Update on girls

[mk]

They're legal risk, still in foster care, but parents aren't doing well and foster parents won't adopt. 20 months and 12 months. I know more but don't want to say here.  We found out nothing that deters us!  So now we get approved for 3 kids... Holy mother. I already have 2 cribs in my online shopping cart! FCM said the foster parents have some friends that would want to adopt them, but aren't licensed foster parents yet, so she doesn't know how that will all pan out.  So... yeah, this is totally not for sure, but we're definitely going to pursue it.  When we get back from our vacation to Florida. :-D

[mk]

Strike that, their ages almost 2 and almost 3. Still fine

[hensmum]

Wow!!

[twotrue]

2 and almost 3 - won't you be getting them at a fun time

[hensmum]

LOL twotrue. That is surely going to be a big challenge. But you can do it mk!!!

[quinny]

Wow! Fingers crossed! I can't wait for more info! How long will it take you to be licensed for 3?

At Ns birthday party I was talking to my cousin who adopted her 2 small kids (2 and 4 both adopted at birth) and asked them of they were planning on adopting more and they said yes but not for a while. Her husband said he wasn't a fan of the newborn stage and hopefully they'd adopt a little older. They also said that, from what they've read, it's really important not to adopt out of birth order so waiting will give them a bigger age range to work with.

MK, you LO is the same age as N, right? I can't imagine it would be a big deal at this age but to all you adoptive parents, is this something you've read about and is it as important as they stressed? I thought it was pretty interesting and made a good deal of sense.

[twomoms2twins]

exciting - challenging perhaps but you can do it. WOAH - Never heard about the NOT ADOPT out of Birth order but i guess it can make sense. Lots of people are hellbent on the birth order thing. I know with our twins we dont do older younger or big sister little sister (not sure why tho i will have to think about it ?) They are only 1 second apart.

[eratmama]

So exciting!!!!! I can't wait to hear more about them!

Ditto kershnic on the state insurance. Ours is called hirsp and I paid into it for awhile before I could be on l's plan, (health insurance risk sharing plan - group ins through the state)

As far as birth order, from what I have read some people are huge believers in maintaining birth order, others not. With kids that young, I tend to think it is less of an issue. And there are so many blended families now,

Our kids are in their. "Birth order " but haven't lived together in years, so especially carrot, is going from living as an "only" to a middle. Poor kid

For us, it is hard not to imagine pumpkin always feeling like my first , and being more protective of him.

[kershnic]

How exciting, M!! In some ways it's probably better that they're a little older, because virtual twinning adds a whole new dimension to also changing the birth order. Of course people's viewpoints will be all over the map, but I'm inclined to say birth order doesn't matter quite as much at this young age - as long as neither of the girls has any behavioral history that would make you concerned for S's safety.

I hope it works out for you, but if it doesn't there will be another child or chilren out there who will be right for your family. And more immediately, have fun in Florida!

[mk]

Jan 22, 2013 14:00:14 GMT -5 quinny said:

baby S is younger than Noah. He's 8.5 months right now, so I don't think it would be much of an issue in our case. I do agree with that philosophy, though!

From Mandy's phone

[mk]

thanks Kershnic! I agree.

From Mandy's phone

[quinny]

Of course! I see the monthly pictures on FB.. Sorry I was thinking of pumpkin!

[mk]

Quinny- all we need to do to Getty licensed for three is but another bed and our social worker will update our file. No biggie (because we have the bedroom space).

From Mandy's phone