My Husband does what SueSue's Husband does. And sometimes I'm the one who orders it all, but in general, it is usually all him. He knows what I like/we'll discuss it before hand so it's just easier to order all at once.
My UO is that St.Petes sig picture makes me uncomfortable a wee bit. I know you cannot see anything, but every time I see it I'm still all "woah, half naked child". And it brings up so many questions, why isn't he wearing pants? Why isn't he wearing underwear? Is it at a beach? Still, where did his pants go?! I DO like St.Pete though, it's just the sig picture takes me by surprise every time.
We were at the beach, he ran into the waves and got his diaper and pants soggy so we took them off. I didn't know my moms bf was taking pics and he got that one. I was in the moment and not worried about pee, lol.
That makes it better. I was imagining you just letting your son run around without anything on and then lifting him up and such. I was sort of worried what you would have done if he pee'd on you plus I didn't know how old he is and if it was normal to let him run around without anything on. lol.
I just realized when we go out to eat, I'm usually the I've who orders. Especially in drive thrus. H has a Latin accent that people who aren't used to it can't understand him. He's kind of self conscious about it.
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
I just realized when we go out to eat, I'm usually the I've who orders. Especially in drive thrus. H has a Latin accent that people who aren't used to it can't understand him. He's kind of self conscious about it.
I have a quiet voice so H does all the ordering at drive thrus and for to-go orders. Its terrible. I speak so quietly on the phone.
When we're out to eat though, I generally order an appetizer for us and we each order our own food unless the waiter/ess comes back when one of us is in the bathroom
I just realized when we go out to eat, I'm usually the I've who orders. Especially in drive thrus. H has a Latin accent that people who aren't used to it can't understand him. He's kind of self conscious about it.
I have a quiet voice so H does all the ordering at drive thrus and for to-go orders. Its terrible. I speak so quietly on the phone.
When we're out to eat though, I generally order an appetizer for us and we each order our own food unless the waiter/ess comes back when one of us is in the bathroom
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
I agree. My original Grandpa committed suicide via gun when I was 3 on his birthday. My uncle found him. It would've been better for everyone if it could've been done quietly with more dignity, less violence, and perhaps less shock for the family.
DH often orders for me as well. We discuss what we both want ahead of time, and he often tells the waiter what I want. It is partly a language thing: he speaks more and better Mandarin than I do, but it is also just nice to have him do something for me. And if there is a further question H will look to me and I'll tell him yes or no or whatever and he will reaffirm that to the waiter. Also, many of the meals we eat out here are family style, so we are ordering dishes for the whole table and I think it makes it easier - only one person for the waiter to communicate with, nothing gets duplicated, etc.
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
DH often orders for me as well. We discuss what we both want ahead of time, and he often tells the waiter what I want. It is partly a language thing: he speaks more and better Mandarin than I do, but it is also just nice to have him do something for me. And if there is a further question H will look to me and I'll tell him yes or no or whatever and he will reaffirm that to the waiter. Also, many of the meals we eat out here are family style, so we are ordering dishes for the whole table and I think it makes it easier - only one person for the waiter to communicate with, nothing gets duplicated, etc.
Oh, come on.
This is not at all comparable to the Sue Sue situation.
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
My H orders for us both in nice restaurants. I don't get the big deal, and I do get that it's nice. It's just a nice gesture. If you don't like it/think it's weird, then don't have your SO order for you! I don't get the big deal over it.
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
Here goes my first UO. I shouldn't be quite this nervous. Right? RIGHT?
It amazes me that so many women think it is sweet or repectful when a man asks a woman's parents for permission / blessing to marry. Especially if the woman doesn't know that the proposal is coming.
It amazes me that such a clearly paternalistic tradition is still so popular. Plus, it seems so counter to the prevailing attitude on here that you & your H are the most important family unit. Not ILs.
Also, for those who do like the tradition, what would do if your parents said no? Not marry the guy?If you still would, what purpose does the asking serve?
If my Dad had said that he would not give his blessing for me to get married, I probably would have had major reservations about doing so. Not because I have to honor my father's wishes, but because my father only has my best interest at heart.
Not everyone feels the same way about this tradition (obviously I am on the other side) and that's fine.
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
“Life is not orderly. No matter how we try to make it so, right in the middle of it lose a leg, fall in love, drop a jar of applesauce.” - Natalie Goldberg
Here goes my first UO. I shouldn't be quite this nervous. Right? RIGHT?
It amazes me that so many women think it is sweet or repectful when a man asks a woman's parents for permission / blessing to marry. Especially if the woman doesn't know that the proposal is coming.
It amazes me that such a clearly paternalistic tradition is still so popular. Plus, it seems so counter to the prevailing attitude on here that you & your H are the most important family unit. Not ILs.
Also, for those who do like the tradition, what would do if your parents said no? Not marry the guy?If you still would, what purpose does the asking serve?
If my Dad had said that he would not give his blessing for me to get married, I probably would have had major reservations about doing so. Not because I have to honor my father's wishes, but because my father only has my best interest at heart.
Not everyone feels the same way about this tradition (obviously I am on the other side) and that's fine.
Agreed. DH asked my parents. I didn't really have an opinion about it, but I thought it was a sign of goodwill to my parents.
Also, sometimes DH orders for me, and if I don't like the food, he sends it back for me. On the first part, we usually talk about what we're going to order, so he just orders mine, too, sometimes if he still has the waiter's attention. If the waiter looks to me first, I just order. I really don't care. BUT on the sending food back thing, I'm too nervous to complain, so DH does it for me. I'm a pansy, and people sometimes weird me out.
Sue Sue: you're not a 95 year old woman who has never traveled out of her home state. You're in your early 50s. You have the internet. You're an attorney.
I do not get having your husband order your food and calling Asian people Orientals. It's like you're stuck in a bizarre time warp.
Let's not forget, "I wonder what it's like to have sex with an Indian man..." *-)
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
Sue Sue: you're not a 95 year old woman who has never traveled out of her home state. You're in your early 50s. You have the internet. You're an attorney.
I do not get having your husband order your food and calling Asian people Orientals. It's like you're stuck in a bizarre time warp.
Let's not forget, "I wonder what it's like to have sex with an Indian man..." *-)
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
I have all the books I could need, and what more could I need than books? I shall only engage in commerce if books are the coin. -- Catherynne M. Valente
You don't see that as objectifying a particular culture? Indian people are people. Sex with one isn't a universal experience anymore than sex with our husbands would be because they're both American.
It falls into the same category as using "Orientals" for me.
So now we can't wonder what it would be like to have sex with men of other cultures? WHAT IS THIS WORLD COMING TO?
Anybody can wonder what sex is like with anybody in the world.
But to wonder what sex is like with an entire group of people? As if one experience with one person from that group could be a representative example of that whole group?
Come on.
Have you guys never banged anyone other than white people? It's really no different.