He's trying to drive me crazy

[louietunes]

He may succeed.

As I said yesterday, D and I had a serious discussion about the possibility of him transferring to Dallas. It was an exciting idea since we're both feeling very stagnant and a little trapped here and want a little excitement in our lives. We decided to think about it more and come back to the discussion this weekend.

I randomly got a text yesterday that said "I love you and if you feel the need to start looking for a job somewhere other than KC feel free. This week is not being good to me and I don't know how much longer I want to deal with the stress."

I hate that his job sucks right now, and I wish I could make it better, but seeing as how we were talking about moving based on his job, I'm now confused. We weren't going to move just to move, we were going to seek out an opportunity that had been presented to him. Now he wants a new job, but thinks I still want to move? I was better with the idea when we had a place and specific reason to move. I don't know where to go! I don't even know where I would start looking, considering I want to change fields entirely with my next job. This was his idea. Ugh.

When he got home last night, after he vented about his day, I asked him which of the following three options appealed the most to him: He finds a new job in KC; We find a new city and we both find new jobs; He talks to his boss and tries to improve the job he currently has.

His answer (of course): I don't know.

I hate being up in the air about things. I like decisions and plans and goals.

I'm going to be extra annoyed if next week is a good one and he suddenly feels like everything is hunky dory again.

End Vent. Thanks to everyone who made it this far.

[MissusTexas]

I'm just going to give you a hug and whisper "Dallas" in your ear while I do it.

But seriously, I hate that you are both so unhappy, and I just hope that whatever you decide makes you both feel better.

[OrangePixyStix]

Ugh, sorry he's being difficult.

We have a lot of job opps here in Houston, just sayin'.

I hope he comes around to making a decision either way so you can move forward with future planning.

[louietunes]

May 31, 2012 10:16:57 GMT -5 MissusTexas said:

I'm just going to give you a hug and whisper "Dallas" in your ear while I do it.

But seriously, I hate that you are both so unhappy, and I just hope that whatever you decide makes you both feel better.

At least it's our jobs and some of our friends, and we're not unhappy with each other. That would suck so much more. I am thankful that, no matter what happens or is decided, we're still in this together. I'm just annoyed and impatient.

[MissusTexas]

May 31, 2012 10:20:54 GMT -5 louietunes said:

At least it's our jobs and some of our friends, and we're not unhappy with each other. That would suck so much more. I am thankful that, no matter what happens or is decided, we're still in this together. I'm just annoyed and impatient.

Very true! If you're going to be unhappy, at least you're unhappy and holding hands!

[Bridey]

Good Luck with your decision.

[lizo11]

May 31, 2012 10:21:55 GMT -5 MissusTexas said:

May 31, 2012 10:20:54 GMT -5 louietunes said:

At least it's our jobs and some of our friends, and we're not unhappy with each other. That would suck so much more. I am thankful that, no matter what happens or is decided, we're still in this together. I'm just annoyed and impatient.

Very true! If you're going to be unhappy, at least you're unhappy and holding hands!

This! I hope you guys find an opportunity for you that works for you both, and gives you something to plan/work towards!

[knavy]

Why not just look for jobs in areas you would want to live? It's not like you HAVE to move just because you look. Sometimes its fun just to see what else is available.

[alabasterangel]

I hate the 'I don't know" response.

[louietunes]

May 31, 2012 10:24:43 GMT -5 knavy said:

Why not just look for jobs in areas you would want to live? It's not like you HAVE to move just because you look. Sometimes its fun just to see what else is available.

I have been, but it's a big country, and I'm kind of lost on where to start. Also, I tend to get my hopes up really easily, and I don't want to get disappointed.

[sitnspin]

It is good that you are sort of being the "voice of reason" because in stressful times like this, someone has to be.

((hugs))

[MyName]

Oh Slou, I just want to hug you and then get drunk with you. lol

MH is the same damn way. When he first started the job he has now, he was up my ass to move out of NYC because he hated it. Then he fixed the hotel and everything's good and he has to stay in NYC to make the same money. Then just last night I was bitching about my (lack of) raise here at my company and said, "If they don't give it to me on Monday, I'm going to give my notice and either start interviewing here or move to CT to take over [my dad's company]". He blurts out "I'll go with you. Let's just move. I'm sick of the city and I'll do whatever I need to do to change jobs up there." Ummm...okay. Just now he texted me that I shouldn't give them a chance and we should just leave. I'm not *that* ready to leave! lol

I am SURE it will be a different story when he gets home too (he's in Seattle for a trade show right now).

[louietunes]

May 31, 2012 10:34:41 GMT -5 MyName said:

Oh Slou, I just want to hug you and then get drunk with you. lol

MH is the same damn way. When he first started the job he has now, he was up my ass to move out of NYC because he hated it. Then he fixed the hotel and everything's good and he has to stay in NYC to make the same money. Then just last night I was bitching about my (lack of) raise here at my company and said, "If they don't give it to me on Monday, I'm going to give my notice and either start interviewing here or move to CT to take over [my dad's company]". He blurts out "I'll go with you. Let's just move. I'm sick of the city and I'll do whatever I need to do to change jobs up there." Ummm...okay. Just now he texted me that I shouldn't give them a chance and we should just leave. I'm not *that* ready to leave! lol

I am SURE it will be a different story when he gets home too (he's in Seattle for a trade show right now).

Our lives (and husbands) seem to be on some strange parallel right now, MN. Let's meet in Indianapolis without them and get wasted. I bet we'd have our whole lives planned out by the end of the weekend, then we could just tell what was going to happen.

[MyName]

May 31, 2012 11:04:19 GMT -5 louietunes said:

May 31, 2012 10:34:41 GMT -5 MyName said:

Oh Slou, I just want to hug you and then get drunk with you. lol

MH is the same damn way. When he first started the job he has now, he was up my ass to move out of NYC because he hated it. Then he fixed the hotel and everything's good and he has to stay in NYC to make the same money. Then just last night I was bitching about my (lack of) raise here at my company and said, "If they don't give it to me on Monday, I'm going to give my notice and either start interviewing here or move to CT to take over [my dad's company]". He blurts out "I'll go with you. Let's just move. I'm sick of the city and I'll do whatever I need to do to change jobs up there." Ummm...okay. Just now he texted me that I shouldn't give them a chance and we should just leave. I'm not *that* ready to leave! lol

I am SURE it will be a different story when he gets home too (he's in Seattle for a trade show right now).

Our lives (and husbands) seem to be on some strange parallel right now, MN. Let's meet in Indianapolis without them and get wasted. I bet we'd have our whole lives planned out by the end of the weekend, then we could just tell what was going to happen.

I'm all for that plan!!

[ILikeSloths]

Sorry he's being indecisive.

I like knavy's idea of just looking around in areas you'd like to live, but I know that must be overwhelming with all the options. Maybe next week he'll be a little more upbeat and able to discuss it more.

[blondemoment123]

I also like KNavy's idea of just looking. It's exciting to see what's out there.