How would you handle this hosting sitch?

[Susie]

This weekend my parents, my brother, and his GF are all visiting us.

My brother is 26, and has been with his GF for about 9 months.  They don't make a secret of the fact that she stays over at his place with some frequency.  They are talking about moving in together when his lease is up (soon).

My parents are super conservative about the whole cohabitation thing.  It was really, really important to them that Calvin and I not before we were married (at least not that they had to know about).  They know brother and GF plan to do this, and are kind of ... eh, he's an adult ... but still have them sleep in separate rooms when they're under my parents' roof.  It's very much an "I can't see it, la la la..."

If it was just brother & gf coming, no biggie.  I get it.  But my parents will be here too, and I don't want it to be weird for anybody.  My house is the odd "gray area" - they sleep separately at mom & dad's, and she goes home when mom & dad visit him.  But at my house, we can't just sweep it under the rug!

I have 2 guest rooms:  My "real" guest room with a real bed, which my parents get, and the "spare" guest room which has an air bed for 2.  That has always been brother's room when he visits.  I also have a living room couch that folds out to a bed, but no 3rd guest room.

Brother & gf will be here a night sooner than mom & dad, so they can share the spare room the first night.  But after that - Leave it up to him what to do the next night?  Not say anything and just treat everybody like the coupled up adults they are?

This is the first time they've all visited our house at the same time, so the first time we've had to figure this out.

[thewop]

Why not ask your brother how he wants to handle it before hand? "Hey brother, how do you want to handle the sleeping arrangments? I know mom and dad are weird about it, so let me know."

[minniebee]

Jan 17, 2013 10:23:22 GMT -5 thewop said:

Why not ask your brother how he wants to handle it before hand? "Hey brother, how do you want to handle the sleeping arrangments? I know mom and dad are weird about it, so let me know."

I would do this. Your brother knows what accommodations are available at your house, let him decide how to use them.

[Susie]

Jan 17, 2013 10:23:22 GMT -5 thewop said:

Why not ask your brother how he wants to handle it before hand? "Hey brother, how do you want to handle the sleeping arrangments? I know mom and dad are weird about it, so let me know."

That's what I meant by leaving it up to him after the 1st night.  I know they'd rather stay together the first night.

Mom & dad won't arrive until dinner time the next day so we have plenty of time to discuss and set up another sleeping area if desired on Sat. if he wants that.

[thewop]

Sounds like you have it figured out then. They stay together the first night, then you can discuss how he wants to handle it before mom and dad arrive.

[amblor]

I agree; I'd just let your brother take the lead. I would probably say something to him the first night like "you know how mom and dad are what do you want to do about sleeping arrangements tomorrow?" Just so you're prepared one way or another. I'd want to be prepared for parents' reactions if he decides to just stay together in the spare room.

[sjh722]

Jan 17, 2013 10:38:05 GMT -5 amblor said:

I agree; I'd just let your brother take the lead. I would probably say something to him the first night like "you know how mom and dad are what do you want to do about sleeping arrangements tomorrow?" Just so you're prepared one way or another. I'd want to be prepared for parents' reactions if he decides to just stay together in the spare room.

Ditto.