The best $ I ever spent.

[Pom]

$75 to send FIL home first thing tomorrow.  (I also had to burn a $75 travel voucher).  Thank you, Delta take him away.

After I tried to talk to him very calmly this morning about better relations with him and H, he told me that now his foot is all swollen this afternoon because I "yelled at him" and I stress him out.

It has nothing to do with the fact that he has gout, doesn't take his gout medicine, has been eating peanuts every time I see him and been sitting around pouting since he got here.

Whatever.  I make him unhappy, he should leave.  Because I am so done. 

[takeonyou]

When was he supposed to leave? How is H feeling about all this?

I am so glad he is leaving for your sake.

[bronxgirl]

Good for you. You're freeeee!!! BTW, I think you handled the situation quite gracefully. After he leaves go get a massage or something.

[Pom]

Jan 22, 2013 17:52:46 GMT -5 takeonyou said:

When was he supposed to leave? How is H feeling about all this?

I am so glad he is leaving for your sake.

He was supposed to be here until Monday 1/28.  I only made it 5 days, but it was 5 days too long.

H told me that he is worried about me and to change the ticket whatever the cost.
I was happy it was so cheap.

[Deleted]

I'm glad he's leaving.

I would really look in to whether your FIL is suffering from some sort of illness. My great Aunt, who is in her 80s, started suffering from dementia and depression earlier this year. She changed into a completely different person and was incredibly unpleasant to be around. She has been through a lot (including being placed in psychiatric care for a little while) but she is SO much better now.

[Pom]

Jan 22, 2013 18:02:55 GMT -5 cuadrado said:

I'm glad he's leaving.

I would really look in to whether your FIL is suffering from some sort of illness. My great Aunt, who is in her 80s, started suffering from dementia and depression earlier this year. She changed into a completely different person and was incredibly unpleasant to be around. She has been through a lot (including being placed in psychiatric care for a little while) but she is SO much better now.

Thanks, we were talking about dementia this afternoon.  H and FIL's doctor have been in touch and will continue to monitor the situation.

If he hadn't been such an asshole most of his life, we would be more concerned.  Still, if he needs help, H will make certain he gets it.

[audette]

Money well spent! (and yay that it was so inexpensive to change the ticket!)

[Deleted]

It is like Christmas all over again. 12 hours to freedom.

[tripleshot]

I'm glad he's leaving. You're a saint.

[Pom]

Thanks for all the support. I seriously feel like a weight has been lifted off me. Mr. Pom is still not home, I only went out to the kitchen set his dinner on the table and clean-up the mess when he was done. I couldn't sit through dinner with him. He makes me loose my appetite.

[Deleted]

Seriously - best $75 ever.

[IrishBelle]

That's great news. Enjoy having your house to yourself again.

[Deleted]

OMG. This is insane. I can't imagine being alone in my home with someone like that. Good call on sending him home early. I really feel for you. And think you should ask the H to hire you a housecleaner this week to clean up the disgusting mess while you're off getting a mani, pedi, massage, BMW, Hope diamond, etc.

[aspentosh]

I can't believe you lasted 5 days. Drink up indeed!

[Deleted]

I'm so glad you changed the ticket and sent him home, and that's a great use of the travel voucher and $75. Good for you, I'm glad you're going to have a chance to clean up and have FIVE DAYS without him when he was "supposed" to be visiting (not to mention no visits ever again).

I think you are a saint.

[Pom]

You know, I still feel a little bad and I know H does too. But he is so toxic, that all we can say is we tried. Maybe this stomach ache I have for had for days, will fade away.

[dexteroni]

I'm glad he's gone, and I get what you mean about still feeling bad even though you did absolutely nothing wrong. That's part of what makes toxic people so hard to deal with; no matter you deal with them, you still come out of it feeling yucky. Agree with everyone else that you deserve a spa day, house cleaner, whatever you want, for dealing with this. I hope you feel better soon!

[chessie]

Glad he is leaving!! I don't know how you stood in that house for that long, I would of found reasons not to come home if he was there. Either that or fedexed him home in a box.

[mbcdefg]

Jan 23, 2013 8:08:52 GMT -5 Pom said:

You know, I still feel a little bad and I know H does too. But he is so toxic, that all we can say is we tried. Maybe this stomach ache I have for had for days, will fade away.

HE clearly doesn't feel bad about his behavior, so don't beat yourself up. You tried to be kind to him and he blew it.

Good call on sending him home early. $75 is a small price to pay for your sanity and comfort.

[protozoa]

Sounds like a bargain :drink: