didn't wake until 330! then I fed her.

Last night, she didn't wake at all until 545am! this is great in our house.

[erniebufflo]

I've set a timer exactly once. For 20 minutes.

I basically just listen. If it's a fussing cry, there is no time limit, really, it's just until they fall asleep or until I go insane. If they start doing the HELP ME HELP ME OMG cry, I go in immediately. Usually, it's 10 minutes of fussing or less, and off to dreamland. (This all presupposes that I know they are fed, dry, and sleepy, ie: have been yawning, rubbing eyes, starting to doze)